I just have to wonder. Here I sit, single and no end in sight... I've been trying to not worry about it but it keeps sneaking up on me. I then have to wonder, does love even exist? Do we fool ourselves? I mean, isn't it possible that we watch the fairy tales when we're small and get false hope about someone loving us whole heartedly? I mean... how do we know its real? We can say "oh, when you find it, you'll 'know' its real". But do we REALLY know or just make ourselves think its real to ease our simple minds? If love is real, why is it so hard to find and so rare? Why does it seem the only ones who find it are the ones you KNOW are going to just pi$$ it away? I really don't think it exists anymore. I guess I'll just be me and enjoy my life. I don't think I even want to meet anyone anytime soon. It will all just lead to false hope.

Jayme


No expectations...


Just allow whatever to be what it is, when and if it appears, so be it.

No hunting, searching, seeking.


oh and by the way, the tooth fairy is my cousin....

I've always been a dreamer. My whole life, thats what I do, I dream. I DID get my dream of meeting Hanson, which to me is no small task since I waited and hoped for 11 freakin years to meet them... so I do KNOW that dreams CAN come true, its just a matter of if I've run out of them. Its like is God and Goddess saying "well, you get no more dreams. that one was just to shut you up" On one hand I'm like "well, if THAT dream can come true, anything can" but on the other I'm going "what if thats it?"

I love my son........I love my cats......I know I love them.....now the opposite sex love is a different story.....they dont purr or let me rub their chins!!!

Love, between people..... It's possible it's just how most people interpret love. Because we as individuals see things way differently. So it's all up to you. If a man can satisfy you emotionaly, physicaly, finacialy....ect. Then go for it. But, nothing is 100% in life so we have to smart about who we trust, and who we give our love.

haha, yeah, I get what you mean. I love my cats and my family and my very wonderful friends. I also have a deep love for music. Its just that one missing piece that doesn't seem it will ever be placed in front of me. I'm never really looking, but it does seem that every man I've spoken to in the last few months is so commitment phobic! I don't even mention all that b/c I don't really plan to run off and marry anyone anytime soon, but even when they find out that I want kids in my future, they head for the hills like I just proposed or something.

I'm guessing it's because in alot of peoples mind sets they what to have fun. They're not thinking about families, kids, love. Just keep ya head up. It's hard but trust me it's worth the wait.

To find a guy who is not commitment phobic is a rare, lucky find these days if he is in his 20's. Things are not the same these days as they were before. Women don't really NEED us men like they did years ago.

My best advice is just to be yourself and do your thing. Love will find you when you least expect it. I think maybe many times it is that first physical attraction that makes it hard for us to find a good mate. I've met so many attractive women in my lifetime who did not feel attracted to me. If I had a dollar for every one of them, I'd be a rich man

i know that it seems so hard to find. i can't tell you for sure that it even exists. i am still looking for it as well. in fact we all are. i am new on this site actually. thought it may be better than others i have been on. guess i will just have to see...

Not really worried about it anymore, its pointless. I dont' even think I want it anymore. Its like, when you have that "L" word in it people just use it to control you anyway. I'll figure something out for my life... it really is depressing that I'm 23 years old and as of yet my life's greatest joy has been meeting a rock band... my favorite one...lol, but still. Where are the lasting miracles?

love never promised anything but Disney did

Be more aggressive...find love!

I see alot of people here sitting by and waiting for either Prince Charming or Miss America to fall into their laps. Like everything else in life, you have to go out and get what you want.

Also, EVERYBODY has problens. It doesn't matter who you are, but we are human. There is no perfect person out there just waiting for you. So maybe your expectations are too high and you need to realize love is worth going after. We go after money, jobs, education, etc. Why not go after love?

I hope everyone finds what they seek, now go seek it!!

Jayme - it is there and you will experience it. Sometimes it is just nice to know that it does happen to everyone. That is why Disney exists.



You don't have to be very aggressive but you should date and have fun and play and frolic as much as your schedule allows. Life is too short - way too short for agonizing, mooning, anger, frustration and sadness. Laugh and be free.

And if you are open you will find many loves. Really.

A flower for you.

I've always been a bit aggressive...lol, and its not working. I'm just gonna sit back and if it happens it happens. I'm sick of trying and failing so I'm just done trying.

Love exists

Love definatly exists. It sounds like u have put up a barrier when it comes to it. Be open to love, believe in love, (How can you have something that doesn't exist?), and Don't try so hard...it will happen...

LOL, I"ve not been trying for a while. I used to believe in it with every fiber of my being. I think it just needs to be proven tome first hand... but since I dont' see that happening...lol... I'll just sit here on JSH and hide away from the opposite sex..

Wherever love is, it sure isn't finding me. That's why I'm seriously thinking about deactivating. Being on a dating site, and still unable to find someone, I wonder if the time I've put into here really worth it.

I know what you mean. I'm signed up on every freakin site under the damn sun and still NOTHING! Its getting rather irritating...

I've signed for a few sites too just give it time. I am. I'll probably still be lookling years from now, but who know s how long we'll all be looking for love