Hi, here i am with a fake profile cos I've been married 20 years and I don't want my wife to know about this and I don't want her to feel bad about herself but I need to feel alive again and flirt and be flirted.
Does that make me a cheating husband?

In a way, yes, due to the fact that you don't want her to find out about it

Maybe the time would be better spent working on your marriage.

Well yeah...
As well as, spineless, a liar, a coward, etc...

She already knows. They alwAys know. Maybe if you flirted with her she will flirt with you back?

Yep, we do. We may choose to neglect our intuition because we fear the answer/outcome, the pain basically. But we know.

What goes around comes around
Be sure she does have a fake profile too..
Everytime you cheating on her, she does the same... Karma and

Dude, you need marriage counseling, because what you are doing is wrong for any husband.

Why ask a question if you already know the answer?

Yes, for you are still married. Basically you are looking for a new squeeze while still married.
Sometimes things just don't work out. Then the question becomes what to do about it. Fix it or not to fix it. I know of many couples who simply stay married because all of their equity is in the house. They even sleep in different bedrooms. The truth is they are more married to their jobs then each other, but need a place to sleep. Both incomes are needed to pay the mortgage and household bills. It is not easy to split a house, but one can split where one lives in that house.
If I was you I would talk to your wife, and then try to have a more open marriage, where you and your wife make it ok to flirt and be flirted with, as long as that is as far as it goes. They say practice makes perfect, so try it on each other.

Yes, of course it's cheating and wrong. If you don't have that spark anymore maybe you too need to find it again. Put your efforts into your marriage not someone else. Invest your time, energy, and other resources to keeping your marriage together and upholding the wedding vows you made to her.

"May I add cling unto to your wife as she clings unto you."

A marriage like life has ups and down, how we respond to them is what is important. Ask yourself these questions.

Are you giving up on your wife and marriage?

Are you looking for a way out?

How would you feel if you found her cheating on you?

What happened to change your feelings toward her?

She is still the same woman you married, you may just need to start
courting her all over again like you did when you met. You will be surprised at how much that can, will does and changes your attitude.

Best of Luck in your marriage. Hopefully you will take all the words and comments to heart.

It's funny how these guys always yammer on about how they want someone to do things with, have fun with, someone who is interested in their ay..etc...

Usually followed by what a good/ nice guy they are, with "so much love to give"...

blink blink

Dude?
What you say makes no sense..
If you *truly* were a good/nice guy, with so much love to give...you wouldn't be in the situation you are now..

Barring an abusive spouse, of course (yes, men are victims of domestic abuse too)..

*IF* you have tried counseling...*IF* you have tried to fix it....then be straight up with her, agree to separate/ divorce..none of this "I don't want her to know" bulls**t...that's chicken sh** and cowardly and dishinest as he**...

Regarding the OP....as far a s "feeling alive" and wanting to be flirted with"...
Are you sure this isnt about YOU and your ego......?
That you just want you ego stroked?

Then what?
You find someone to make you feel like a youmg guy again..in the throes of a new relationship.....then what?
You come home to your wife...sleep next to her....eat at the same table...act like nothings going on?
That is so disresepctful and dishonest on SO many levels..

OP, understand that eventually your activities will become knowledge to her and there will be some type of reaction. It is much better to talk about it up front despite the fear you have. Either you need to make adjustments to your marriage/relationship with your wife or decide to go your separate ways.

Yes you are cheating on your wife and you need to be Single.

Work on your marriage together or get a divorce before seeking another
Woman's attention.

IMO.

You forgot selfish.

Heyyy

He has a pocture (his spelling) up now isn't even him.

Hahahaha!


Go for it man, you're too stup*d to be married anyway.


Bet yer lovin all the hot sexy 20 year olds messaging you and wanting to be your friend.
Have your credit card ready and don't forget to include your bank account and password.


Hey, tell you're wife there are a bunh of men online that will treat her better than you.
THEN tell her you're here.

BUT...
Hide the frying pans cause yer gunna get a Gibb.