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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? For every one woman that wants a man to explain or express his feelings to them there are several women that would consider him weak and less than a man if he did. It is a difficult balancing act to know when and to whom to do this. After all we are raised not to cry, not to be scared, to show no fear, and to be aggressive. All things that many women now struggle with dealing with. I agree with you on most of your post.. sorry but not all boys are raised being told not to cry, or raised agressive. I have 2 men i raised. Neither were taught agression or discouraged from crying. They were told they were free to express their feelings and encouraged to... i also set the example for this. Still... one of my sons will not cry... even though the tears are trying hard to come through... he holds back with all hes got... he also will not share his feelings at all. My older son shared his feelings from infantcy, and cries when he feels like it... go figure. Its all different. |
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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? Well, a man would explain his feelings if a woman would remain quiet long enough for the man to get a word in. 
Here come the rocks again. [Dodo_David runs away.] 
We would remain quiet long enough for a man to get a word in but it takes them so long to form a coherent thought that we'd have one foot in the grave before they could respond
With older men... SO true 
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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? For every one woman that wants a man to explain or express his feelings to them there are several women that would consider him weak and less than a man if he did. It is a difficult balancing act to know when and to whom to do this. After all we are raised not to cry, not to be scared, to show no fear, and to be aggressive. All things that many women now struggle with dealing with. I agree with you on most of your post.. sorry but not all boys are raised being told not to cry, or raised agressive. I have 2 men i raised. Neither were taught agression or discouraged from crying. They were told they were free to express their feelings and encouraged to... i also set the example for this. Still... one of my sons will not cry... even though the tears are trying hard to come through... he holds back with all hes got... he also will not share his feelings at all. My older son shared his feelings from infantcy, and cries when he feels like it... go figure. Its all different. I apologize - I should not of generalized the response as all men. |
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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? Because for most males there are only two that they and you as a female have to deal with 24-7. Most are hungry and horny.If you see one without an erection, make him a sandwich...
Yup, they're right... some men have classy jokes, and some just gross erection sex jokes. Rule of thumb should be, if there are ladies in the room, keep your sex jokes to yourself and other men. Not all women are tolerant of it. Im sick of reading it |
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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? For every one woman that wants a man to explain or express his feelings to them there are several women that would consider him weak and less than a man if he did. It is a difficult balancing act to know when and to whom to do this. After all we are raised not to cry, not to be scared, to show no fear, and to be aggressive. All things that many women now struggle with dealing with. I agree with you on most of your post.. sorry but not all boys are raised being told not to cry, or raised agressive. I have 2 men i raised. Neither were taught agression or discouraged from crying. They were told they were free to express their feelings and encouraged to... i also set the example for this. Still... one of my sons will not cry... even though the tears are trying hard to come through... he holds back with all hes got... he also will not share his feelings at all. My older son shared his feelings from infantcy, and cries when he feels like it... go figure. Its all different. I apologize - I should not of generalized the response as all men. Its ok, no apology needed. But thanks for throwing it out there so willingly. 
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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? Probadly because no matter what is asked from a male, the questions are somehow related to those 'top five questions that frighten most men', to wit: 1. "what are you thinking about?" 2. "Do you love me?" 3."Do I look fat?" 4. "Do you think she is prettier than me?" 5."What would you do if I died?" What makes these questions so difficult for most men to deal with is that they are all guaranteed to explode into a major argument if he answers incorrectly; that is, if he tells the truth and no amount of explanation will hide the truths afterwards. For example, the proper answer to the fist question is ,"I'm sorry if I have been distant, darling. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are and how lucky I am to have you in my life." This (usually spoon-gagging) answer obviously bears no resemblance whatsoever to the truth, which most likely is one of the following: A."Nothing" B."Football." C."Angelina Jolie naked." D. "How fat you are." E. "How I would spend the insurance money if you died." Question 2, the correct response is "Yes! I'm crazy about you!" Inappropriate but truthful answers may be: A."Sure,Doll! Heaps! Can we have sex now?" B."Would it make you feel better if I said yes?" C. "Can you define the concept 'love'?" D."I'm your husband...that's my job." E."I have sex with you, don't I?" F. "Who, me?" And things really get better after this...as all truths must be hidden as lies... 
No one needs this opinion... at all |
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well,it is hard for me to explain and express my feelings i'll make a sour or sulky face,but i wont tell you why am upset unless you keep pestering me why |
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well,it is hard for me to explain and express my feelings i'll make a sour or sulky face,but i wont tell you why am upset unless you keep pestering me why You have to be careful, some guys may dig a pouty look. Melissa Lee of CNBC has such a pout as a point of reference. |
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But on topic, some men; very few, practice chivalry. Most are going with the advantage of a poker face. Then a minority are openly emotional. Consider your firing ethnicity of choice purely as example. But I agree that an equal number of women see it as a sign of weakness. Especially if he's a timid man making little money.
