I have met a couple of guys both here and on another site. But I never get a second date. (and the ones I DO get are not my type) We seemed to have a good time and, I didnt sleep with them but, there is never a second date. Am I doing something wrong? Am I expecting too much too soon? I have been out of the dating scene for a long time... Have things changed so much since then? Advice Is Welcome!

i dont date
O_o

Why?

whats wrong with me? plenty.....

i haven't dated in 7 years and really make no plans to any time soon so i haven't got the slightest clue what the dating scene is like anymore.


ha! i ment whats wrong with MEN but that works too.

Who the heck knows! Chemistry is an elusive thing.... But one thing I will tell you, there is nothing wrong with most men and I am, frankly, tired of man-bashing (and woman-bashing, for that matter).

Amen. Why can't we all just get along?

yeah bashing is probably the one thing i will actually be serious about, i hate that crap. yeah people suck men and women, but it's not all of them, just some.

I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you or the men you date. Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there. Just like you're not interested in the guys you "get"...maybe the guys you're interested in dont feel that spark for you. Don't take it personally. I'm sure you've met some guys you consider great, but feel nothing for...that's probably how the guys you date feel about you. But just keep being yourself and eventually you'll find someone who will think you're amazing and feel strongly for you...and you'll feel the same way.

cause we suck

Yes, there are differences between men and women but the older I get, the more I realize that we are more alike than we are different. If folks would ask themselves, "What do I value? What do I want in a mate?" then there would be no need for this endless discourse on what the opposite sex "wants".

the only thing that i know of thats wrong with men. is we only have enough blood to run one head at a time. and the lower one usually overrides the one on our shoulders.

the only thing i can see wrong so far is that you seem to have some sort of a steelers fan instead of a cowboys fan

Nothing wrong with men,sometimes the chemistry just isnt there or maybe they were in it for the boink.

Im Sorry I don't mean to Man Bash!!! I like men...
I just want to understand...

Thanks Reenie!

STEELERS RULE!!!

Sorry Cowbabys...

Yup. I hate that crap. We are all, in the end, people and like you said, some are jerks but realistically, most aren't.

The clues are starting to come together Watson.


ok? whats a long time 3-days a week ...5 years????

I apologise. I know your post wasn't bashing---it was more the heading. I'm just bone-weary of reading gender-bashing threads and I over-reacted...

Dating in this day and age is a different animal than before online communities. It's evolved and the lack of a second date doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or with the men, just that you've not met the right one yet. There are far more choices for dating these days. It can be exhausting and, at times, disappointing but if you want to find a relationship (it sounds like you do), just keep working at it. Sooner or later you'll find that second date and will be glad that you met the one that was worth spending that amount of time with.

By the way, I applaud you not sleeping with someone on the first date....get to know someone first...once you do have sex you can't go back and it changes the relationship...if you do it first thing then many women find out later this is a relationship that is not for you. Everyone is usually on their best behavior the first couple months after all when it comes to relatioinships. By the time you learn someone is not right for you (and usually you can figure it out quickly) if you jumped into a physical relationship, things have come to a different level that makes a break up more difficult in my opinion. Many people may disagree with me which is fine as casual sex works for them and I can't judge, but my opinion for what works for me is that it's good to wait a little while and get to know each other before the jump into the bed time.

I apologise... What is wrong with dating today?" Better? I really like people, Men in particular. I am a good down to earth hearty woman. Im beautiful on the inside and I have alot to offer to a relationship... so... I guess all of this is just lost on me.