they do say denial is a state of mind, lol. I really gotta throw it back to ya'll, lmao. I was just trying to cover all the bases, lol. It does work both ways, true. Loved, I'm Just Not That Into You, too, lol. Makes sense.

ok, jut MHO, ok. You weren't married, to her. Your both young, that's good, bouncing back is easier to do when you are younger. Keep growing and maturing, on the road you are on. She will mature in her own time. You cannot make someone care for you the way you care for them. You with me so far?

All in all, you are probably better off. The hurts heal in time. It was good you called her to apologize, just remember, there are limits to what you are willing to overlook. Be wary, but, rejoice in the life God gave you. Embrace every day, anew. Be positive. You are on your way. Love will happen, it has a way of doing that, especially when you least expect it to.

ok, maybe she feels suffocated. maybe you don't realize it. maybe she wants out, PERIOD. could be anything. Maybe there is someone else, maybe she just wants to be single. Could be anything, but I got to agree, kick her a** to the curb and move on, chere. Usually a BIG RED FLAG, when someone says they want "space"

the crapfest continues.....

I have started getting a lot more upset with my soon to be ex, he just won't let go. Doesn't understand why I filed for divorce----geees. Time to move on dude. I have defaulted to being rude, don't like to be, but my patience is at an end. It is either be rude and short with him or speak to him like you would a child. Is so frustrating. I have a question for ya'll, when a breakup is immenent, why do some people cling so tightly to something that is no longer there?

yes am tired of the prefessed poets. A little poetry is nice, but OMG, can we dial it down a notch. The word you're looking for is overkill. The jokes, can go on and on and on and on, I too tire of them...so, I skip right thru

met my soon to be ex husband here. "nuff said". They can't all be total loosers. I mean, ya gotta' be willing to take a chance. Even with the "crapfest" I have endured, still hopeful, ya know?

sitting on a beach watching the sunlight dance across the water, slowly descending while having a quiet conversation with my friend, mate, lover, while having a nice glass of wine

be honest with yourself first. The ex kinda sounds like a comfort zone type deal. The new guy sounds like your really into him. Take your time, get to know him. Let your ex know succintly that you are exploring "other" options. Be honest and true.

done, darlin'

not blaming the "net, hun. Just happen to meet him here on this site. Please go back and read previous post, I think at the top of page 2. It explains, that we can meet anywhere. The grocery store, bar, net, school. Just be cautious and learn who your with, ya know?

why thank you. I tend to bounce back pretty well. This being a second marriage for me, I was better prepared for things that could go wrong, and not to let those things define me, ya know?

my online relationship, imploded after 9 mths. of living together and getting married and now divorced. My sister met her mate online and they are adorable together. I think it works for some people and not for others

i forgave him his adultery, but he will NEVER be to me, what he once was. and forgivness is a beginning to a better life. consider it a chapter that has since closed. and a new one begins

oh I agree, stay positive and positive people will surround you. focus on what was positive and learn. Ya know, if we all thought twice about things, we would all be genuses, lol.

forgivness of the tresspass is a means for you to begin to heal.

Gotta' agree, jealousy is insecurity raring up it's ugly head. Jealousy is also a maturity issue, I believe. Once you hit a certain age, the "kiddy" games get left behind. Or at least that's what I am trying to do now.

absolutely. take the time to heal. that's what I am doing, just learning who Iam again verses who I was in that relationship. a better person, able to love and be loved

no left balls intact. wouldn't touch them with a 10 ft pole, lol. red flags were going off along with fireworks. wgat can I say, the man fed all my needs, that I overlooked alot, ya know?

moral of the story, be careful who you invite into your life. Don't be so consumed with them, that you look the other way. Wether you met them on the internet(as was my case) or a club, or church or anywhere else. The internet makes things seem very inviting, simply cause you are not face to face. Then when you are, you have a built up image of what should be. I would not live in sin, that is why we married. My choice. As it was my choice to kick the cheating, lying sh** to the curb.

Oh, I know that. At this point, just hanging out with my son and enjoying and appreciating every day, is a blessing. Keeping positive is my saving grace.