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It was ingrained in me from my youth that as a female it is not my place to approach a man first, I was also taught never to smile provocatively nor make direct lingering eye contact because men can misconstrue the look. My mother was of French ancestry and she was rigid concerning the way she expected me to behave in mixed company. I have a natural swagger to my hips also, so when I walk I look sassy, and men find this attractive. My mother told me I walked too sexy and needed to tone it down. But, I can't help the way God put me together, and to this day I still twist when walking, it's not done purposely, I can assure you. With this said, I also don't mind saying that at my age I would like to feel comfortable making an advance and letting a man know I'm interested, instead of suffering in silence. But, I can't seem to get my mother's face and words out of my head when it comes to the roles both genders are expected to follow. So, no I will never approach a man first about having a serious relationship.
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It was ingrained in me from my youth that as a female it is not my place to approach a man first, I was also taught never to smile provocatively nor make direct lingering eye contact because men can misconstrue the look. My mother was of French ancestry and she was rigid concerning the way she expected me to behave in mixed company. I have a natural swagger to my hips also, so when I walk I look sassy, and men find this attractive. My mother told me I walked too sexy and needed to tone it down. But, I can't help the way God put me together, and to this day I still twist when walking, it's not done purposely, I can assure you. With this said, I also don't mind saying that at my age I would like to feel comfortable making an advance and letting a man know I'm interested, instead of suffering in silence. But, I can't seem to get my mother's face and words out of my head when it comes to the roles both genders are expected to follow. So, no I will never approach a man first about having a serious relationship. Too bad. |
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Feminine women don't approach men. Men have an approach mechanism, women have a filtering mechanism. This is why men get approach anxiety and women are ******* :)
-Trev |
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Feminine women don't approach men. Men have an approach mechanism, women have a filtering mechanism. This is why men get approach anxiety and women are ******* :) -Trev Seriously; just because a woman has the guts to approach a man first; she is not feminine? Where did you get that silly idea? 
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Feminine women don't approach men. Men have an approach mechanism, women have a filtering mechanism. This is why men get approach anxiety and women are ******* :) -Trev Seriously; just because a woman has the guts to approach a man first; she is not feminine? Where did you get that silly idea?
Feel sorry for him. He is deeply engrossed in men's world. When was this? The Australopithecus years? Today is a world of equality |
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Feminine women don't approach men. Men have an approach mechanism, women have a filtering mechanism. This is why men get approach anxiety and women are ******* :) -Trev Seriously; just because a woman has the guts to approach a man first; she is not feminine? Where did you get that silly idea?
Feel sorry for him. He is deeply engrossed in men's world. When was this? The Australopithecus years? Today is a world of equality Yeah; this why I was laughing at the statement. 
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Feminine women don't approach men. Men have an approach mechanism, women have a filtering mechanism. This is why men get approach anxiety and women are ******* :) -Trev Seriously; just because a woman has the guts to approach a man first; she is not feminine? Where did you get that silly idea?
Feel sorry for him. He is deeply engrossed in men's world. When was this? The Australopithecus years? Today is a world of equality Yeah; this why I was laughing at the statement.
We all have to laugh. Keep it up! |
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Feminine women don't approach men. Men have an approach mechanism, women have a filtering mechanism. This is why men get approach anxiety and women are ******* :) -Trev Seriously; just because a woman has the guts to approach a man first; she is not feminine? Where did you get that silly idea?
Feel sorry for him. He is deeply engrossed in men's world. When was this? The Australopithecus years? Today is a world of equality Yeah; this why I was laughing at the statement.
Well Navy Girl, got to go. It is 10 past midnight here and got to sleep. Bye |
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Feminine women don't approach men. Men have an approach mechanism, women have a filtering mechanism. This is why men get approach anxiety and women are ******* :) -Trev Seriously; just because a woman has the guts to approach a man first; she is not feminine? Where did you get that silly idea?
Feel sorry for him. He is deeply engrossed in men's world. When was this? The Australopithecus years? Today is a world of equality Yeah; this why I was laughing at the statement.
Well Navy Girl, got to go. It is 10 past midnight here and got to sleep. Bye Good night and sweet dreams. |
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I've done it twice. I was shot down both times. I'd probably never do it again. I don't think my fragile ego could take it. Hell, Baby. I get shot down a few times a day. It's all in the game. Score once out of 20 times it's win-win. 
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It was ingrained in me from my youth that as a female it is not my place to approach a man first, I was also taught never to smile provocatively nor make direct lingering eye contact because men can misconstrue the look. My mother was of French ancestry and she was rigid concerning the way she expected me to behave in mixed company. I have a natural swagger to my hips also, so when I walk I look sassy, and men find this attractive. My mother told me I walked too sexy and needed to tone it down. But, I can't help the way God put me together, and to this day I still twist when walking, it's not done purposely, I can assure you. With this said, I also don't mind saying that at my age I would like to feel comfortable making an advance and letting a man know I'm interested, instead of suffering in silence. But, I can't seem to get my mother's face and words out of my head when it comes to the roles both genders are expected to follow. So, no I will never approach a man first about having a serious relationship. That sucks. How? What do you do to let a guy know you have an interest? |
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I've done it twice. I was shot down both times. I'd probably never do it again. I don't think my fragile ego could take it. I have been shot down more times than I can count and I even get shot down when asking a guy to dance. 
