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msharmony
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Wed 03/20/13 06:30 AM
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love is one emotion of many, including fear, guilt, emptiness, etc,,,
self preservation causes us to consider the totality of our emotions and experiences some people can stay together out of duty without the romantic 'love' we think of because of their kids our western culture encourages us to stay with someone out of 'love' , which is often a physical chemistry more than an emotional one,, or its an emotional one all based on the notion of butterflies and romance but 'love' nor any other emotion really keeps us together physically, what keeps us together is our actions and our will to work at staying together and truly 'loving' (to be read ,being good to) one another,,, one of the people I love most in this world, I will never again be together with,,, because he didnt know how to be good to me and my desire not to be empty, lonely, or used, was stronger than my desire to be together for the sake of love,,, |
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Hello AthenaRose & fellow Minglerers, I would say yes, the women's movement is one of the considerable factors in the ongoing worldwide marriage fiasco. That, and because Doc Johnson does what he does... 
It is a shame really. These reasons have not really changed, but public opinion of them has. This is both good and bad with the bad being an over 50% marriage failure rate - with no reduction in sight! okay, now I'm curious to know just what does Doc Johnson do? And I don't predict the future looks any brighter when it comes to sustaining marriage long term, especially not by the younger generations... Hey Athenarose. Did I just read no marriage can be sustained by the younger generation? Well, what i know is that most of the time its right. But a few of us actually practice for better or for worse. Personally what i think is that when u r into marriage one must be committed, be ready to do or accept things together and above all give up that u r single(compromise in every scenario and the like) yes, mikaxel, I fear the younger generations down the road will be even less content with the bonds of matrimony as the world becomes more self centered... I wish I could say that marriage can last if you really work at it, but sometimes the circumstances are so awful you're left with no other way to survive, then to go your separate ways... imho... I respect your opinion.You might call me extremely naive but I think otherwise. When one party enters into a marriage, he/she should actually KNOW the other person. Then no major prblm will occur. I might be innocently naive but thats how i think it should go. It might be the influence of my country or i dont know, but thats how i believe it should be |
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love is one emotion of many, including fear, guilt, emptiness, etc,,, self preservation causes us to consider the totality of our emotions and experiences some people can stay together out of duty without the romantic 'love' we think of because of their kids our western culture encourages us to stay with someone out of 'love' , which is often a physical chemistry more than an emotional one,, or its an emotional one all based on the notion of butterflies and romance but 'love' nor any other emotion really keeps us together physically, what keeps us together is our actions and our will to work at staying together and truly 'loving' (to be read ,being good to) one another,,, one of the people I love most in this world, I will never again be together with,,, because he didnt know how to be good to me and my desire not to be empty, lonely, or used, was stronger than my desire to be together for the sake of love,,, MsHarmony. my heart goes out to you with your final statement.. I can relate much to seriously to this... and it really tears me up... the love made me want to stay, but the betrayal of trust was just too much to ever let it happen again... there are just some hurts that cut way too deep... and I feel for you too... 
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Hello AthenaRose & fellow Minglerers, I would say yes, the women's movement is one of the considerable factors in the ongoing worldwide marriage fiasco. That, and because Doc Johnson does what he does...
It is a shame really. These reasons have not really changed, but public opinion of them has. This is both good and bad with the bad being an over 50% marriage failure rate - with no reduction in sight! okay, now I'm curious to know just what does Doc Johnson do? And I don't predict the future looks any brighter when it comes to sustaining marriage long term, especially not by the younger generations... Hey Athenarose. Did I just read no marriage can be sustained by the younger generation? Well, what i know is that most of the time its right. But a few of us actually practice for better or for worse. Personally what i think is that when u r into marriage one must be committed, be ready to do or accept things together and above all give up that u r single(compromise in every scenario and the like) yes, mikaxel, I fear the younger generations down the road will be even less content with the bonds of matrimony as the world becomes more self centered... I wish I could say that marriage can last if you really work at it, but sometimes the circumstances are so awful you're left with no other way to survive, then to go your separate ways... imho... I respect your opinion.You might call me extremely naive but I think otherwise. When one party enters into a marriage, he/she should actually KNOW the other person. Then no major prblm will occur. I might be innocently naive but thats how i think it should go. It might be the influence of my country or i dont know, but thats how i believe it should be I understand... and I used to believe my 18 year marriage would go the distance, until it didn't... I hope you connect with the perfect woman for you... so your happily ever after will come true...
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Love always starts with you.
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The reason love doesn't work anymore is because people have too many conditions on it. You can't take something like love and say, "Oh I want to find the love of my life, but as long as he has a job or has this or that or whatever..."
Love happens; it doesn't need you to make it happen and it certainly doesn't work if you hang conditions on it. |
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People don,t take the time or effort to put what it requires to make it work. Too many people have the ability of disposing of everything way to easily including friends, family and spouses. SAD isn,t it? I've never considered the idea of easily disposing of people... After the 18th year of my marriage I just couldn't keep contending with all his outside influences... yes, it was very sad... Oh 18 years is not what I meant. I mean one little thing goes wrong and they leave. I have seen it happen too many times. People have become way to selfish to work things out. Others like yourself, have put a lot of effort to no avail. |
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I agree completely. I think too many times there is a selfish partner who is ready to throw in the towel without diving in & really trying to work things out first & then there is the partner who always trys to make it work. Marriages don't work because there is not equal commitment.
People don,t take the time or effort to put what it requires to make it work. Too many people have the ability of disposing of everything way to easily including friends, family and spouses. SAD isn,t it? I've never considered the idea of easily disposing of people... After the 18th year of my marriage I just couldn't keep contending with all his outside influences... yes, it was very sad... Oh 18 years is not what I meant. I mean one little thing goes wrong and they leave. I have seen it happen too many times. People have become way to selfish to work things out. Others like yourself, have put a lot of effort to no avail. |
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Love means a different thing for different people!
I'm sure you've heard the expression: 'Different Strokes for Different Folks' Well a good thing in the English language is that you have the words Love and Like - so asks before anything else: 'Do you Love me or Do you Like me?' Love can keep going, even if does lag down from time to time, you have to be realistic problems of everyday and stress of life can mess up things, but at the end of the day - just look at the man or woman you are married to and remember why and how you fell in love with this person then you get to see how it was and why it's still a good prospect not to give up on - pardon me but if there is violence that's another problem altogether which I have no idea about nor want to know. I'm just quoting what I've seen and experienced with my parents but I hope it proves a point that love is strong and forever if you know how to nurture and remember why you got together in the first place! - Smile and BB! |
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sometimes there is a conflict between loving our self (in a healthy way) and loving someone else,, when that someone else causes us consistent hurt or pain,,,,
sometimes its time to love from a distance,,, |
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cause love isn't enough on its own, you need to be able to trust the person ur with you need a bond that noone can sever no matter how hard they try ithout that love is just a word
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