Have you ever chatted with a man online without a photo?

When I first went online , I did. He was great in conversation so I continued.
We finally met, but after couple months of chatting on line and phone! He sent me a photo via email. Few days before a meet.
He lived in Missouri. Few hours away.

We had several dates, he was a very charming man. Since then, I go for conversation not looks. He was not the best looking man, but his charm and witt made up for that.


Men usually want to see a Woman's photos Before any emails. Then you better be attractive. Men are VISUAL creatures.

No. I like to have some visualization of who I am speaking with.

I have become attracted to someone over a course of time that I would not have initially considered 'attractive' or been 'attracted to' though because of the other levels on which we clicked.

Nope I would not meet anyone without at least knowing what they look like...

I will chat with them with no photo as friends but that is it...

Even tho photo's are not always what some look like at least if not then you know kind of what kind of person you are dealing with..

Due to it is not looks alone I go for I still want the visual...

I met a few men in person that said the Women they met in person
Didn't look like their photos.

One professional man, said he met a woman, he thought, in person, turned out to be a man. that person finally told him during a Dinner.

He was totally disgusted.

He showed me her/him photo. I told him I could tell it was a man, dressed like a woman.

Men don't always see like women do. Men just look at figures!!

I'm on a dating site that's based on that principle. you can get talking to someone but cannot see their photos yet until you've exchanged some 30 messages in chat.
THe idea is to base attraction and talking on character, not looks.
It is a very interesting way, fact that it's the only dating site I'm on says enough.
The big but... you cannot have a profile. I am recently considering going on another dating site where it IS possible to have a profile and photos so people can also find me and decide to engage based on photo AND profile text.
I feel that is quite important. Someone's writing style says a lot about their energy and personality.

To answer the question, yes I have, on here too by the way. Had a couple of good conversations with a few men who didn't have a profile photo.
Not leading anywhere, quite logical as most are in the USA. But occasionally having a good conversation is good as well, gives a person hope, haha.

The guy i was with for 8 years before my late husband...we met through newspaper Personals...
There were no pictures...we talked for a couple of weekes before we met...and we were together for 8 years...
We had so much in common...were on the same page with core, im[portsnt things...which can only bde discovered by talking..
We are still friends...

Also, that lame, tired treope about men are "visual"?
Tell thsat to the blind guy I dated for 18 months in the early 90's...
Yeah..*he* was ~real~ visual...

That's interesting story, about meeting through newspaper. !!

I wasn't referring to any man that is Physically visually impaired !

Most men on date sites look at photos and do not read profiles.

Oh..I know *you* weren't referring to anything..

*I* was just making a general statement that stereotypes need to die...because nothing is gained in perpetuating them..as most are not good things..

Like, all guys love sports..
I know several guys..yes, the are straight (you narrow minded morons out there) who don't give a rat's a** about sports..

All women love children, like to cook, and make a home.
I could give you the phone numbers of several women who don't fit any of those, and they are *all* woman...and not bad looking..

I see guys all the time on dating sites claiming women ignore them because they aren't tall enough,m rich enough, not a "bad boy"...

I have never based my interst in a guy on any of those..
As long as he isn't shorter than me (I am 5'5"), makes enough to pay his rent/house payment, have some fun money, and a bit to put aside for an emergency...that's good enough for me..
And...a "bad boy"??
Why the he** would I want one of those?
Didn't like those when I was in my late teens/ 20's...sure as heck don't want one now that i am in my 50's.....LOL

Stereotypes, man...they need to die...

Women are visual creatures, too.

I had dated enough men to know all men aren't the same.

I do notice on dating sites they look for pictures first.

I prefer a man that has money, clean cut and has class. I only met two online.
Then we meti n person.

I have dated two others like this, who were not online.

I don't date to just be dating any. Man. . I do many things myself and don't need a. Leach.

There are many leaches on date sites , I turned down several.

Men are in the Higher Percentage like 95 %.

Cire tom

There was a time on Mingle when many of the Forum regulars had avatars rather than photos. I chatted with a number of them both on and off Mingle. In fact, one had family living in the town neighboring mine.

But I'll admit, I get wary of people without a photo on Mingle. I mean, at least upload an avatar or something, just to give a hint of personality. Having just the default up leaves me inclined to believe that somebody is purposely trying to hide something.

I chat a little. That's it. I have to see who I'm talking too.

Not necessarily..
Wait until you are in an area than doesn't have a huge population..and some moron recognizes you in Big Lots (a chain here)...and comes up to you and says something hateful (because of something they didn't like on your profile)..

I *hate* having a picture, but figure i have to.

I’ve never fallen for a man with or without a photo...

I tripped once but thankfully caught myself before it happened

Yep...sometimes it works (like in my situation years ago)..

Takes the focus off shallow things and instead puts them on deeper things...

I've been there, done that with the BS "all that matters is I am attracted to you....everything else will work out"..
My ex, back in the 80's...that all *we* had as a start...and, had he not lied about stuff that I did eventually start asking him (about our commonalities, etc.), we'd never have gotten together at all.

After we got divorced (he serial cheated and wanted to marry the last one)....only then did he admit he had lied about all that.
I asked him why...he said because i was cute and the sex was good...he thought he could deal with the obvious differences...but all it did was cause conflicts down the road.
Shame on him.

And that's why ever after I refuse to go out with someone if all they can say is they think I am cute.....there *better* be more you are drawn to that that...

The two long terms I had after my ex...I screened carefuly...and both were WAY better relationships..
Sadly, i am a widow now...

What about a Woman ? Probably not. Men has to see the Body !

That's a great story!

I think Conversation draws a lot of Women !

Most men look at pictures first on dating sites. Many don't even like emailing. just a few days.


I did receive a photo right before my first meeting.