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I don't approach anyone - men or women - with the intention of anything serious (unless he is Keanu Reeves - lol).
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I never asked a guy out for a date,am a girl with very high ego and very stubborn..wat I do is I try to catch his gaze if I find him attractive,but if you ask me how I can't tell you exactly how
And if he is a shy boy but interested in me,I'll ask him out indirectly,maybe ask him a favor to go buy some stuffs with me. |
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Anyway Tex, I think you are confusing someone's ability to chat up someone else in order to get a date with just being able to start and hold up their end of a conversation. Women do not have problems talking. Women love to talk. You may not be particularly interested in the things that women like to talk about because while they are rabbiting on all you're thinking about is getting your end away or football but "women don't know how to have a proper conversation" is a rather daft thing to say. That's not what I said. I said women are not good at starting a conversation with a stranger. Yes, women will talk your ear off once they know you. But, they just aren't used to saying hello and introducing themselves. |
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Feminine women don't approach men. Men have an approach mechanism, women have a filtering mechanism. This is why men get approach anxiety and women are ******* :) -Trev Seriously; just because a woman has the guts to approach a man first; she is not feminine? Where did you get that silly idea?
I Agree!!!
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Anyway Tex, I think you are confusing someone's ability to chat up someone else in order to get a date with just being able to start and hold up their end of a conversation. Women do not have problems talking. Women love to talk. You may not be particularly interested in the things that women like to talk about because while they are rabbiting on all you're thinking about is getting your end away or football but "women don't know how to have a proper conversation" is a rather daft thing to say. That's not what I said. I said women are not good at starting a conversation with a stranger. Yes, women will talk your ear off once they know you. But, they just aren't used to saying hello and introducing themselves. Is this the bit where I give you counterexamples, like my sister who is married to a really shy guy that she initially aproached and you tell me that you are speaking in generalities and the rule is still true even if there are exceptions? |
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For me, If I like what I see??? I have NO problems approaching a man for whatever I am after. I will pounce. No problem. Seductively with humor....works every time. I really don't know why women don't like to make the move. Maybe they are more afraid of rejection than men are. Good response.
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Edited by
navygirl
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Thu 02/14/13 03:02 PM
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Anyway Tex, I think you are confusing someone's ability to chat up someone else in order to get a date with just being able to start and hold up their end of a conversation. Women do not have problems talking. Women love to talk. You may not be particularly interested in the things that women like to talk about because while they are rabbiting on all you're thinking about is getting your end away or football but "women don't know how to have a proper conversation" is a rather daft thing to say. That's not what I said. I said women are not good at starting a conversation with a stranger. Yes, women will talk your ear off once they know you. But, they just aren't used to saying hello and introducing themselves. Is this the bit where I give you counterexamples, like my sister who is married to a really shy guy that she initially aproached and you tell me that you are speaking in generalities and the rule is still true even if there are exceptions? Yes; according to him this and many other generalities are still true. Forget exceptions as to him they don't count as it's your personal experience and that doesn't account for all the other women out there.
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It was ingrained in me from my youth that as a female it is not my place to approach a man first, I was also taught never to smile provocatively nor make direct lingering eye contact because men can misconstrue the look. My mother was of French ancestry and she was rigid concerning the way she expected me to behave in mixed company. I have a natural swagger to my hips also, so when I walk I look sassy, and men find this attractive. My mother told me I walked too sexy and needed to tone it down. But, I can't help the way God put me together, and to this day I still twist when walking, it's not done purposely, I can assure you. With this said, I also don't mind saying that at my age I would like to feel comfortable making an advance and letting a man know I'm interested, instead of suffering in silence. But, I can't seem to get my mother's face and words out of my head when it comes to the roles both genders are expected to follow. So, no I will never approach a man first about having a serious relationship. That sucks. How? What do you do to let a guy know you have an interest? I'm learning how to flirt... I think... But I'm not sure if it's actually flirting, or just being playful... Since I've been online these last few months after I divorced my husband, it's easier to express what I feel when I'm alone here and it's just me and my computer. And I can express my desires in my writing, poems and short stories... that's a big step for me... and I'm trying to look at men's profiles more... I also told someone today that I like him... only I don't know too much about him other than what I see on the forums, but I like that part of him, so I told him so. And he didn't run away in disgust, so I think I will get more courage to step outside my comfort zone the more I communicate online. I know it's a rather dysfunctional way to learn how to become an adult, but I'll use whatever I have access too in order to continue to grow and mature properly for my age... |
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