Ok, don't get me wrong. Sex is Amazing. But ladies, sometimes we just want a friend to cuddle with. You have no idea wow hard it is to find a girls that would just cuddle. I thought I finally found her. Never had sex with her, after the 2nd night. She says " I think I'm falling for you" wow I'm flattered, but what didn't you understand about. I'm not looking to get involved with anyone. Your keys purse and shorts are on the sink over there. Good night I'll hit you up tomorrow. So now I can't sleep

Not really.
You're still just using someone for physical gratification for your own emotional pleasure.

Women tend to avoid being used like that.
And there are certain biological and emotional reactions that naturally occur from it.

The desperate ones that are willing to do that are going to be looking for it to be a gateway to something more.

Physical intimacy is a type of communication.

There's a reason why most guys (in the U.S. at least) hug a certain way. Slap on the back, body kind of apart, less than 2 seconds.
Or refuse to really hug other men and just shake hands.

What you're asking for is similar to "why can't guys just hold each others junk for 10 minutes to say hello and have it only mean hello, I mean handjobs are amazing. But dudes, sometimes you just want to hand cuddle with a friend to show you're friendly."

It's not normal communication.

And those willing to participate in it aren't going to see it the same way you do just because you don't see any harm in it and "less" than something else, like penetrating coitus.

Other than that, what you are asking is "why can't I go to like a relationship amazon buffet and pick and choose the relationship behaviors I want now from the sellers I want and, since I guess I have to but really don't want to, pay them in 'friendship?'"

Good news is you kinda can.

You can always hire a prostitute, a massage therapist, and in some places they do have people that offer to sell you "just cuddling" services. Become a regular and they'll be friendly I'll bet.

Plus you can always go the James Franco Kimiko route.
Search for "Dakimakura"

Hmmm... her shorts? Sounds like a little more than cuddling.

As usual, I agree with Ciretom on this.

maybe it was nekkid cuddling

Yup, "cuddling". Must not forget the quote marks.

I think you have her worried after 2 naked nights and no sex.
Probably checking to see if you are gay.

hahahahahaahaaa

Ladies That's a good one. Look, she wasn't naked and she put pajamas on when we watched a movie and went to bed. That's why I said shorts. I was with Someone for 10 years. Sleeping alone sucks. This wasn't even my idea. I minored in psychology and understands the mental and emotional difference between a man and a women. When people say sex with no strings attached, only some people can do that and that's because they have hardened there heart and self centered selfishness is running there show. I like the idea of having someone next to me, talk to like a friend. I'm sorry I'm not going to have my buddy come have a sleep over. Ladies how many times have you slept next to your girlfriend in Bed, or even had a friend that's Gay sleep next to you. Why is it that if he is Gay, then it's ok? Can't a friend just be a Freind?

Because physical intimacy is blurring the lines. It reminds me of a time when I was 18 and my friend who was also a distant relative got me up to slow dance. I t got very smoochy and stirred up feelings I didn't really want to experience about him. It was a normal physical reaction to closeness.

Of course, but friends don't cuddle together... they go out for coffee,
they do brunch, they go to flee markets... but they don't cuddle.

^^^^ This!!

And your question: Ladies how many times have you slept next to your girlfriend in Bed, or even had a friend that's Gay sleep next to you. Why is it that if he is Gay, then it's ok? Can't a friend just be a Freind?
Sleeping next to someone = not cuddling.
I never sleep /slept with a girlfriend nor would I with a gay guy, and even if I would, I would never ever cuddle with 'em in bed.
Like someone said: that is crossing a line. You'd go from normal friendship to friends with benefits. I'm not up for that.

Yup, absolutely. This is America. You can have whatever you want.

Just....not with the exact person you want it with.

You have to accept that when you want something that almost no one else does, that finding someone to go along with it will be a rather long wait and a VERY lucky find if it happens.

reminds me a of a movie scene

guy and woman fully clothed in a hotel room

just sleeping next to each other

holding each other

one going thru a divorce

the other with a spouse dying from cancer


both needing something from each other that wasn't sex

I think that movie was "Planes, Trains and automobiles"...

Normally I don't respond to posts like your original one because it's so few on details... and you're wanting people to agree with you?? When your response to a woman that says she is falling for you is "wow I'm flattered, but what didn't you understand about. I'm not looking to get involved with anyone. Your keys purse and shorts are on the sink over there. Good night I'll hit you up tomorrow."?? That's rather callous. It struck a nerve with me because I've been in that sort of situation.

As others here have said, this is a level of physical intimacy that you're hoping for that isn't realistic from a female friend without emotions involved.

ha...think it was " Waiting to Exhale" actually

I figured it was a Woody Allen movie...

Sorry dude, I can't relate, I've never cuddled without getting all funny in the pantz or jammies in my bed.

And good job lacing into her feelings, you not getting any sleep is the least of your problems, bruiser.

Wow! I'm surprised nobody has discussed "Cuddle Parties."

They are NON-Sex events where strangers meet up at someone's home, pay about $10, and cuddle with others at the party.

This is what the OP should be seeking.

This topic was even covered on the Doctor Phil show.

http://www.cuddleparty.com/

Great...I'll bring the Koolade.