So you arrive early at the restaurant your blind date hasn't arrived yet... maybe you order yourself a drink to calm your nerves..
You turn over the events leading up to the blind date.. the conversation went well.with them. Over the phone..
Their pictures that you saw on their profile seem to bit odd maybe a little old or fuzzy perhaps.... but nevertheless you agree to meet for a drink.
.

Now your blind date arrives.. and holy crap a lackin.. thay look nothing like their profile pictures
Might as well be a total stranger.. walking in that door towards you 'of course they recognize you cuz you were being upfront and honest in your profile pictures..

Sooo... boys and girls how do you conduct yourself now...!!
Are you upset that you have been deceived by this person who clearly doesn't look anything
. Like the pictures in their profile..

Are do you simply ride it out.. to the end of the. Blind date..
Tell them at the end of the date it was a pleasure meeting them and sure sure you will call them asap.. knowing darn well you will never call them again...

So what do you do..?.
In such a sticky situation..hmmm..

am i experiencing *Deja Vu....again ???

lol j/k j/k

Dude you are so into looks :-)

Are there no other reasons you might like someone?
A heart of gold?
A sunny outlook?
Wittier than you?
A billionairess?

I would never meet anyone without a video call first anyway, so it would never happen.

Taking a huge risk, especially women, if you didn't I think.

Not all that glitters is gold.

One in million I will find one.

I am tire of being single. I accept friendship too. find someone to hangout will be nice too. online friend too.

I guess hiding the surprise would be the first thing. The date is only for a drink, I would remain courteous and have that drink with them ( I may be needing one), and continue to smile and exchange small talk for the next ten or so minutes it would take to finish the drink. I would then suggest we leave, and once outside thank them for meeting me and say goodbye.

Like others said, stop focusing on looks so much. And indeed maybe start focusing on remaining single and stop dating at all.

- Dunno if it was a dinner date, but don't do dinner dates with someone new. Cup of coffee only. Then you can indeed leave after half an hour. Don't tell them you will get in touch. Be honest, say you're not feeling it, sorry. Wish them lots of good luck.

- Get into the mindset that you are going to meet someone for a nice afternoon, nothing more, nothing less. If it turns into more, great, if not you just had a nice afternoon. If you have high expectations, you will get disappointed again and again. Drop your expectations.

- Get clarity on what you want. A wonderful partner who can make you happy or a perfect looking piece of arm candy who may flatter your ego but will not make your heart sing with joy?

- as for the rest, you answered it yourself: If looks matter so much to you don't meet when all their pictures are vague. Ask for a few clear ones or don't go on a date.

Intelligent and honest response, Kudos!

I have met a few women like that online.
A few years ago, while is still had my car I met with a woman that was so big she couldn't fit in my car.
Come to find out the messaging we were doing were written by her daughter. Nothing was profile correct except that she was single.

First of all, I need to be able to put my arms around and hold a woman. I'm not into heavy women, a personal preference. I'm not into low intelligence, another personal preference. I want more conversation than a few grunts and squeals, another personal preference.

I bought her a drink and sat and talked for a bit then told her I was not interested. I wished her luck in finding someone special, gave her a kiss and attempted to hug her and left.

I treated her with respect and was polite but still rejected her.
I detest pathological compulsive liars. Lies are an instant turn off. It doesn't mean I, myself have to be a liar or rude or disrespectful.

Your blind date may not be the 'one' but they will be a person and should be treated with respect and honesty.

You are truly a class act

Stay single mate, Kleenex sales will go through the roof

Checks the stock market.

Right on Tom



As far as I know, a blind date is not a marriage proposal or an appointment to impregnate the subject.

Twenty minutes of being courteous to a stranger , (provided they are not being rude), wont kill you and its not that hard wishing someone the best in finding what they are looking for , and moving on.

