Impetus: Watching some incredibly dynamic actresses in Hollywood Roundtables via youtube.

Things I found in common: Incredible strength and points of view; coupled with a sense of humanity and vulnerability (in all genders and variations).

How do you as a complicated individual define "Sexy'?

Aware of the preposterous nature, just wanting the views

I'AM TOO SEXY FOR THIS THREAD.
TOO SEXY FOR THIS DATING SITE.

I'AM TOO SEXY FOR MY SHIRT.
TOO SEXY FOR MY SHIRT
TOO SEXY BY FAR.

Right Said Fred 1991
Hopefully we've evolved


or not....incredibly sexy song

I find selflessness in a man is extremely sexy.

I find selfishness in a woman is extremely sexy.

Confidence is sexy.

Hmmfff, interesting question. I'm not for short answers, hihi. Not even if I try can I pull that off but recently learnt it is very much a female/feminine thing so I take that as a compliment :D

Sexy... behaviour, body-language, clothes that rouses sexual desire in the other gender, and with that begets attention.

In essence it's nothing more than that, it won't lead to love nor the romantic love most women dream about.
Being sexy as a woman actually means you're more on your masculine energy side, and a man needs to pick up oestrogen (via his nose, subconsciously) to become romantically interested.
Sexy will cause blood to flow to his nether regions.
Since it comes from a more masculine energy part, it makes women competitive, removing them from what is so healthy for women: sisterhood! Personally I detest competitive women, horrible creatures.

A sexy man... the truly sexy ones that exude that are usually the players, the ones that won't ever commit. Yet in a woman they'll rouse her desire and need for an Alpha male. She'll make the mistake of taking him for one.
The man will likely get a lot of sex and leaves a trail of broken hearts in his wake. And he likely won't ever feel happy and fulfilled.

Once there is love & bonding, "sex and sexy" take on another meaning as they're embedded in different hormones and thus feelings.

And... a woman needs a truly good lover. Not the player who's out for his own pleasure.
A woman actually needs 9 different orgasms (involving 9 different erogenous areas) in order to be truly fulfilled.
That can only happen when she feels completely safe, loved, and cherished.

So I'm not so sure sexy gets the proper amount of emphasis. As in, it gets too much.
It's far more important for men to work on getting their testosterone back to healthier levels and for women to do the same with their oestrogen etc.
"Sexy" probably is the result -or the cause- of our hormones to be disrupted.

Also, I think sexy means something different to both genders.
I gather for men it means sex, lust, getting aroused. Nothing more, nothing less.

To women, however, it generally means she feels he's the Alpha man, the right man to make her happy, safe. The one who will love her forever, commits to her and so on.

That's why men can easily prey on women, and why it leaves them heartbroken.

Lemme think for a wee moment ...

Intelligence, and a calm voice, and cute giggles

Their appearance, how they dress and look good whatever their figure, making themselves attractive, and have a good sense of humour.

A certain amount of deafness in a woman can be very sexy, so when she and her man are in bed and he asks, "Are you going to sleep or what?", she says, "What?"

Crystal, you are thinking of romance novels, not reality.

Not unless you wish to call science & psychology a romance novel, hihi.
What I am telling is reality.

It never ceases to surprise me how little people know and understand of how we 'work' when it comes to relationships.
When you explain them -still in understandable language- they get all awkward, sometimes nasty even, and dismissive.
That's in general, not talking about you, so don't take offense.
But this subject is what I've studied to great length, still do,-and even taught courses about.

All what I'm saying is based on hormonal workings and psychology, aka science...

This knowledge has been out there for decades yet hardly anyone knows about it! Even in spite of thousands being single and could benefit greatly from it.
That's what I find weird, but alas.

hii dear

I am sexy

Sexy is an eye catching feature, view, act, stare, move, you name it. What ever the viewer spots at the moment.

Sexy is in the eyes of the Beholder.

Crystal I hope you know how much I respect your opinions! I also respect how quickly you will disregard little boys and Ogres just commenting to get a desired reaction.
Once you disregard people who like to poke....how do your opinions on any "Scientific Method" and the hard to explain vary?

While realizing that often people are asking, "WTF is he saying?" Contact if I am being too abstract. I am used to it.