Why you live in sexless marriage life? Your wife don' t want to have sex with you or you are tired of having sex with her? You should find out the reasons making your life sexless. If you are in long sexless relationship with your wife, I think, there will be some problems happen in your marriage.

I am curious...
If you had been in an accident that caused you not to be able to get it up (spinal nerve damage), or perform sex in any form, or whatever..would YOU be undestanding and OK with your wife going out and looking for it elsewhere?

While there are medical conditions that prevent a partner from having penetration intercourse, there are very few that prevent one partner from sexually satisfying the other. Most times when there is a total lack of sexual pleasure within a relationship, it is mental not physical!

This is well put and asks what I'd ask also.

Why do so many marry that obviously shouldn't?

If your not having sex then there’s a bigger problem with your marriage. And you shouldn’t be married anyway.

I don't think that's the best thing to do

Good question bluegrass! I was curious about the same thing.

First, if you can't perform sex in any form, you probably are in a nursing home. There are toys along with penal implants and other possibilities!

It is just sex!! Why must so many people attach something more to the physical satisfaction than it is???

And yes, I would not have a problem with a wife having some pleasure I was not physically capable of providing her. I probably would be concerned that she picked someone who could be trusted and not cause other problems.

what if the man or women was disabled and
could not provided that for their partner anymore...
and either said it was ok ... just keep to yourself ... and be discrete
and I do not need to know ...

is that still cheating ... when you can still love another with out sex ... but
having the need for sex ...is always there in some cases ...

See, that's the thing..
(I am aware people will disagree with this..that's fine, you have your beliefs/ opinions, I have mine..)

If it is *such* a "biological" drive, ergo, a "biological function..then go scratch that itch..BUT, keep love and emotion and all out of it.

Because, in most cases, affection and closeness and intimacy (intimacy *doesn't just mean inserting tab A into slot B) are still there...so, *that's not what they are missing..those guys who yammer about missing "affection", when you dig a bit, you find out she is very caring and affectionate..just doesn't want actual sex.

The problem comes when some guy gets all hopped up on and emotionally attached to the sex partner...rather thsan viewing it as means to an end.
If you just want to get laid...go do that...a "once and done"..
Or hire a escort...in lots of citites those manage to function just fine..
Oh, you say...what if the guy lives in a small town..?
Well then, how would he even find a sex partner that his wife doesn't know, or his family/ friends don't already know..which can cause huge problems..

My dad and mom didn't live together ever, that i can remember...my mom was a emotionally cold woman..I know, I unfortunately lived with her until I was 19 (so i don't really blame him)..
He did, however, have girlfriends that we didn't know about (I found out when he died and I had to clean his apartment)..
He was always there for holidays, my birthday, even came to be with me in the hospital when I was 11/12 and having surgery (something my mom couldn't be bothered to do), paid the bills..we never lacked for anything.
I didn't know he had a girlfriend until i was 38 (when he died)..his behaviour towards us and his conduct didn't give that away.

True, they didn't live in the same city..but..

Sorry..I'm rambling..but....if there is a way to work it out that doesn't throw it in the face of the other partner/ flaunt it/ f**k up thr homelife, while i don't condone cheating, wouldn't want that myself...it may be a solution for some people.

Well they should. I bet they're lots of them out there as well...Every one is trying to be happy, to each their own and good luck to men/woman. Use condoms

I agree

This is absolutely correct

Yes nice i like that

...looking for more open interest in options, in case i "win the bet."

Yes I m there.

my next "wife" has to be willing to get her girl friends involved so this never becomes a problem.

Polygamy! So every woman can marry a nice guy.

I spoke with an attractive lady who said she had 2 husbands who committed suicide and she didn't understand why. She also told me she didn't have sex with them. Did she tell them this before marriage ? I don't know, but it seems extremely cruel.

If you don't want to 'be' with someone, find someone you do want to be with.
If someone doesn't want to 'be' with you, why are they hanging around, or want you to hang around with them ?

Why should you suffer sexual neglect, or make someone else suffer sexual neglect, because of some verbal or formal 'agreement' which you both don't observe anymore anyway. Faith based agreements are different, since you are cheating on your deity as well, and you may be struck down by lightning.

If you are hungry, but the shop you regularly visit doesn't have anything on the shelves on offer to you anymore, but there is another shop down the road with all your favourites, are you going to be satisfied to starve indefinitely ?

Polygamy sounds nice, but again why keep with a wife that doesn't want you, even if you do have others ?