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Well, I see since I last posted this thread has turned into another one of those "poor pitiful me,I can't get a date,nice guy threads. With the "I'm a jerk and proud of it,I can get a date because of it thrown in for good measure. I hate to see grown men act this way. The reason "nice" guys can't get a date, Is contained in this thread. You are your own worst enemy. You are doing it to yourselves with all of this whining. The way to get and keep a woman is a lot simpler than what most of you are making it. I pretty much outlined it in my last post. The jerk/a$$ hole that seems to think that because he is a jerk,That gets him women, That's foolish. That's not what's getting you the women. What's getting you women is the "illusion" of being a man. In other words, You're putting up a front. You're fooling her into thinking that under that jerk exterior is the kind of man like I spoke of in my last post. But after she is with you for a while she figures out that you are not what you seem to be. You are a jerk and an a$$ hole,PERIOD. What she thought she saw in you really isn't there. *applause* You're right on track here. Being a "nice guy" will not get or keep a woman. The proof is right here in this thread.
Here, however, I will differ. I suppose a lot depends on what each of us means by "nice guy". To me, a nice guy is simply a guy who doesn't act like a jerk, doesn't go around pretending he's God's gift to women, is pleasant and kind, and who treats women with the same respect he would like to receive from them. He's neither passive nor aggressive, and certainly not passive-aggressive. He is just himself -- a nice guy. I've encountered several of these men in my 48 years, some of them right here on Mingle2. I've dated some of the ones I've met in real-life. And while I'm no supermodel (nor do I want or need to be) I'm a woman worth being with. The best way to get and keep a woman is by being you.Be a man. Not some whiny something. You want to really turn off women? Be whiny. Have no back bone. Be a jerk. You will be repellent to them in the long run.
Again, here I agree with you. Being whiny repels them from the start. Being a jerk/a$$ hole may get them in the start. It repels them sooner or later.
Both whiny and jerkish repel me from the start. Give me the genuine nice guy any day. Just for heaven's sake make him intelligent and interesting. THAT is what attracts women worth having more than just a random meaningless sexual encounter with. |
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In fact I never want to be a jerk, was just in relationships thatI had to, just hold my own , not be steamrolled, not saying thats healthy! Right; it doesn't take a jerk to hold his own. I'm glad you recognize the difference, and I wish more guys here did. I dont think VIa's bashing men , I agree some men are stuck in ought 5 in the 20th century Just a generalization, ..&some people are dirtbags! Thank you for the vote of support.  Honestly, none of us women here are bashing men. A lot of us feel as though we're getting bashed by some of the guys, though.
And for those (not you, Ride) who keep insisting that women have to look a certain way in order to have a valid opinion... what are you, sixteen? Give me a break. |
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Give me the genuine nice guy any day. Ah! Ah! Ah! AhChoooo! Excuse me, I'm allergic to B.S. |
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ViaMusica
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Quote: Give me the genuine nice guy any day. Ah! Ah! Ah! AhChoooo! Excuse me, I'm allergic to B.S. You must sneeze every time you open your mouth, then. Apparently some guys are so desperate to get a pass or excuse to be a jerk... because it's probably all they know how to be so it's easier for them than learning how to be nice... that they'll ignore anything a woman says, even though they claim what they want is success with women. I'm sorry to hear logic eludes so many of you, but on the other hand at least it makes things much easier for the non-jerks. The nice guys should probably thank you, since you're leaving them such a large supply of quality women. 
I like nice guys. I don't like jerks. And you don't have a clue about women. Case closed. |
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Large supply? I only see you here. I also see a pile of lonely solo nice guys too. I learned a long time ago, It's not so much the insult hurled at you. More the source of the insult. In this case I am not even remotely impressed.
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There have been plenty of women commenting on this thread, so if you haven't seen them, try looking around.
And I'm not remotely interested in impressing you or anyone like you, kiddo. |
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Well yeah, If you count keyboard quarterbacks. With no photos. Its cool grandma, You don't have to try to impress anyone. Just be your usual charming self.
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Wow. All I can say is if you really want to know a guy, make sure you read their posts...
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Wow. All I can say is if you really want to know a guy, make sure you read their posts...
I was just thinking something similar! |
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Wow. All I can say is if you really want to know a guy, make sure you read their posts...
I know, right? 
The fail is strong in these... |
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Large supply? I only see you here. I also see a pile of lonely solo nice guys too. I learned a long time ago, It's not so much the insult hurled at you. More the source of the insult. In this case I am not even remotely impressed. You joined the site. I would say that puts a crack in your logic. |
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I think Yoda has this thread pegged...
