Hum...I think is a hard thing to go true, but money shouldn't be a reason for families to break apart. But when people let that control them is a big issue.

If it was my case I will make 4 equal amount, the 3 son's will get the same amount then the left over money divided between the grand kids so I don't leave problems for anybody...JMO


Believe me I went true the same thing with my brothers and sisters. But I'm not unto $$$ I rather have them as family not rivals

It's a bit morbid but I've had discussions with my parents about the inheritence. My main concern is that I don't have to deal with arguments with my siblings on top of the bereavement.

.tawt... it is not morbid at all.. it's prudent.. a living will... you should always make your love ones aware of your wishes... well you walk this planet..... it's a smart thing to do... death is nothing to shy away from... its life it's part of who we are....

I'm the eldest of three and I joke about with my brother about how I am the heir apparent and he is the heir presumptive.

My folks say that we will get equal shares but it's complicated because of the house. I'm not even sure if I want to sell it. It was my grandparents house and when my grandmother died she wanted us to keep it and it's an eighteenth century cottage that we had gutted and renovated before we moved in.

At the moment my sister and her husband are trying to get planning permission to build a house in the back garden and we had a discussion about that. I said that I didn't have any objections, although it will effect the value of the house. They have a baby now and have been living in a top floor flat, with a lot of stairs to climb. If they do build their house they will be there for my parents, so that they don't have to go into an old folks home and my folks will babysit for them. If they do that I quite like the idea of keeping the family home and going back to live there, maybe with my brother and us all being a family together after my parents are gone.