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well,it is hard for me to explain and express my feelings i'll make a sour or sulky face,but i wont tell you why am upset unless you keep pestering me why same here :( |
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well,it is hard for me to explain and express my feelings i'll make a sour or sulky face,but i wont tell you why am upset unless you keep pestering me why You have to be careful, some guys may dig a pouty look. Melissa Lee of CNBC has such a pout as a point of reference. am fearless and reckless,i always challenge and fight with men.. wanna change it though |
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well,it is hard for me to explain and express my feelings i'll make a sour or sulky face,but i wont tell you why am upset unless you keep pestering me why same here :( |
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well,it is hard for me to explain and express my feelings i'll make a sour or sulky face,but i wont tell you why am upset unless you keep pestering me why same here :( nope,wat about it? |
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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? Probadly because no matter what is asked from a male, the questions are somehow related to those 'top five questions that frighten most men', to wit: 1. "what are you thinking about?" 2. "Do you love me?" 3."Do I look fat?" 4. "Do you think she is prettier than me?" 5."What would you do if I died?" What makes these questions so difficult for most men to deal with is that they are all guaranteed to explode into a major argument if he answers incorrectly; that is, if he tells the truth and no amount of explanation will hide the truths afterwards. For example, the proper answer to the fist question is ,"I'm sorry if I have been distant, darling. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are and how lucky I am to have you in my life." This (usually spoon-gagging) answer obviously bears no resemblance whatsoever to the truth, which most likely is one of the following: A."Nothing" B."Football." C."Angelina Jolie naked." D. "How fat you are." E. "How I would spend the insurance money if you died." Question 2, the correct response is "Yes! I'm crazy about you!" Inappropriate but truthful answers may be: A."Sure,Doll! Heaps! Can we have sex now?" B."Would it make you feel better if I said yes?" C. "Can you define the concept 'love'?" D."I'm your husband...that's my job." E."I have sex with you, don't I?" F. "Who, me?" And things really get better after this...as all truths must be hidden as lies...
No one needs this opinion... at all 
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Edited by
MetalShadow6
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Sun 02/17/13 06:53 PM
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well,it is hard for me to explain and express my feelings i'll make a sour or sulky face,but i wont tell you why am upset unless you keep pestering me why same here :( nope,wat about it? |
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Edited by
mountainwatergirl
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Sun 02/17/13 08:25 PM
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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? Probadly because no matter what is asked from a male, the questions are somehow related to those 'top five questions that frighten most men', to wit: 1. "what are you thinking about?" 2. "Do you love me?" 3."Do I look fat?" 4. "Do you think she is prettier than me?" 5."What would you do if I died?" What makes these questions so difficult for most men to deal with is that they are all guaranteed to explode into a major argument if he answers incorrectly; that is, if he tells the truth and no amount of explanation will hide the truths afterwards. For example, the proper answer to the fist question is ,"I'm sorry if I have been distant, darling. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are and how lucky I am to have you in my life." This (usually spoon-gagging) answer obviously bears no resemblance whatsoever to the truth, which most likely is one of the following: A."Nothing" B."Football." C."Angelina Jolie naked." D. "How fat you are." E. "How I would spend the insurance money if you died." Question 2, the correct response is "Yes! I'm crazy about you!" Inappropriate but truthful answers may be: A."Sure,Doll! Heaps! Can we have sex now?" B."Would it make you feel better if I said yes?" C. "Can you define the concept 'love'?" D."I'm your husband...that's my job." E."I have sex with you, don't I?" F. "Who, me?" And things really get better after this...as all truths must be hidden as lies...
No one needs this opinion... at all
You think having Jack tell me I will listen? Lol its YOUR truth... only your kind of man. I always stay away from. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Sun 02/17/13 11:31 PM
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Why is it hard for men to explain or express their feelings? Men have always had a problem communicating so expressing their feelings wouldn't come easy. I think this has been a great source of frustration for women in a relationship. Funny thing is I have never heard any woman say that a man that expresses his feelings is weak; I have only heard this comment from men. I think they are just raised to think this way rather than women saying they are weak. |
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When I reached the age of two, my father began spanking me for crying without a good reason. Looking back it may have been him refusing to be manipulated by my emotions. Although I think the spanking was going a little too far, I think he was right in principle. A man can't use his emotions to manipulate others. It's just not masculine.
Today, I often don't express some emotions simply because I don't want to feel them. I don't want to be sad. I'd rather do something that makes me happy. |
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When I reached the age of two, my father began spanking me for crying without a good reason. Looking back it may have been him refusing to be manipulated by my emotions. Although I think the spanking was going a little too far, I think he was right in principle. A man can't use his emotions to manipulate others. It's just not masculine. Today, I often don't express some emotions simply because I don't want to feel them. I don't want to be sad. I'd rather do something that makes me happy. great post |
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Edited by
mountainwatergirl
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Mon 02/18/13 09:46 AM
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I gave my older son something to cry about when he was trying to manipulate the situation with his crying. Nothing wrong with that in my book either. I didn't give him a beating. A light pop over his thick fluffy diaper, then sent him to his room until he wanted to change his approach. He learned very quickly not to cry to get his way...so instead, he learned to speak his emotions to me, and tell me what he wanted instead of throwing an emotional fit. Not that I raised my sons perfectly, but I feel this aspect went successfully.
My younger son, pretty much...never cried....and never showed anything he was thinking or feeling. I think his woman will have trouble with him in his future...and I'll be ready when she needs to come talk to me with her frustration. lol |
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