why ladies decided to live for themselves when they come to meetups, bars and other socials? They think too much, they feel too little. They are creating loneliness and "friend zone" which I despise it.

I don't understand this. Explain.

They have meet ups on the fish site

The OP is complaining about women because he keeps getting rejected by them.

Maybe serving too much cheese with that whine.

But something keeps you coming back?

If you despise women there's always dating guys. Aka "friendships."
It's less taboo anymore.

Other than that, good luck changing women.
Traffickers use forced addiction, chains, torture, blackmail, and threats to get what they want.
Even then, they try to escape.

The answer to your question, appears to be self explanatory.

I see you like to deflect a lot. ( there i go thinking too much again with my little feelings )

"They think too much"


What the hell does THAT mean?

Wpould you ever ssay about a guy "he thinks too much"?

If not, then what makes you think that is an appropriate comment towards a woman?

See also:
There are sites for guys like this...they sell life size, very realistic "real dolls"...
Maybe he should check one of those sites out and order one...

There isn't thing one you can do about it. This saying really fits-

Expect the worst.
Hope for the best.
Settle for what happens.

In seven years of being single, I've dated one lady for three weeks. I've adjusted, and accepted what's not going to happen.

He's not saying it to 'a woman'. He is wondering about women, and why.
And you know, he is right.
Women are supposed to be in their heartspace, not their head. But because of how society is construed and where we are now, most have to be in their head in order to survive, make a living and fend for themselves.
Bummer is that it also tends to wear a woman out as it is not natural, but most don't even know until you teach them how to shift and they feel the difference. It's like coming home to yourself.
And yes, for a man it's different. They are left-hemisphere based, logical and so on. We are supposed to be right-hemisphere based. Life forces us to also be left hemisphere.
Of course in a relationship that doesn't work. You then got two 'heads' coming together while you need a heart to heart connection.
For men it's more difficult to get there as their natural state is to be more in the head. Some have become balanced enough to have their inner feminine back it up.
Others need a woman to help them out with it. If you know how to do this... works a treat. It connects, shifts the energy between man and woman.
That gets difficult when woman stays in her head too much, and most do.
The peculiar thing is that often when man and woman meet the man listen to his instinct and will sense when something is off. He may not know what, but he'll feel it and then he's off.
Woman on the other hand tends to get into her head and start thinking. "Does he live close enough so if we get involved..." "Is he really serious?" "What would my parents/friends think of him?" and so on.

what I was told that ladies going to social do not seek or want close relationships.

That is not true. There are many of us seeking for real men for life partner if you are seeking seek the good ones. Goodluck

Who told you that?

This is all too much psychoanalysis and caveman for me. If more singles enjoyed their life and didn’t think they had to have someone to be happy and content they wouldn’t appear desperate and end up often settling for someone not right for them.

We’re way beyond the days of generalizations, we have different plumbing, everything else is as unique as each of us are.

"Women are supposed to be in their heartspace, not their head."


I literally snortlaughed at this.
Not to be disrespectful to you, but...
Then you say:
"But because of how society is construed and where we are now, most have to be in their head in order to survive, make a living and fend for themselves."

So, you are essentially saying women's role is merely to be housekeeper and baby breeder?

I have been tested when I worked at Vanderbilt University (all manner of research was available to us)..I am decidely left-brained. (like 68%)
I have always been practical, logical, no bulls**t, all that since I was a kid...
Never played with "baby" dolls (did have Barbies, but..they were cowgirls that rode the model horses I had).

So, I'm pretty sure I was left-brained from birth...not after "society is construed and where we are now"...

"teach them how to shift and they feel the difference. It's like coming home to yourself."

How about we teach MEN to be more understanding and loving and compassionate..why is it always the woman who has to do the changimng...why is it always *she* who is at fault?

"It's like coming home to yourself."

Now, the quickest way to make me feel tense and on edge and uncomfortable is for some guy to be all bossy and claim HE needs to be in charge.
It's a *partnership*..
You don't hitch a wagon with one horse in *front* of the other....
You hitch them side by side...so they are a team, and pulling ~equally~ together in the same direction.

I don't need a leader or a boss, or a daddy...I am a grown adult.
I need a equal partner.

Caveman? Hahahaha... sorry but this is all NEW, contemporary and 100% based on how the genders work, especially in this day and age. It is anything but obsolete.
I find it quite caveman to NOT know about this, lol. I seriously cannot believe how many people know about this. Would make their lives a lot easier, especially in their love life.

Hmm... not even going to bother with this. If you are still at such a level of not knowing or understanding, and judgement, assumption and telling what I said even though I didn't... there's is no point.
To each their own after all.