Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings?

Because we are raised to bottle them up.

Because they are taught-as they grow up-that,expression of feelings and emotions is weak and ''feminine''!! And,actually,many just wouldnt know/dont know how to!

For every one woman that wants a man to explain or express his feelings to them there are several women that would consider him weak and less than a man if he did. It is a difficult balancing act to know when and to whom to do this. After all we are raised not to cry, not to be scared, to show no fear, and to be aggressive. All things that many women now struggle with dealing with.

Never had that problem

I agree some m people can discuss & open up .... then there are those who don't .....not just men...

Well, a man would explain his feelings if a woman would remain quiet long enough for the man to get a word in.










Here come the rocks again.

[Dodo_David runs away.]

We would remain quiet long enough for a man to get a word in but it takes them so long to form a coherent thought that we'd have one foot in the grave before they could respond

Most men I've known haven't either.

I just replied to another thread about some girls wanting to see men cry over them.

Girls, maybe the guys just don't have feelings for you if their not showing them to you. It's not nice to put all guys n the same category of those that you've known.

Real men show their feelings if it's something they are passionate about. It's human reflex/nature.


Sly

Some women never learn that all men are not the same.

Not so hard for some of us, to the right person.

My friend's husband seems like "Joe Friday." (From the old "Dragnet" series.) He wants the so-called "facts" with as few words as possible...I'm not used to being around men like this. My husband wasn't this way...I'm not into "drama" but it's kind of boring when words have to be kept at a minimum and expressing feelings is taboo and considered a big "sin."...I don't think every single man is exactly the "same." Some men do enjoy opening-up and stating how they feel...And I've been around men who talk non-stop and whine and complain. (I consider "griping" an expression of emotions. Don't you?)

Because for most males there are only two that they and you as a female have to deal with 24-7.
Most are hungry and horny.If you see one without an erection, make
him a sandwich...

Also some men express their feelings in fights.

It's not difficult. It's just a sign we want to keep you interested.

In some cases we're waiting for the other foot to go in as well.

Seriously though, I think men AND woman are careful about how much feeling to express. If a guy isn't telling you more it probably means he's worried about hurting the relationship in some way.

Probadly because no matter what is asked from a male, the questions are somehow related to those 'top five questions that frighten most men', to wit:
1. "what are you thinking about?"
2. "Do you love me?"
3."Do I look fat?"
4. "Do you think she is prettier than me?"
5."What would you do if I died?"
What makes these questions so difficult for most men to deal with is that they are all guaranteed to explode into a major argument if he answers incorrectly; that is, if he tells the truth and no amount of explanation will hide the truths afterwards.
For example, the proper answer to the fist question is ,"I'm sorry if I have been distant, darling. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are and how lucky I am to have you in my life." This (usually spoon-gagging) answer obviously bears no resemblance whatsoever to the truth, which most likely is one of the following:
A."Nothing"
B."Football."
C."Angelina Jolie naked."
D. "How fat you are."
E. "How I would spend the insurance money if you died."
Question 2, the correct response is "Yes! I'm crazy about you!"

Inappropriate but truthful answers may be:
A."Sure,Doll! Heaps! Can we have sex now?"
B."Would it make you feel better if I said yes?"
C. "Can you define the concept 'love'?"
D."I'm your husband...that's my job."
E."I have sex with you, don't I?"
F. "Who, me?"
And things really get better after this...as all truths must be hidden as lies...

well,it is hard for me to explain and express my feelings
i'll make a sour or sulky face,but i wont tell you why am upset unless you keep pestering me why