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Topic: forgiveness
isparkle Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 8	Mon 03/03/08 08:23 PM
How do you forgive someone who did something very horrible to you? How can you have a relationship after that? Is that possible?

Cambolaya65 Joined Mon 09/03/07 Posts: 5587	Mon 03/03/08 08:25 PM
if you forgive,you will live peacefully

Italy0219 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 2523	Mon 03/03/08 08:26 PM
takes alot of therapy.....unless you smoke some weed and rationalize it....i dont' know if weed can fix something like that, i guess that what therapy if for...

madame_me Joined Fri 02/15/08 Posts: 39	Mon 03/03/08 08:26 PM
Sometimes it leaves a serous emotional scar. I don't think things will be the same. I hope things turn out alright

wzrunner Joined Wed 12/19/07 Posts: 650	Mon 03/03/08 08:27 PM
I think it is healthy to forgive someone who has done something horrible to you. Of course you may just forgive them in your heart.

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Mon 03/03/08 08:28 PM
Forgiving isn't as hard as trying to rekindle the relationship.. it depends on what it is though...

Pjinkysmom63 Joined Tue 11/13/07 Posts: 331	Mon 03/03/08 08:29 PM
forgive BUT don't forget

brooke007 Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 5469	Mon 03/03/08 08:29 PM
you ould forgive, only because the alternative is to live with the hate and pain-- but you'll never forget. you have to forgive to move on, but that doesnt mean to move on with that person.

darkowl1 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 13060	Mon 03/03/08 08:29 PM
forgive is healthy for your heart. it also puts bad energy away from you, and leaves the ball in their court.

merlot42 Joined Tue 02/05/08 Posts: 533	Mon 03/03/08 08:29 PM
forgive...ok...doesn't mean you you can have or should have a relationship....Especially when the trust is gone.

lcjw Joined Thu 10/11/07 Posts: 8594	Mon 03/03/08 08:31 PM
YOu need to forgive them; not for them, but for you, so you can have peace in your life.

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Mon 03/03/08 08:31 PM
How do you forgive someone who did something very horrible to you? How can you have a relationship after that? Is that possible? I don't think forgiveness is possible if the other party has done something considered horrible to you. That is unless the other party is SO remorseful about their actions that they're practically begging for your forgiveness.

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 03/03/08 08:32 PM
You need to forgive, but don't forget

leboski Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 35	Mon 03/03/08 08:33 PM
Forget the past and repeat it. thats why im here. x3.

isparkle Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 8	Mon 03/03/08 08:33 PM
But HOW? I know it's good to not hate someone for the rest of my life it'll keep me bitter. But in this case I also have a daily reminder of that person.

leboski Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 35	Mon 03/03/08 08:34 PM
Dont hate-it burns you up- just remember

leboski Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 35	Mon 03/03/08 08:34 PM
Dont hate-it burns you up- just remember

BLAKJAQ Joined Wed 03/07/07 Posts: 106	Mon 03/03/08 08:35 PM
forgivness of the tresspass is a means for you to begin to heal.

wzrunner Joined Wed 12/19/07 Posts: 650	Mon 03/03/08 08:36 PM
It is sometimes possible to forgive if you can think of one item that was positive from that experience. At least you will have had that one small positive item to focus on

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Mon 03/03/08 08:37 PM
it is so very hard. But the forgiveness is for your benefit, not theirs. I hear some people say things like, "she doesn't deserve to be forgiven"; and they are missing the point. You don't deserve to have to carry around a burden of hate and anger forever. But it is so hard if it is someone you must face daily..so hard. Good luck to you on this.