If she don't mind It don't matter

pfffft whatever
I raised two sons
I am not about to babysit someone else's


I am not interested in a man child

Gee Thanks I'm older than you

hahaha
was not directed at you
are you sure you are?

I turn fifty next month

Hi

No. Not really. Except to those that chose to make it matter because they've decided it matters to them, their image, their identity, the way they see the world.
But it doesn't really matter.
At least to the type of relationship the people that believe "age doesn't matter" really want.

At best they've deluded themselves into believing they want a successful (long term, healthy) relationship because it helps them come across as being truthful.
If you're going to tell people what you think they want to hear, it's best to come across as really meaning it.

Of course:

Sometimes people just don't want to hear "no" and simply switch tactics.
Just like any "good" salesman.
"You're too young" is a much "softer" no than not answering their message, or saying "I'm not attracted to you, don't email me again."

When a beggar walks up to you and asks for a dollar do you say "sorry, I can't afford a dollar" or do you say "no, don't bother me?"
If the former, is it truly unrealistic/unexpected the beggar would come up with a reason for you to give them a quarter?


That's great. Good for you. Thanks for sharing.
Now...what if you can't find what you'd "rather" have?
Not to mention, are you under the impression these guys messaging you saying "age doesn't matter" aren't messaging anyone else?
Are you under the impression they're just sitting, pining away, year after year until your profile comes up, and they say "finally!" Or that they're conservative guys living according to how you think men should conservatively live but your profile comes up and they throw it away and think "I must have her and throw my values away and just pursue her! Maybe for just sex!"

Or do you think they're emailing other women? Other women who also said "Personally I would rather have sex with someone I can relate to yadda yadda yadda," only they said that last year, or 3,6,10+ years ago (look at some of the join dates of the female posters) but haven't found their "rather" in that time?


What exactly are you figuring out or saying with the OP? That (many/most/all) men are full of crap when approaching women?

Are you trying to convince yourself of your own ideology, and you're lonely so you decided to share on a public forum? Do you honestly believe this hasn't been discussed before?
In the time it took you to fill out the OP, how many other women do you think those guys have contacted?

Are you under the impression forming a pseudo rational and logical argument about why age matters is going to affect men, that contacted you saying age doesn't matter, in any way?

Let me not to the marriage of true Minds admit impediments love is not love which alters with as 3 hours or weeks age race Creed or religion but bears it to the edge of Doom !! the way I see it you either believe in love with your day and if you believe in love age has no barrier no chance of beating or conquering love.kind of like saying if there was a big weevil and a little weevil having a fight which one would win? I guess you would pick the lesser of two evils lol

Love comes from the soul not from the mind so how can a soul tell the time or it's age

Logic only leads to confusion and we all know where confusion leads I think or do I I don't know I'm confused lmao. It's a there's a wolf light and hope and another wolf dark and despair which one wins?

Whichever one you feed

Riddle me this" How is it the love just seems to be tossed around like it's something we have and we can get quite easily when in fact true love and he comes but once and if lucky twice a lifetime so why do some people treated like an object and not cherish it like their own life depends on it which it kind of does.. I mean there are less and less marriages lasting a days and more and more domestic violence seems to be happening when all we have to do have a little tolerance show a little love respect I watch the way we talk to each other because as soon as we start calling each other names we begin to resent each other and that's where it all starts! So look up from you phone buy something nice or even make something go for a walk down the street grab some flowers off someone's tree tell your partner they look good in something or you like there the new project he's working on the shed small compliments go a long way to building a huge relationship they can't be wavered or faulted :)

The fact about love is it's always true because if it's not true love, it isn't love, it's something else.
Marriage does not support love but love supports marriage.
Domestic violence has more to do with a personality than lack of love.
Love does not prevent divorce nor domestic violence.

Love is a purely, 100%, personal emotional feeling. Only you can feel the love you feel. You can't transpose it onto others and others can't transpose their love to you. It doesn't work that way, never has.

The best you can hope for is to find someone that can effectively express their love for you and you do likewise. Expressing love for another is not love, its an expression of the love you feel.
Expressed by words, actions and gestures.

Its important to realize that most people have no idea what love really is and how to effectively express it towards someone else. Likewise, many have no idea how to recognize love when it is expressed effectively.
That's how the relationship problems start. Someone else fails to effectively demonstrate the love they feel for you or you fail to effectively demonstrate the love you feel for them.
OR...
You effectively demonstrate the love you feel for them and they fail to understand your demonstration or vice-versa.

Many marriages are based on personal delusions of love and they fail.

Age limitations are personal preferences and also have significance concerning the love you can feel for another. When you feel love, you will find age is not as important in the big scheme. If it is, you are not feeling love, you are feeling something else.

Very good post. Yes, we lived through a lot. People older than me were old enough to party during the '60s. I remember that decade as a kid. Find it hard to relate to those even half a decade younger or older.

Living through the daily body counts from Vietnam on TV and my dad being over there...I don't think I ever got over that. Unfortunately, stuff like the BS from the Warren Comission, Vietnam, etc. has made me very cynical.

Why people believe everything they hear from the mainstream media and gov't is beyond me. So, I don't really think I'm likely to find anyone who subscribes to my views. Maybe, maybe not.

Exactly.

Instead of trying to coerce/ convince someone who isn't interested at all in how it would work if they'd *just* keep an open mind/ really try....they'd do better looking for someone who wants what *they do*...

If I have nothing in common with a young guy (based on his profile and lifestyle and so forth)...I'd wonder if I am just a fetish...something he just wants to check out/ mark off his list.."OK..did the older woman...can mark that off..."

Enough women here have said they tried it and prefer to stay within 10 years either way. I have tried 13, 15 and 5 years younger. In every case I wound up feeling like I had another kid to raise. In spite of the one who was 5 years younger I am still willing to try.

What would I do if I don't find anyone within that 20 year age span. I guess what I am doing now. Living alone. Which is far easier than being with the wrong person.

Everyone has their preferences and that should be respected. But to argue with me that I should be more open minded is not going to work with me.

Been there. Done that. And most definitely not doing it again.

are you single mom

Who? Me? Well I was but I guess now you could say I am a single grandmother because my kids are grown and on their own raising their own children.

Hmmm I'm 11/27/57 ️

Hmmm I'm 11/27/57 ️


You are 2 whole provinces away...a good 1000+ kilometres..
I doubt she'd be interrested..
Alberta ios a big province..no women there?

I always ask that of the clowns that message me from 500+ kilometres away here in the states..
Honey,. you are 3 states away..unless *you* have an unlimited budget for travel and time to do it often..I see no point...because *I* do not fly, nor will I drive that far to see someone.
I did long distance before..been there, done that...

Wisdom!!! but despite all that I wanna be closer to you!!