Also, as some of the other posters suggested, consider making video chat a requirement of all blind dates moving forward to avoid this unnecessary type of awkwardness

1- a blind date is set up by a 3rd party so none of this applies

2- a meet and greet after internet contact is just that. if reality isn't what e-land claimed, then it might rather short. would i just bail right off the bat no.

Can't say I have been on what I call a blind date..

I have did a meet & greet type thing I don't even call those dates.. Just getting to know them in person so you can see their true reactions to things ect.. As well how close to their picture do they look..

Well I got a good one for you... chatted with a guy saw his pictures ect and chatted back and forth had a great sense of humor.. He even text me a picture of what he looked like now.. and said he was like 5'7" since I'm short main thing is if I'm wearing a shoe with a heel I would like to at least have them still taller then me...

Hahaha little did I know there was a secret... The picture he texted me he had a full head of brown hair.. I picked the place to meet with the agreement it would be dutch which is the only way I will do a meet... I get there and sit at the bar... He arrives and I had to take a double take he saw me first...

Well not only does he not have a head full of hair instead he has like 1/2" of salt/pepper instead and the shoes I had on might have made me 2" taller and I'm 5'1" but was still almost looking eye to eye if I was not a tad taller. But come to find out that was a hair piece that he wears from time to time..

But to be honest he had a sense of humor and me the way I'm one of the first things I said was ohhh hell what the hell happen to all that hair???

Even so regardless as long as they are not a azzhole I will stay and talk with them... and enjoy the conversation... and at the end will just tell them that I enjoyed it ect..

I have never walked out on a meet/date.. If once you meet and no connection or even want to know more about them then be honest with them and just tell them thanks but it's just not there...

As far as I know, a blind date is not a marriage proposal or an appointment to impregnate the subject.

Twenty minutes of being courteous to a stranger , (provided they are not being rude), wont kill you and its not that hard wishing someone the best in finding what they are looking for , and moving on.

Also, as some of the other posters suggested, consider making video chat a requirement of all blind dates moving forward to avoid this unnecessary type of awkwardness


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Back the year when I was actively dating, I met a guy who had the same story about meeting a girl who didn't represent herself as its in the photos . ..What he did was that he pretended the pleasure of meeting her. After a few drinks in the bar , he told her that he needed to go back his tuck for his wallet. Of course he had never returned to her . He said that the girls who were not honest not worth any respect.
After listening his story , I had judged him not being a decent gentleman .
And then my dating life proceeded after him .Quite a few times , guys annoyingly asked for more photos of me ,which made me feel that my honesty been insulted although I understand the reason behind their inquiries.

isnt a blind date defined as meeting someone you havent seen before? i wonder if people still do that considering how the times and our environmental safety has changed... whats the question again? oh what to do when the date goes all wrong? i wasnt allowed to date when i was old enough and now too old to be starting but if i was in that situation i would politely make conversation and end the date. not forgetting to say it was nice to meet you.

Good point sweet lady

thanks sweet lou

Always so many great post..
And always those who choose to make it personal about me.lol...

I'm glad to see so many of you choose to be polite and cordial even though the person you . Take the time to get ready and the time to go meet them.. on the hopes they are who they say they are.. just to find out they are not and they have deceived you..

And That so many of you keep your composure and politely say... you're not a match at the end of the drinks....

Rather then choose not to point out the fact that the other person just wasted your time..
Deceived you.... maybe you did this meet and greet on a Friday night.. on the hopes it was going to be a pleasurable evening..
Maybe even spent a few hours getting ready to meet this person.. maybe you even hired a babysitter.... just to meet . Mr. Or mrs. Right.. who turned out to be mr. Or mrs. Big Fat Liar....


For myself I've had this scenario happen a few times.. when I first started dating..
Now I insist on clear current pictures.. from head to toe..lol...back. then yes when I met with these .. not so honest people... of course I would have one drink with them.. I would pay the bill.. walk them to their vehicle... and politely say to them..WTF.. (((are you kidding me)))..
You drive a Ferrari where have you been all my life..lol..