This is not a question only for guys but also for ladies. Just wanna get your insights

Certainly is, but I believe it is a rare occurence, despite what the ladies say, you will need to make the first move in my opinion.

Yeah, I also think it is rare but what if she asks you specifically? Would you automatically reject her or tell yourself 'its weird' and accept her?

I would never ask out a guy . I think a woman should smile and let guy know she's open to him approaching her .

May I ask why, my dear?

Oh great, this obviously means that any woman that smiles at me fancies me and wants me to ask them out.

I am with you, man

I would be surprised, but if there was some attraction there I would accept the invitation, and see how things developed on dating.

Good for you

If im interested, I will approach as a gentlmen. However, some woman can be assertive and make the first move, which usually is a subtle invitation. When a woman gives you that subtle smile indicating an invitation for you to approach, she actually made the first move. So in reality its not rare at all for a lady to make the first move, in fact its quite common. Its just subtle, most guys think they make the first move, but her invitation however subtle is truly the first move.

Not exactly. A smile is but a smile unless there is a certain type of smile. A deliberate smile, with eye contact is a good indication of interest, especialy if the smile follows intence eye contact. One must not confuse a quick polite smile as an invitation. A casual friendly smile is easy to spot, we just have to keep the ego in check as to not misinterpret a casual smile for one of interests. Embarassment usually follows misinterpretation.

Still pretty useless to me, what with me having poor eyesight.

Yes, I know women do that. Some shy men do it as well. The weird thing is that another thing people do when they are atracted to someone is to act cool, as if they aren't that bothered or as if they aren't going to make the moves because they expect people who fancy them to do that. It's all a game and I wish that more people (i.e, women) didn't insist on acting like kids.

I agree with you Tawt, I think the love thing should not be a game. I look at it as more of a dance. I enjoy the pursuit minus the games. Im a approacher, let the chips fall as they may. But I must admitt, having a woman approach is also nice. I dont see anything wrong with a lady approaching. I guess its all on about how one percieves dating today.

So, what does a male Melmacian have to do to get you to smile at him?

I've done it twice. I was shot down both times. I'd probably never do it again. I don't think my fragile ego could take it.

or we could knock him on the head and drag him home....a little equality perhaps????

I don't think there is a right or wrong with the answer to this question.it depends on both the man and lady,the lady should be sure that the man likes her alot and must also have put a lot of effort into attracting the guy before she thinks of approaching,in order to avoid humiliation of herself.I haven't done it but once i made a move on a guy into getting a date with him,but before that,i made sure evrytime i walk by him that i catch his attention and heavy eye to eye contact needed to tell a guy you like him,a smile is to vague..so i got 5 dates with him when i wanted just 1.lol..didn't work out,he had goodlooks only but dumb.

Approach me for a "serious relationship?" That seems a little creepy, don't you think?

How about if she approaches me for a date first? I'm cool with that. It's happened to me fairly often. But, women are lousy at starting a conversation with a stranger. They'd get better at it if they did it more often.

Hey, nobody asks you for a straight relationship out of the blue. Everybody knows dating precedes it. What kind of question is that? Obviously you......

Sorry about that. You know some with good looks are dumb while some who are smart dont have good looks. Dont be deceived by that. God works in mysterious ways.
But let me ask you this. Why do females always realise what that specific guy is after getting involved? I mean one can do it from the outside