What sucks about that is you really don't think that's what they're after right away.

So, if an 18-year-old woman is interested in a man twice her age, then that's OK.

If a 36-year-old man is interested in a woman half his age, is it still OK?

Exactly! It takes 90 days before they muster up the nerve to try to turn me into the perfect lame sitcom dad.

The thing that I don't get -- if that's who they want (not that there's anything wrong with that), why not go after THAT guy in the first place? Wouldn't that make more sense than trying to get with the OPPOSITE of that guy, and then trying to TURN him INTO that guy?

This is why I avoid going outside. There's people there you know? Phuck, trying to turn me into a zombie as well. Not just a parent but men totally want you to be a certain way. I'm sorry I am a straight shooter here. And it AIN'T on my own terms. I told you how I felt and now you're playing games. I just get tired of all the bs drama.

You expect women to make sense?

[ David runs away as the women start picking up rocks. ]

I feel like it is okay, but we already know where I stand on the issue

Yeah, I do.

Same here. I'm not at all ambiguous or vague about what I'm looking for in a partner. Then they tell me they're looking for the same thing, only they're not. Why pretend? How am I supposed to build a relationship with someone when she won't even tell me what she really wants out of it?

Exactly! There is no point in a relationship if you cannot say what you want out of it, or if you don't even know!

You should see some of the e-mails I get. They want to argue about it -- tell me why what I want is wrong, why my preferences are wrong. I mean -- OK, a little presumptuous here, aren't we? Always from women with kids who want to tell me why I'd be better off with a woman with kids. Uh, no, I've done that already and, uh, no thanks.

But I don't try to tell them that THEY'RE wrong -- it's simply not my place to do so. I think everybody has the right to determine their OWN preferences and deal-breakers, and age is often one of them....

Yep. It's all about the individual, and what they prefer in a relationship.

You don't see this initially, only hits you head on a mile away when the unnecessary judgements come into play. If people talked more, they really would understand you, if they cared to. Turns out its their own feelings they are worried about, not yours.

Absolutely.

And I've had it happen often enough that I now expect it as an inevitability.

For most people, there is a wholly preconceived agenda that overrules anything and everything else....

Its a sad reality to accept. Why do we HAVE to predict such negativity well-into something brand new? I'm struggling with that.

And the agenda changes spring every time. I risked a lot more than him, I don't know why HE is acting like the scared one.

ur choice of topics appears to be matured n hints at ur mental maturity irrespective of ur age so u may be likely to enjoy company of mature men.nothing wrong as far as dating is concerned but yes for marriage in my opinion age does matter.

I would actually have no problem being in a marriage with a man who is let's say 35, and me being 18. I have always had older friends, and been around people who are older than me.

In Vegas and Los Angeles, it's fine.

I was 16 banging my mom's best friend who was a hot banker and twice my age.

My first wife told me she dated older men before she met me. I was cool with it.

After my second divorce, I met a gorgeous 62 yo at my shop and dated her... but she wanted to get married and travel the world with me. On my dime.

Went back to Vegas and dated young twenties. I know why they want to get into bed with me. Because I'm bad...

I don't think you should put a cap on how old you'll date because the older person should be attractive based on their experiences or their chemistry with you is right.

On another dating site I get a lot of 21 - 18 year olds hit on me.

Age is a number and love goes where it goes. There is a legal age in most countries at which people decide for themselves. If you are happy, KUDOS to you. If you are not happy, look elsewhere. JMHO

And there was that famous Mormon leader, Brigham Young. He changed the spelling of his name from Bring'em Younger.