no relation at all...so neither good nor bad

everything is relation.

even if it is only a physical relation.

"in relation to you, i can say i am inside you" (guy)
"in relation to you, i can say i am all around you" (girl)

so everything is related first.

you are really posing a double question.
armpit hair is not the same as "down-there-hair"

Imo?
armpit nay, down there yay.

Yep, That's what i told her.
"blind" dating i have some experience with, and since we are basically 20 miles and 12 years apart...

what can i offer, what is she hoping for from me?
why use de internetz if we can sit down in town, talk and exchange much more, much faster, check each other out in one hour instead of investing nights and weeks.

I hate being and staying "a bunch of pixels".
and if we hate each other on sight?


Speed, ladies.
turn us men into real beings, i say :)

the first thing you should be a kick in the nuts - to cover the sex topic, before saying "hello"

meet us, and make us feel appreciated. and pain.

:-)

one week, two all nighters of messaging back and forth, we meet in 4 days at 13.00 at the local Burger joint.

and i say meet, not date.
this texting thing is wayyyyy too slow.
need more input.

listen to this, that american explains the consequences very well.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKBXQgdhTMw

That's not wasting...


huh...

every man wants to get with a woman who has a "perfect body".
every man has dreams in his head of what he wishes for, like a kid waiting for santaclaus...

same thing for both sexes, as far as i can tell.

edit: googled that.
those are skinny types... Holy crap... nono... not what i am dreaming of, when it comes to looks.
How much terpentine does one need to remove the makeup...
is that what they call "high maintenance ladies"?

-Unlimited amount of cash available

-have the ability to "insert coins, play again" when i reach a certain age and go back to the day i was born, keeping the lessons learned in mind.

-and a BIG POCKETFUL of those magic coins so i can over time outwit and outsmart and outdo all those barfbags that made life a living hell during the first 3 years.


...and then simply die of old age once i am tired of this game called life by no more inserting a coin.

Take a ton of photoes of him as a free Human...
and put them in a box that you call "The Past" or "before slavery"

:D

armpit hair is a default, daily task. so that's a yay.
leg depends on how your comfort level is at that moment.

if it "needs" to be done, do quickly and effectively.
if not, leave as is.
If he does not want to see you again because of leg hair, thank the lord you avoided that dude.

I apologize...Those technical terms are not my fort�. :-(

Damn, i feel like an orang-utan now...

whatever steps out of the shower,all wet, drippping hair, no underwear... that is her, her raw physique, with nothing added and nothing hidden.

If i can appreciate her beauty then and there, she's a keeper.
If i can't and appreciate the "painted/done up" version from last night more, she deserves a thousand times better than me and should dump my whoopdeedoop on the spot.
[and i take action according to this - and have dumped myself once]

how about that?
Stop worrying. :)

aaargh!
drop the Photoshop stuff.

a bit of black in the - whats it called... Eyelids?
but anything else is a waste of time.
Heh but that's my opinion only.

and hair? hair can dry while you're on the way to the meeting point.

how about seeing yourself. (i missed a "to" somewhere in there... :) )

awww, you didn't like my post! how cuuute! How wonderfully insightful!

shower - 15 minutes

sms to say you are stepping out of the shower and are getting ready... to mess with his mind... 30 secs.

choose clothes 1 minute

put on shoes, clothes, grab stuff that matters (house keys, mobile phone, money...)5-7 mins


so i would say 20 to 30 minutes tops.

They are in a relationship already.
In my world, a relationship is a two way, constant stream that represents communication and effort.

Therefor these two communicate that they want each other. he already DOES show that he wants her. else she would have left him entirely.

But she also tells him that he is not enough, she also wants a female.

One question might be:
How can he provide what he does as a man, and also provide what that other female does?
--> if he finds a solution to that, they can keep their relation monogamous.
--> if he does not, he has to accept her looking elsewhere to find things he can not supply.
--> if she indeed keeps looking elswhere, he must ask himself if his rel�ationship is still on the positive side or has more negative effects.

...in which case it is "run"


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Relationships are for me, always governed by reason - the goal is to have something positive.
If i see my significant other suffer because i can not give what she needs[not today, not tomorrow, not in ten years], i will untie her from this situation (and untie me as well in the process), or even help putting her in a better position to find happyness.

Running is not easy. letting go is hard. Loving is letting go...
?

she will know it long before i say it.

Dating Spanish woman and getting seriously involved with her, 1000 miles from her Home&Family&Friends.
could not speak our language, could not stand our weather, and i had no "friends&family" she could connect to.

never again date a woman whom you can not [never ever under no circumstances] give everything she needs to physically and mentally survive(at the very least).
she will end up miserable despite my best efforts, and you have to let her go back to the place she was happier.
and that will be quite... painful


dated cute mother of girl
suddenly she was pregnant ...again...
math says it must have been while i was away for 7 weeks
questioning reveals she had been "lonely"

never again get seriously involved with a woman who has in the past been unfaithful. That was dumb. That was really dumb.

met pregnant chick about to get tossed to the curb by her weird Boyfriend
offered shelter for months
weird Boyfriend comes over while i am not there
she opens
he goes berserk in my apartment.
never againplay captain-save-a-ho! that was reeeeally expensive. What a dum sonofagun i was.