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Being a Jerk probably works... Alot of my friends that are actually kind a A holes did well with woman and you can see this " he must know something I do not
 ... I must earn his approval" thing kind of going for them... I am kind of peacfull and not conflictive..... get passed up all the time... not changing... but the author is correct
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Well, I see since I last posted this thread has turned into another one of those "poor pitiful me,I can't get a date,nice guy threads. With the "I'm a jerk and proud of it,I can get a date because of it thrown in for good measure. I hate to see grown men act this way. The reason "nice" guys can't get a date, Is contained in this thread. You are your own worst enemy. You are doing it to yourselves with all of this whining. The way to get and keep a woman is a lot simpler than what most of you are making it. I pretty much outlined it in my last post. The jerk/a$$ hole that seems to think that because he is a jerk,That gets him women, That's foolish. That's not what's getting you the women. What's getting you women is the "illusion" of being a man. In other words, You're putting up a front. You're fooling her into thinking that under that jerk exterior is the kind of man like I spoke of in my last post. But after she is with you for a while she figures out that you are not what you seem to be. You are a jerk and an a$$ hole,PERIOD. What she thought she saw in you really isn't there. *applause* You're right on track here. Being a "nice guy" will not get or keep a woman. The proof is right here in this thread.
Here, however, I will differ. I suppose a lot depends on what each of us means by "nice guy". To me, a nice guy is simply a guy who doesn't act like a jerk, doesn't go around pretending he's God's gift to women, is pleasant and kind, and who treats women with the same respect he would like to receive from them. He's neither passive nor aggressive, and certainly not passive-aggressive. He is just himself -- a nice guy. I've encountered several of these men in my 48 years, some of them right here on Mingle2. I've dated some of the ones I've met in real-life. And while I'm no supermodel (nor do I want or need to be) I'm a woman worth being with. The best way to get and keep a woman is by being you.Be a man. Not some whiny something. You want to really turn off women? Be whiny. Have no back bone. Be a jerk. You will be repellent to them in the long run.
Again, here I agree with you. Being whiny repels them from the start. Being a jerk/a$$ hole may get them in the start. It repels them sooner or later.
Both whiny and jerkish repel me from the start. Give me the genuine nice guy any day. Just for heaven's sake make him intelligent and interesting. THAT is what attracts women worth having more than just a random meaningless sexual encounter with. The point I was trying to make about the whiny and jerk/a$$hole, The whiny is usually easy to spot. But, The jerk/a$$hole can sometimes not be as easy to spot. They hide who they really are very well. Some women may catch on pretty quick, While others,It may take a little more time. But either way you cut it, They usually wind up getting seen for what they really are. They wind up the loser in the end. The best way to get and keep a woman is by being you.Be a man. Not some whiny something. You want to really turn off women? Be whiny. Have no back bone. Be a jerk. You will be repellent to them in the long run.
Again, here I agree with you.
I haven't lived 51 yrs without learning something about relationships and what women really want. Maybe one day some of these guys will figure it out. |
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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Tue 04/23/13 06:15 PM
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OOPS, Double post.
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I little somber over here, cuz all the woman here think I'm not funny, so in reality hundreds of woman, through my life must of been lying to me!... chit , thats a double negative ...they wouldnt have lied would
they....?.. mabee they like me & were trying to massage my ego ....like trying to impress me ..must be... well a guess thats down to one negatives n two positives ... ok I feel better. They must a realy liked me to laugh at that "popcorn fart " Brit humor British humor! Isn't that an oxymoron ? Oh I say down to one negative , already knowing the fact that woman are nature born liars! PLEASE no hate mail.. its just art n this is my canvas Ok @hummmesweet |
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I think Yoda has this thread pegged...
Long time no see 
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I guarantee you, for all their talk, if a nice guy really did walk into their life they probably wouldn't even recognize him. Or, since most women seem to be on the defensive, they'd most likely ostracize the poor bastard before they even got a chance to know him.
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Large supply? I only see you here. I also see a pile of lonely solo nice guys too. I learned a long time ago, It's not so much the insult hurled at you. More the source of the insult. In this case I am not even remotely impressed. You joined the site. I would say that puts a crack in your logic. |
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I little somber over here, cuz all the woman here think I'm not funny, so in reality hundreds of woman, through my life must of been lying to me!... chit , thats a double negative ...they wouldnt have lied would
they....?.. mabee they like me & were trying to massage my ego ....like trying to impress me ..must be... well a guess thats down to one negatives n two positives ... ok I feel better. They must a realy liked me to laugh at that "popcorn fart " Brit humor British humor! Isn't that an oxymoron ? Oh I say down to one negative , already knowing the fact that woman are nature born liars! PLEASE no hate mail.. its just art n this is my canvas Ok @hummmesweet |
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