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How do people fail to understand the thread title and opening post is a question. Not a conclusion or misleading question in peoples personalities, which are different.
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OK, Folks, there is no need to argue.
The OP says nothing about fear, although I understand that the qualifier "some" should have been in the OP. |
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I can't speak for all women, but then again, neither can you. I send [first] messages, when I'm interested. 
I used the words "...not being presumptuous..." and Not being interested understood. I saw that you included 'presumption and excluded 'disinterest' when drawing your conclusion that it IS because all/most/many women "are afraid to send a first letter". As most of the women responding are indicating, "fear" has little to do with the equation, so it's an erroneous conclusion to draw for all/most/many women. I did not draw a conclusion, but asked a question, both in the thread title (less the question mark) and my first statement of the post. Even if we add the missing question mark, your title indicates you HAVE drawn a conclusion. Simply change the order of your sentences/questions, and you will see your words - and your foregone conclusion - more clearly: ...why women will search a man's profile, but rearly if ever send the first introductory letter to a man? Why Are Women Afraid to Send the First Letter[?]
Again, only two women have even remotely alluded to "fear", though "uncomfortable" and "unfamiliar" are not necessarily synonyms of "fear". I'm sensing sexual tension here. 
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Edited by
SpicyExcel
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Wed 12/10/14 06:06 PM
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I can't speak for all women, but then again, neither can you. I send [first] messages, when I'm interested.
I used the words "...not being presumptuous..." and Not being interested understood. I saw that you included 'presumption and excluded 'disinterest' when drawing your conclusion that it IS because all/most/many women "are afraid to send a first letter". As most of the women responding are indicating, "fear" has little to do with the equation, so it's an erroneous conclusion to draw for all/most/many women. I did not draw a conclusion, but asked a question, both in the thread title (less the question mark) and my first statement of the post. Even if we add the missing question mark, your title indicates you HAVE drawn a conclusion. Simply change the order of your sentences/questions, and you will see your words - and your foregone conclusion - more clearly: ...why women will search a man's profile, but rearly if ever send the first introductory letter to a man? Why Are Women Afraid to Send the First Letter[?]
Again, only two women have even remotely alluded to "fear", though "uncomfortable" and "unfamiliar" are not necessarily synonyms of "fear". The word Why indicates a question, the word woman is the subject matter, the word afraid the verb in the thread title. I never used the words uncomfortable or unfamiliar. The words uncomfortable and unfamiliar may not have the exact meaning as afraid, but contains similar human emotions and behaviour that fear imposes on a person. |
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I'm sensing sexual tension here.
Is THAT what it is, when someone follows another around making note of - and taking special exception to - their posts? "Sexual tension"?!? Poor itty bitty thang. Maybe going solo would cure it.
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OK, Folks, there is no need to argue. The OP says nothing about fear, although I understand that the qualifier "some" should have been in the OP. *AHEM* "Why Are Women Afraid to Send the First Letter" Merriam-Webster: "Definition of AFRAID: filled with fear or apprehension..." Somebody notify the authorities, then...OP's account has been hacked. |
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Edited by
mrld_ii
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Wed 12/10/14 06:18 PM
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The word Why indicates a question, the word woman is the subject matter, the word afraid the verb in the thread title. I never used the words uncomfortable or unfamiliar. The words uncomfortable and unfamiliar may not have the exact meaning as afraid, but contains similar human emotions and behaviour that fear imposes on a person. I am aware of all of that. Why do you keep repeating back to me that which I've already pointed out? YOU asked why women are "afraid". Two other women posting in your thread alluded to "uncomfortable" and "unfamiliar". You have determined that "fear" and now, "uncomfortable" and "unfamiliar" are the reasons [all/most/many] women don't write first letters. Most of the women responding indicate they do/have/will when there is enough interest on their part TO do so. But, that's OK. You [all/most/many] men keep telling yourselves the reason you don't get barraged with messages to your scintillating profiles from [all/most/many] women is because we're "afraid". After all, it's just got to be that there's something *wrong* with US...I mean, what's the alternative?
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The word fear does not appear in the OP.
Again, the OP says the following: I am not being presumptuous, although wondering why women will search a man's profile, but rearly if ever send the first introductory letter to a man?
Not every profile is interesting to a woman understood. It was a woman who first mentioned fear, not the author of the OP. Anyway, let he or she who has never erred while writing a post throw the first stone. |
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Edited by
mrld_ii
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Wed 12/10/14 06:19 PM
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The word fear does not appear in the OP. Again, the OP says the following: I am not being presumptuous, although wondering why women will search a man's profile, but rearly if ever send the first introductory letter to a man?
