Too many questions sometimes I know your looking for a love match but sometimes I feel like I am applying for a job.
Have you ever done this kinda work in the past?
Is it okay to contact your last employer?
Can you cook?
I mean with out burning the house down?

I love the 20 questions game.

There should be plenty of questions asked, and answered,
by both persons looking into relationship potential.

Yes, it can seem like an interview, and even worse at
times, an interrogation. But, many people like to have
their ducks in a row.

If you’re clicking with the right person the questions just come about naturally, at least I have found that to be. If it feels like an interrogation, I want to make my one phone call.

And besides, I don’t own any ducks.

Clicking with the right person.

Even with a natural flow to it, questions is questions.



You really need to get some ducks.

Don't worry as long as you have a pair of black seamed nylons you will find love

^^^ May as well go and get me some nylons, was wondering where I was going wrong..

There is my favourite question. 'Where do you see yourself in 5 years?'

And answers, that didn't help me. 'Dunno. I might be dead by then', and 'On your chair'

I haven't had that in a while, but there seems to be a breed of men around that are really cerebral and use the "20 questions" technique.
It's effing annoying, it's all you -as a woman at least- do not want in a nice conversation.
It's rude, impersonal, superficial, making you feel like a number.
I think for many men it IS like that, why they use it: a way to decide within 20 seconds whether they are interested or not. The 'fastfood dating idiot', haha.

Another thing I have noticed is that men don't understand what is wrong with this. They then get upset and irrate, "Am I not allowed to ask questions!!!"
Sure you are, but like you normally would in any conversation, don't turn it into an Inquisition.
I've turned it around at times, purely cos I was A) PO and B) curious, and asked them question after question after question.
Result: They just answer... They don't seem to mind at all.
Problem with this: You do not get to any depth whatsoever.

So for one group it apparently is a means to go through a mental checklist. If you fail to get one answer correct, you're out ---> No real interest.
Mostly men who can get plenty of attention and (stupid) women to dance to their tune.

For the other group... they likely have underdeveloped communication skills or are nervous to start a new conversation.
Then there IS hope. YOU as a woman can guide the conversation by steering it to different waters, ask questions that require depth and so on. It takes getting used to at first, it can pay off though.

I still get the occasional first email that goes something like this:
'Hi, please send me all your details so I can see if I like you..'

Makes me laugh every time.
Dat chit never gets old ;-)

It must've been far worse in the speed-dating era.

I like when they take the fake phone call and the phone rings. They pretend it's call waiting, hilarious...

Now there's something of interest! If you ask the RIGHT questions you can obtain a helluva lot of info in 5-10 mins time.
I've thought about it, but it costs too much.
Plus, I found out it's in age categories and the 'oldest' one is up to 40 or 45 yrs.
Nice discrimination!
As if people 45+ can't be single and looking for a partner?
So over here it's mainly an option for younger people.

I've also seen age categories on a site where they throw the 45+ers in with the up to 70-75 yr olds??? I mean, FFS!
You're not a effing pensioner when you're 45! Not sure where that was. Maybe a special speed dating site for "old" people.

So a lot of things are pretty FU for people over 40-45+ yrs, while I actually think this is a huge market. Loads of people in between 45-58-ish that are single and looking. AND... they usually have the money to go dating and become member of a dating site, go to events, and so on.

What's wrong with that?
Are you the type that sits back and lets the potential employer dictate everything, the tone? How the interview goes? What they ask? Determine what's important?

Or do you do your research and think? Come up with ways to assert yourself and define what's important? Change the tone and interaction? Turn insecurities into opportunities to express yourself towards the goal of highlighting your strengths and how you overcame your weaknesses and show that you're an/can be an asset?

Why wouldn't you see/take dating and potentially finding a love of your life at least as serious as a job interview?
Do you not believe if you find someone you want to date, and date, and date, and keep on going that it'll change your life just as much as a job?

Would you rather it be a hobby for everyone, or a part time job for the extra holiday cash, where they can just dispose of it when it gets boring or something better comes along?

How the "interview" goes is just as much on you, your responsibility, as it is on them.
If you "feel" it's not going how you want it to? Change it. If they refuse to collaborate or respond? Then reassess.

See it works !!

I shoulda shaved me legs and cut my toenails, these nylons look as if Freddy Krugar put them on..

OK am ready

I totally agree if the vibe is there at the get go....

I dont do interviews. If they cant communicate then they cant have my personal information. This is the internet, people can steel your info and use it 2 no good. Its actually none of there business.