A family member is dying. His kids were told that when he dies they each would get an equal amount of a large sum of money, regardless of how many kids they have. One kid has three kids; another kid has five kids; the youngest kid has one kid.

The one kid that has five kids is very irresponsible with money and constantly "borrows" money from her dad. Four of her kids are given gifts or "borrow" from their grandpa without thanking him. They use him for his money.

The one grandchild that needs it most, does not ask for any money.

Throughout life, more strife and turmoil cause a bad relationship between the dying man and kid.

Dying man decides to change his will. Two of his kids will get the equal amount and the third with five kids gets half. The grandkid that never asked for anything will get his kid's other half.

No other grandkids get any of it.

Everyone is telling the grandkid to do the right thing.

In your eyes, what would you say is the right thing and would you do the "right" thing if you were the grandkid getting the half?

The right thing to do is follow the Grandfathers will regardless if anyone agrees to it or not...

I had a similar situation.

Trust me. The ones left with the goodies never, if rarely, do the Right Thing.

Greed is a powerful demon.

Those who screwed me and my kids were allegedly Christian.

I'd trust a crooked politician over a self-admitting Christian any day.

No offense to you, Ms Jesusprincessmt. Just my personal experience with them.

Religious beliefs are not mentioned in the OP.

Yep. you right.

I mentioned them.

Did I spell cop right?

This always makes me sad when I hear about family being divided over money?
First off, As the GrandFather is clearly showing... when it's your time to leave this earth, You CAN NOT take it with you.
I've told every single one of my family memebers not to leave me a cent! I want a note expressing words of wisdom or love.
But to answer thiS question, I would help the family that's in need, Not the family that just WANTS money.

Why would anyone question the dying man's decision?
The Right thing is to honor the decision made by Grampa and what he has decided to do with HIS own money..no question.

People may not like Grampas decision but its his money.
The boy should run fast and far away as possible from the money grubbers....with the money

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soufie
site Moderator

I think a person's final wishes should be respected.
Sometimes those are the only ones that are.

Or arn't

Unfortunately very true.

My mother had all of us in mind. She died first and my stepfather, with dementia, was written a new will, that he signed.
Soon after, his third son gave the stepfather a half case of beer and the truck keys.

The sheriff found the truck rolled over a few times and found the old man dead.

PS
Mom had three kids that lived within ten miles of her.

Why did she ask me, one thousand miles away, to come take care of them til she died?

The sad part about it all is that it should be about enjoying the time with the person while he is still alive and not about who gets the money after he dies.

It's bad enough when someone close to you dies, without having to argue over who gets what. All this drama over possessions. Who needs it? I would grant the dying person their wish. I would go along with what it said in the will. The one who never asks for a single penny, sounds like a true dime. When you're all sat down together, next time, you could try mentioning to the others, what you like about that girl, is that she doesn't ask for a single thing. I know I would. A person that asks for nothing, is worthy of appreciation.

I talked with the stepbrother who was the executor and told him hr knew what happened wasn't right. That they consider doing the right thing.

They chose greed.

When my dad's aunt died she told him that she was leaving him everything and when she did pop her clogs it turned out that she had left half to some distant relatives that we didn't even know and probably had nothing to do with her until she was dying. When people are dying I guess that they just say anything that they like about who's getting the inheritence because they aren't going to be around anymore and don't have to face you.

every selfadmitting christian ive ever met doesnt really believe the religious jargon that they spew.

Please address the Topic and not target other posters.
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soufie
Site moderator

a old bf of mine
when i was younger
his dad promised
him a trailer
but when his dad
died
his step mother
took charge
and he didnt get
the trailer
his dad promised
in fact the house
he grew up in
his step mom
still owns it
and of course
she wont give
any of his brothers
or sister a time
of day
by giving them
any money

when his dad died
his mom got part
of the widow benefits
and his step mom
got everything else
she nothing but a greedy
stingy person