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Topic: How do you keep a man happy?
Boymelbourne Joined Wed 05/15/13 Posts: 2	Sat 09/13/14 07:18 PM
How to keep a man happy? That is only one side of it. How to keep a man happy? Find a man who is interested in keeping YOU happy. There you go, there is your answer. It is not a woman's job to keep a man happy. It is the job of a healthy couple to make each other happy, to love each other, without foolish traditional rules and male dominated culture. In your relationship it is only good when both care about each other. It is never good when a man (or a woman) cares only about being MADE happy by the other. This is selfish, immature, insecure. You need a MAN, not an insecure boy. Come to Australia, I'll show you.

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Sat 09/13/14 07:31 PM
Boymelbourne, I'm starting to get the picture now. Both people have to try.

Argo Joined Mon 11/11/13 Posts: 12416	Sat 09/13/14 08:08 PM
estelle, find a guy who knows the difference between a finely crafted hand-made oriental rug, and a door-mat...........he's the one who'll treat you with TLC and you'll keep his feet warm and toasty..... is that just a lilbit tooooo warm and fuzzy.. ....lolol

vanaheim Joined Sun 12/29/13 Posts: 531	Sat 09/13/14 08:51 PM
estelle, when you find the guy who really loves your personality and style, all those skills you've been developing to make others happy are just going to totally blow him away and absolutely get returned in kind, with the same dedication to making you happy. One of you will be laying out workclothes for the other whilst they're making your breakfast, it'll go that way. sometimes it's a numbers game, it's definitely not about technique if you're sincere. Compatability is the core of a relationship, not a technique to create one. Trying doesn't work when there's nothing really there to start with, then all the technique in the world just makes it all sadder. Seek compatability, someone who loves the way you do and think. To find them, typically the sentiment is mutual, so you pick by personalities you love and intellects you're impressed by.

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Sat 09/13/14 08:54 PM
Bj's all day long....

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3509	Sat 09/13/14 09:00 PM
With a smile.

vanaheim Joined Sun 12/29/13 Posts: 531	Sat 09/13/14 09:13 PM
well that thought made me happy :)

zzzippy56 Joined Sun 01/12/14 Posts: 7307	Sat 09/13/14 09:19 PM
Honest conversation....what are your feelings? What are your needs? Bottom line... Openness

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3509	Sat 09/13/14 09:35 PM
well that thought made me happy :)

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Sat 09/13/14 09:55 PM
I have tried everything to keep a man happy. Doing all the housework, cooking for them, shopping for our food, and helping them with work, and of course in the bedroom. It seems that the more I do the more they want and when it's not enough they abuse. I have thought of course it must be the wrong guy so I have tried changing the guy for a different guy but it's always the same in the end. So what is the secret to keeping a man happy? Estelle79, It appears to me that you are trying to earn a man's love by doing things for him. That is not how it works.

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Sat 09/13/14 10:46 PM
Maybe I just don't know how to make a man happy. At first everything is going great and both of us are doing things to make each other happy. As the relationship goes on I notice that the other person is doing less to make me happy and they start complaining, so I try harder, and they complain more, etc. So, what am I doing wrong? Can anyone relate?

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Sat 09/13/14 10:55 PM
Always run from one-sided situations. Find someone who brings out the best in you.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 09/13/14 10:57 PM
.. take the man right out of the equation.. just saying..

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3509	Sat 09/13/14 10:57 PM
codependency

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Sat 09/13/14 11:47 PM
Yes, but what makes men happy? I think that is my first question.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 09/13/14 11:50 PM
.. letting him! watch you do this.. just saying..

Happiness2U Joined Thu 06/19/14 Posts: 2504	Sat 09/13/14 11:55 PM
been told that happy attracts happy....so maybe the problem is yourself.....if you are unhappy and project that, that is what you are going to attract, I would suggest making yourself happy and stop worrying about making a man happy......do stuff that makes you happy, join a club, or try a new hobby....go out and have fun and I bet you will find a man who is happy with who he is and doesn't require you to make him happy. Great advice Pink. If you don't love yourself enough to make yourself happy how do you think someone else is gonna be able to do it. Life requires homework. Just sayin'

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Sun 09/14/14 12:34 AM
So far I got bjs. I agree most men love those. And someone said they like to be fed. What else makes men really happy? We can't just have sex and eat all day. I mean there is life and I wonder what makes a man happy to make a life together.

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Sun 09/14/14 12:40 AM
Buy a HAPPY MEAL for him..hehe

FunnyJ Joined Mon 08/25/14 Posts: 426	Sun 09/14/14 12:55 AM
Truely the thing that a woman has done to make me happiest was make me know she had confidence in me, that was one of the things that isn't food and sex.