Why?

Dating in this day and age is a different animal than before online communities. It's evolved and the lack of a second date doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or with the men, just that you've not met the right one yet. There are far more choices for dating these days. It can be exhausting and, at times, disappointing but if you want to find a relationship (it sounds like you do), just keep working at it. Sooner or later you'll find that second date and will be glad that you met the one that was worth spending that amount of time with.

By the way, I applaud you not sleeping with someone on the first date....get to know someone first...once you do have sex you can't go back and it changes the relationship...if you do it first thing then many women find out later this is a relationship that is not for you. Everyone is usually on their best behavior the first couple months after all when it comes to relatioinships. By the time you learn someone is not right for you (and usually you can figure it out quickly) if you jumped into a physical relationship, things have come to a different level that makes a break up more difficult in my opinion. Many people may disagree with me which is fine as casual sex works for them and I can't judge, but my opinion for what works for me is that it's good to wait a little while and get to know each other before the jump into the bed time.

cause i rather hookup with someone get to know them and if their for me be with them

I have met a couple of guys both here and on another site. But I never get a second date. (and the ones I DO get are not my type) We seemed to have a good time and, I didnt sleep with them but, there is never a second date. Am I doing something wrong? Am I expecting too much too soon? I have been out of the dating scene for a long time... Have things changed so much since then? Advice Is Welcome!

You come across as a person who thinks that finding chemistry with someone is as easy as 1...2...3. Here are a few questions for you: How long did you chat with them online? How many times did you talk on the telephone? How well did those chats and conversations go? How soon after first contact did you set up the date? Did you feel any connection with that person during the date? How did the date go in your opinion?

One last question: Are you just looking for someone or are you looking for someone special?

Lastly, just some friendly advise. Double check your spelling and punctuation in your profile. People actually do look at those types of things.

Isn't that dating?

IM SO CONFUSED!!!

Do you really think I give a crap about my punctuation or spelling? and, I dont try to date on my first chat!

I don't like being alone but I have kids and have to make decisions based upon that. I will not bring guys home. My kids don't need that kind of chaos in thier lives.

I guess Im feeling insecure. My divorce papers came on my 40th birthday... and I need counceling!

Ever heard the term 'Instant Gratification'?

I am not going to single out men here, but rather both genders.

This whole expectation level, and these narrow limiters and agendas.

That's what's wrong with the dating world these days.

People have an agenda, a set of expectations, and limits, and they judge, and decide, in an instant.

Not all people, but it appears to be a rapid trend, within societies these days.

I'd settle for
a little TLC
once in awhile.

Frankly, I do not ever consider anyone who doesn't have a basic grasp of the English language. So, I guess, that could be a consideration.

Thank you, Gustava. I was simply trying to help and give a few pointers and she took it as an insult.

The English language is the hardest language to learn. And she is not the only one to have problems with it.

The English language is the hardest language to learn. And she is not the only one to have problems with it.