Not every profile is interesting to a woman understood. It was a woman who first mentioned fear, not the author of the OP. Anyway, let he or she who has never erred while writing a post throw the first stone. The title of the thread IS part of OP's (Original Poster's) OP (Original Post) as it is HE who chose it and put it there. Again, OP's OP's title says: "Why Are Women Afraid to Send the First Letter" (emphasis MINE, as for some *odd* reason, it keeps getting overlooked). |
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I just watched a squirrel actually fly from one treetop to the next. Mind officially blown.
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I just watched a squirrel actually fly from one treetop to the next. Mind officially blown. Was it red, grey, or black? |
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The word Why indicates a question, the word woman is the subject matter, the word afraid the verb in the thread title. I never used the words uncomfortable or unfamiliar. The words uncomfortable and unfamiliar may not have the exact meaning as afraid, but contains similar human emotions and behaviour that fear imposes on a person. I am aware of all of that. Why do you keep repeating back to me that which I've already pointed out? YOU asked why women are "afraid". Two other women posting in your thread alluded to "uncomfortable" and "unfamiliar". You have determined that "fear" and now, "uncomfortable" and "unfamiliar" are the reasons [all/most/many] women don't write first letters. Most of the women responding indicate they do/have/will when there is enough interest on their part TO do so. But, that's OK. You [all/most/many] men keep telling yourselves the reason you don't get barraged with messages to your scintillating profiles from [all/most/many] women is because we're "afraid". After all, it's just got to be that there's something *wrong* with US...I mean, what's the alternative?
I think you took the tread title and opening post as indicating lack of understanding to peoples reasoning in finding interest in someone. The thread title I wanted to catch women's attention in order to receive their response. I was looking for rationality in whether women are open to sending the first introductory letter, or review men's profiles; one just out of minimum interest; two to show interest; and etc. for reasons why women do or do not send the first introductory letter. This was not intented to be a gender related issue. I was hoping for knowledge base information on people's behaviour to help each other understand how we make relationship a connection. |
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The word fear does not appear in the OP. Again, the OP says the following: I am not being presumptuous, although wondering why women will search a man's profile, but rearly if ever send the first introductory letter to a man?
Not every profile is interesting to a woman understood. It was a woman who first mentioned fear, not the author of the OP. Anyway, let he or she who has never erred while writing a post throw the first stone. The title of the thread IS part of OP's (Original Poster's) OP (Original Post) as it is HE who chose it and put it there. Again, OP's OP's title says: "Why Are Women Afraid to Send the First Letter" (emphasis MINE, as for some *odd* reason, it keeps getting overlooked). 
OK, you have a valid point. I was responding to the OP, while you were responding to the thread's title. The author of the OP erred in word selection when writing the thread title and the OP. |
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Punctuation. Punctuation. Punctuation.
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This was not intented to be a gender related issue....
You're kidding, right?!? ...The thread title I wanted to catch women's attention in order to receive their response.
I was looking for rationality in whether women are open to sending the first introductory letter, or review men's profiles; one just out of minimum interest; two to show interest; and etc. for reasons why women do or do not send the first introductory letter... In any event, you've received your answer(s). The majority of the women have indicated that when they are interested enough in what they see/read, they can/will/do send a first message, no matter how "afraid", "uncomfortable", and/or "unfamiliar" they may - or may NOT - be to doing so. Best of luck to you; I hope [all/most/many] women get over being "afraid" and start sending you messages, if only to prove one us wrong in our foregone conclusion.
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Punctuation. Punctuation. Punctuation. Punctuation wasn't the problem. The author of the OP goofed, and I goofed, too. 
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Yeah...and I goofed, too.
Reading the title AND the original post, and responding to it, accordingly. How dare I treat this discussion board and the words and thoughts it contains as such, and actually discuss the words and thoughts contained within it as such?!?
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The word Afraid is to catch a woman's attention and find out her opinion on sending an introductory letter. A man's opinion if he receives any introductory letters from women.
Not how they select a person of interest. If a woman was interested in another woman; how would a woman address the intorductory letter, or do they not send an introductory letter at all? Therefore using the word Afraid is apparently important in womens behaviour in relationship building and understanding the differences between men and women as a whole. The behaviour that is expected by a woman from a man in online dating. |
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BARE BOOBIES!!!
Huh? Oh, I'm not going to discuss/show them...I just wanted to get men's attention. Yanno, to determine the behaviour that is expected by a man from a woman in online dating, and to understand the differences between men and women as a whole.
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The word Afraid is to catch a woman's attention It worked. You got attention, just not the kind that you wanted. 
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