I'm right behind ya

I want a magic trinket

I want rocket surgery

I want spurs and feathers too, got none

Can I come with you?

That's pretty much how we did when I was young too. There was an occasional movie, on weekends we might go to a club and watch Zebra, or Rat Race Choir, or Twisted Sister, but it was mostly hanging out, smoking weed, listening to music, and messing around.

Typical date when I was 19.

Me: "Hey you wanna pick up some burgers from White Castle and go back to my apartment? I got some good weed. We can watch Monty Python. Ever seen that?"

Her: "Should I bring some beer?"

Me: "Hell yeah"

I got extras in my bag of tricks let's go

Thanks everyone for your comments... it's really nice when you know you're not the only one who feels a certain way.

Realizing that seems to have a way of pulling you out of your hum drum feeling of "why not me" mindset and realize you really are dateable, just haven't found that special guy/gal who lit your fire yet... No spark, no fire!

And that's okay... just means a bigger fire later from all the build up of waiting so long

Let's go gals

My first real date was the Prom. We stayed out all night til 4. AM,
Dance. Dinner, movie, then Breakfast i theAm

I had a Great date, Real Young Gentleman and romantic.

Double dated with my Cousin and her boyfriend.

My cousin's boyfriend drove his father's cadallac

I knew what a Real date was. Early on.

That's great Toody, I'm glad you've had such success in dating


How did you meet them back when you were younger?

I lived in a very small town and we knew his family. Nice people.
We also went to High School. Together.

Just a nice date , we didn't get married!

Well that's all I'm interested in... just dating! Took me long enough to get to this point, don't scare me with the thought of more


Lol, that's cool Toody. You seem pretty laid back and I think that helps when it comes to meeting people... less pressure to date and more interested in just enjoying each others company... I like that.

Never give up, River!
I got a second chance to reconnect with, and MARRIED
my first love after THIRTY SEVEN YEARS..!
I’m sure you will find love when you least expect it

Most Women want to date! My problem is a gentleman .

I'm still so happy for you Dee

Thank you! Right now I'd be happy with a date

You're right though, it'll happen when I least expect it... and I'm thinking now that I don't have the "Do Not Enter" sign up... there's more of a chance of it happening

I'm happy you're still around the forums, and loving that you're so happy

Oh, sorry to hear that. I've met plenty of gentlemen, the problem was I didn't want to date.

Now I do... and they're gone!

But, I have total faith that there are dozens of gentlemen out there ready to line up at my door... as soon as I have one

Not allowed to have guests in my dorm at the Y

Yeah, that's not how I was raised.

I was raised on the whole idea of meet a girl, ask her out, and she either says yes or no. If yes, then you try to come up with something fun to do while also having time to talk. If no, then you just move on to finding someone else.

If you already knew the girl, then great. It helps. But if you don't, then don't let it deter you. Just go up, introduce yourself, make some small talk, and then ask if she'd like to do something sometime.

Obviously this is not the best approach to meeting girls. Nevertheless, it's how I was raised. And of course, it did lead to a lot of rejections. On the other hand, I also had a fair amount actually say yes. Only one lasted past the first date though.

No surprise, right?

And yet, as a kid, my best friend was a girl. From the time I was 6 years old, I had girls interested in me. Of course, I wasn't interested in most of them because my mom looked on certain families. Which also meant I didn't have many friends as a kid because Mom didn't want me hanging around most of the kids who accepted me. Meanwhile, every time I was at some fair or event, the newspaper photographers would single me out for photos. They said I looked like the All-American boy.

Point is, as a kid, my head got filled with a lot B.S.
I've spent most of my adult life undoing all of it.

Other people might not post stuff like this in the forums. I've got nothing to hide. I prefer to be upfront about it actually.

Best Wishes in meeting a real gentleman. They are far and few in between for Dating . Maybe as a friend but not actually a DATE.with Romance.

Gentlemen respect Women. While dating them.

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Action it sounds like you were made to fit a role that didn't fit you... that's tough thing to undo once you are old enough to make up your own mind.

As far as the "All American Boy" thing... I'd believe it more if you'd smile

Must have been exciting and difficult as well being the cute all american boy. I've often wondered about child stars we see on TV and wonder if they are truly happy?

I don't think I'm undatable. The feedback I've gotten from the women I've wanted to date would seem to indicate otherwise. The consensus goes something like: "You're so sweet, kind, and smart... but..."

I've already surpassed "Andy Stitzer's" 40 year feat by 4 years. Maybe I'll officially give up at 50.

Until then, I'm gonna stay open to connecting with a good match, and keep trying to be the best me I can be.

Why not try the other way? I know it's not my problem, but you seem to be a decent and intelligent guy. Maybe it's not too late to learn to relax, simplify, and enjoy. Despite what you learned from your parents, it is not evil to not get all twisted up and to just freaking enjoy yourself.

Why do you think most didn't last past the first date? Just show the ladies a good time. Forget that other stuff. Let it breath. Relax.

50? Hopefully other men don't do the same or at my age, 56, I'm going to die an old spinster woman

Lol, I hear what you're saying though. And I've gotten the same kind of feedback... "You're sweet, kind, awesome... but.." Some have even thrown "sexy" in there... "but..."

I guess when the time is right and if it's meant to be, it'll happen

Thanks for commenting.

Oh and not to sound cliche, but if I were ten years younger... I'd so want to date you