Im making this declaration because no one seems to understand. I wish to explain it. Ive been seeing a married man for a year. He is the sweetest, sexiest guy Ive ever known! And the best lover Ive ever had. Ive come to the realization that I love him! If he would just hurry already and leave that woman he's married to we can finally be happy! I know what you may say.... hes married...you shouldnt be with him blah blah blah but no one knows our love. I wanted to post this because my co worker loves this site. And she talks to you guys all of the time... she said you people make her look at things she hadnt thought of before. I love Bobby very much...other than his wife..who he is divorcing soon. I dont see a downside.

Dating while married doesn't exactly scream honest, decent, caring guy. What's to say he won't jump ship with you as well?

Well you should seriously ask yourself, if he would be with me while he's married to someone else, what's to say that down the line he won't be happy to be with someone else while he's with you?.

Of course it could be that you do have a super special deep and everlasting love, BUT, occam's razor, when you hear hooves expect horses not zebras.

It's far more likely that this guys a cheating scumbag.

He is honest with me. He actually loves me.

life's too short.. if he seeing someone else he's obviously not happy.. he's committed in his marriage maybe there's kids.. you can divide yourself into too.. if he's giving his wife every opportunity.. to the be the woman he needs. and she won't conform... then I can't blame em... he's making two women happy... I know how this might sound... but all of us at one time or another.. have being in a failed relationship.. its not a one way street... women have left me because I wouldn't conform to what they needed... but if everyone is comfortable in their life... she has a house the kids pension whatever... his lover gets filled.... it probably makes him a better lover all the way around... please do not hold me up on the cross about this... just a thought... and if you love him and he loves you what more do you both need.. does it matter if my name is Steve or John know... what matters is that he's there with you at that moment that time... that's all we have is time... and it's ticking fast... if it feels good and its right then go with it.... you were brought together for a reason.. one has nothing to do with the other... everyone needs to climb out of the boxes they live in... peace out.. Home Slice....

No..no... you guys dont understand. I am happy... He is a good guy. He gives me everything! New car... pays my bills. Im just anxious for him to be just mine alone.. then HE can truly be happy. I know how it sounds but he really is a great person.

Thanks for listening

no I think they understand!!! just a bit of a touchy subject thats all..lol

Exactly

Pain.
You are contributing to it.
It might be him, or her, or you that gets most of it.
But one of you will get hurt with it, if not all 3 of you.

If the love is so strong, back away until it
only involves 2 of you.

But it seems you know all this, hence the
'homewrecker' handle.

I see a downside, your getting a cheater, hes cheating with you , and when hes done he'll cheat on you...If you get what you want , you'll get what you asked for .

No, H8MREKR, your partner in adultery isn't honest, and he isn't a good guy.

You are making excuses for adultery because you are currently being emotionally satisfied with the attention that you partner in adultery is giving you.

As long as you are judging right and wrong according to what pleases you at the moment, nobody will be able to convince you that adultery is a bad thing.

Call girl...adultery?
Im a good person... I would never try to hurt another person. Yes..he is married and we are wrong as far as that...I agree with all of you. But how can love be wrong? Seriously? Whatever the circumstance

He might love you but something is making him stay with his wife. Has he given you a date or time when hes going to be starting his divorce proceedings?

I'm not going to say that you are in La La land and he probably does love you and his wife. Maybe he can't decide who he loves more. Most likely he is going to say negative things about his wife to you but that may be or not be true.

When you fall in love and you want someone so badly..sometimes you don't see things clearly.

like leigh said..I agree

Your concept of love leaves much to be desired, as well as the way that you determine right from wrong.

Yes, you love the way that your partner in adultery pleases your flesh.

okay I can hear the water boiling right now. someone's looking for a bunny.lol.. I'll put this very plainly. if my milk cow stop producing milk.. should I go out buy a new milk. cow and shoot the old one... r do I keep the old one around as well because we have a relationship... it provides me with everything but milk... doesn't seem fair.. kill the cow because it no... .longer. give me milk.

correction gives me milk..

A woman isn't a cow.

A woman isn't an object that is to be dumped as soon as something goes wrong.

This man does not love anyone but himself...Sorry if the truth hurts H8MREKR, but you started the thread..Watch out for that boomerang when it hits, could make you a little light above the eyebrows, karma being the bigger biotch and all..