What MariahsFantasy said....

Is that bad?

Younger chicks are cool...ya just gotta swat em with a rolled up newspaper when they pee on the carpet.

Can you wait another four years?

I think people have to learn by walking their own paths. What will be hard for you to comprehend is how much you are going to chabge in your personality, desires, and abilities nopefully between 18 and 26.

If you do not make a decision that locks you into a certain path. That can be many things from pregnancy (the most common occurance for a woman living with anyone accidents or planned and then regretted if not by total just by timeing. An older spouse may think another kid is no big deal until a younger woman wants them to step up a lot more than maybe a previous spouse. The fact that an older partner may also have older chidren who will not oblige a younger sibling even thought htey thought the ortiginal match was going to be cool until the pecking order shakes out.

An unequal relationship (also very common especially where age is a disparity which often means someone streaching to live in the othe's era; tastes, and maybe less flexibility to let the younger person grow.) and often results in chronic stress rather than the kick back peace and cosyiness even adoration that starts out with but that often exists upfront when one person feels they are getting status by having the other but looses value when the reality sinks in..

Of course the spector of violence has to be considered (not uncommon when one person has more economic power and maybe has put the other at a social disadvantage of not being able to have equal friends family accepting the relationship, and last but rarely considered unknown health issues comeing up. Young twenty somethings "developeing" expensive dental issues, depression, addictions, or other hidden things like sports injuries that got worse can be a very unwelcome burden. An older spouse doesn't seem like a big deal until suddenly their looks take serious dip when hair starts to fall out, vision fades, maybe ulcers start making for food restrictions, or the fact that they may have shut down the baby making equipment or again addictions that seemed harmless in the begining. That an older spouse is more than likely to have at least one significant other in their life with health issues is very high wheather and ex, child, or parent. Then to face all thhese common life issies in a rerun when the younger spouse goes through them can be tough.

What few people think about in their 20-30-40's decade is the disparity when the couple ages later in life. It can mean one spouse carrying the whole load as an older dater, divorce, or widower , None of which are a lot of fun if you can avoid it

Are there acceptions to these scenario's? Sure if the people have similiar tempos and compatiable maturity levels. I have seen some 18 year olds that have the family background that makes them comfortable with and older spouse and who been thorugh enough that they want harmony enough to wrk toward it long term it is just important that they are not looking for a more permissive parent/provicer. If life goals are REALLY not too dimiliar sometimes it can work. The difficult thing is life goals often change in that 18- to 26 range.

Let me tell you something folks. I've been talking to Karolin for several days now. Messaging back and forth here on site. I'll be honest and say that I don't know how she would be in person, Talking here,she doesn't sound 18. She is way older in her mind. Her way of thinking is of someone much older than 18. To talk to her she sounds 30 to maybe 35 yrs old. It wouldn't do for her to be about 400 miles closer to me. I do believe I would have to meet her if it was OK with her.

This is why I don't believe in age,in the number sense should be a factor in whether we should date someone or not. Me, The youngest I've dated was 25. This one showed me something. I had a very good time with her because in her mind she wasn't 25. At the time I was 44 and she was just as mature as any 35 to 40 yr old woman I had dated. I could actually talk to her. Mind to mind.

To me it's where you are in life that counts. Also, I do believe how a man or woman is raised by their parents has a lot to do with it. I have a 15 yr old son. He doesn't act like most 15 yr olds. He acts a lot older. You would think he's 18 to 20. I think it's because of how I raised him. I raised him from a young age knowing how to use his head and be responsible for his actions. I do believe that's what's wrong with a lot of the young now. Mom & dad didn't take enough of an active part in their lives.

It hasn't been that long ago when it was totally acceptable for a man of 45 to date and marry a young woman of 20 to 25. It was very common in the 60's and 70's. If you stop and think about it, It hasn't been that long ago. I do believe one of the reasons it's not as acceptable now as it was, Is because the age of maturity has dropped so much in the past 20 maybe 30 yrs. I can tell that most 18 to 20 yr olds now aren't as mature as the same ages just 10 yrs ago. And certainly not as mature as kids my age in the late 70's.

One last thing, Another reason, Most young girls now are not taught to be home makers anymore. I think the late 60's and 70's were last of that. Now they are taught to go out and make it on their own. To he11 with a man. At one time they were taught that they needed a man. So that made it more acceptable for a young girl to marry an older man. Now, Men and women really don't need each other. Not like they use to.

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nothing is absolute, when we take the time to know individuals we may find a match,, however

when we are looking at 'age ranges' there is solid biological evidence of developmental differences up to an until the age of 25 even

although the LAW aknowledges the age of 18, I personally view MOST at that age as emotionally children and see the people who seek their companionship (based upon their age group) as no less odd than pedophiles,,,even though their age obsession is not an illegal one



if there is an individual spark that happens with that rare 18-21 year old who actually has matured,,thats quite a bit different than having an obsession with the age group when one has long ago been IN that age range themself,,,,

I have dated men always at 5-10 years older than me, just so we can have decent conversations. However when I was younger I kept it in my age range until after I was 21. There is just something sick about a man who is over 25 who finds interest in a girl who is barely legal. It's borderline just SICK, you should be very careful ant who you choose.

As long as everyone is legal, it should be no problem.

I think that hits the nail on the head. I have found guys my age acting very immature for their age; so they end up dating much younger women. Its not that younger people are more mature; its that older people have become more immature which is why these relationships happen.

Men like a tight body too, and as you grow old together, they like to grow away to a much younger tighter body... IMO, which is why they select such youngens in the first place.

By "tighter body", do you mean "less obese"?

Here is the funny thing. A lot of younger guys want to be with a woman who is older. Could be the whole cougar/milf fantasy. Or it could be that they want a mature woman cause she will (more than likely) get his azz into shape (mentally, financially, etc.)

Flip this to older men. Some older guys love the younger women for those tight bodies, or the immature level (As some have stated in this thread). Or, it could be just for some fun sex.

Now....here is my question. Why do younger women like older men? Is it the security factor? Such as the older man has a solid career and the young girl is like a "trophy wife" type. Or he makes good money and she knows she will be taken care of. She isn't necessarily the trophy wife but she is good to him?

Are you suggesting that a woman chooses a man because he can give her the kind of lifestyle that she wants?

I'm not suggesting anything. I am merely asking if that is a factor. From what I have witnessed, I have seen it work out that way where a young woman will be with a man for that financial security. But I am sure that isn't always the case. I was asking what other reasons would there be?

I could also make an argument that not all men who are older want a younger woman cause she has a tight body. It's possible to make a connection with someone younger than you. You just never know. Now...could the vast majority of older men go for the younger chick just cause she has the hot bod? Of course. But I dunno the statistis on it so it's all subjective.

the older guy with a younger girl thing easily comes off as creepy because of the whole father complex.
i'm positive that the majority of the girls who like older guys have this going on.
i also believe some older guys are just creepy bastards that actually like to feel like their partner's father.
the whole daddy/daughter roleplay comes to mind.
gag.
i'm twenty-one.
i'm attracted to older gents.
i have a negative father complex.
which makes it less creepy.
at least i think so.
o.O
and it has nothing to do with financial security.

There are also cultural issues to consider. People in African and Asian nations may have different reasons for accepting a large age gap between a man and a woman.

I like the fact that an older man generally has a career established, usually knows what kind of things he wants. He's gone through enough with relationships to where he puts it out there, and no games. If I can find a younger guy closer to my age with an established career, has his head on correctly, then I will go for a younger guy. But usually they are not into all those things.