I tried to quit smoking at the beginning of this year. I only last 3 days. Kinda hard to quit since I am used to smoking after I drink a cup of coffee. And I can't quit drinking coffee because I happen to work 12 hours a day!!!

You are right about that experience is the key to understanding the nature of "trust." Trials and errors I suppose.

I learned my lesson when I was 16. I thought she was the world for me, and that absolute trust in her in fact later turn out to be the most unpleasant feeling I've had ever experienced. So emotional trauma can make some people (not all) to go on seeking new ways of not repeating the same mistake twice. Of course that never work all the time because new ways of seeking out a new partner can in fact be another set of future failures on having your trust being broken again.

That is why I feel that dating is something analogous to the game of chess. That is one must constantly keep precise attention of the other gamer's moves all across the board without distracting yourself by what I call infatuation.

Seriously:

Turnoffs are things where the woman place many certain rules on how to treat her, or thousands of specific preferences that she doesn't like in a partner that most people tend to overlook. Strange thing that some women can be more anal than most dorks I've had ever met.

The first post was a bait. I wanna see how you react. And I must say that you reacted quite well!

Don't apologize. You did nothing wrong. :)

You were married?! Very funny. I like you dude. :)

Again, I think you have failed in understanding on how to be skeptical. To be a skeptical oriented person, one must doubt in the sake of doubting; for that when the moment of truth arrives, then one must go on giving the person the benefit of the doubt. To me, having this disposition is the necessary way to keep your heart at distance before you actualize the feeling of complete submission and surrender to the faith of that person who you now later believe is being honest to you.

Nice decorum. ;)

Anyway... like I said, "I am just kidding."

I like hanging around with my friends who are in their 20s. Most of the guy friends that I do hang around with love to percieve me as an older brother - and I do that extremely well. College Chicks, well... I can always play the dirty daddy role... he he he LOL

That is all nice and dandy, but I must conclude that when you buy into the person's honesty, one must find a way to either continue believing in the person who is telling you the truth, or take a precaution on seeing if this will in fact later be believable.

Meeting new chicks - I always guard my heart and keep a skeptical foresight on the the possibilities that maybe she is lying.

Btw:

I am just kidding. I like this thread too!!!

LexFonteyne

You come across as a elitist snob who like to go on about making other people's profile as something inferior to your tedious pseudo-intellectual bull****. I guess it comes to show how your "objective evaluation" of your own ability to distract other people of your lack of penis size.

Big ego = little ****.

I think it cheesy when a guy place "looking for an intimate encounter" in their profile. So lame! Not that I am interested in men in that way, but just curious to see my competition. :D

I also find some of the women like to quote comments in the forum which give me the impression that they are desperate. Quite pathetic!

Yeah, you're right. The suckiest part is dealing with the distance since we have bonded so much. I don't know how long the bad buzz is going to last, but I have feeling that it will maybe soon be dissipated than what I forsee is a long one.

Thank for your patience, I guess it is therapeutic to talk it out, even it is with a complete total stranger.:D

Woman trouble indeed. What is worst is that she is my co-worker and the very fact that she is married. Now I am being given the cold shoulder from her and that is not good at work - it is very small family business run by pious Catholics. We tried to be discreet till one day after our breakfast, she no longer look into my eyes and totally shut me off. This intrusive thinking is becoming too much for me. Because I don't know what I said to upset her. And she won't tell me.

Yeah. Remember it too. It was a mini series that consist of some elements of Gambit's origin in New Orleans. Something to do with the Assassin Guild and the Theif Guild, which the latter was something Gambit was a member of.

Yeah, too many comic book reading in my youth. LOl

You got everything correct but one. That is the metal is not titanium but instead is a fictional metal called adamantium. It is the most indestructible metal in the Marvel Universe.

Nice imagery btw.

I have been a recipient to someone else's life drama - and for me being a sucker at deeply being involved in trying to understand her emotions, perception of the world, and past conducts - had in fact produce negative reaction from her. Such people can do their best in articulating these things, but for some apparent reason, it is not enough for me because I intuitively think she isn't being totally honest with me or herself - and consequently here I am in a internet dating site for nothing to show for but my tenacity to dig deeper into women's souls where they never actually realize it is even there.

I blame my intrusive thinking about things of what they said to me. I suppose this is a confession of a hopeless romantic.

It would've been better if Gambit was played by Johnny Depp and the ending entails that the sequel would be in the development where Wolverine and Gambit travel together and getting in such a hell of a trouble. Would make a great odd couple/dynamic duo superhero movie.

I agree. But the problem for me is that I am all of the sudden falling back to my old set of behaviors. That is me go on arguing instead of trying to do what this site is all about - trying to get a hook-up or possibly a meaningful relationship. :(

When you said, "other's creation," what do you mean by that?

Did you mean how other people perceive you? Or more or less how people control your life?

To me, I had the benefits of being taught at home by parents who strongly believed that it isn't about a person's sexual preference, politics, religion, rank of station in life, ethnicity, nationality, and occupation. The only thing they warned me was to understand and observe the person's conduct and character, and find it in your heart to see the humanity in them even if you only see the hatred in their eyes.

When I see people finding that it is ok to teach children hate, then normally my response is that they really need to look in themselves about how hate continue to exist.