If they're not purring, just scratch them behind the ears, that usually gets them purring.

true. u also find out if they washed behind their ears that way

when a person knows how to do something that person gust gets better....if your a women i would love to take a chance.

r u offerring to lick the backs of my ears??/


I didn't think there were any firsts left for me

If you're close enough to lick a cougar behind the ears, you're close enough to get your throat ripped out.

Just an observation....

They act mean, but deep down they're really cuddly.

and pouncy

cougars are nice to their prey

They are very affectionate.

Ok cool. I'm not any of those things either so I'm still just me. Phew. Dig it.

Thanks for that reality filled response. I know he doesn't know what he wants. He's been back and forth a few times, telling me that he couldn't see me anymore, that it wasn't right, then coming back. I tried to find out where he stood. He told me that I couldn't be his girlfriend, that I should find someone closer to my own age. I didn't go out and look. I never go out and look. It just happens. We meet who we meet when we are supposed to meet them, though we may not know why at the time, or ever for that matter. I wasn't afraid to continue, but I did pull back some emotionally after his departure just after New Years.

Thomas wasn't just a boytoy. He knew that. I never viewed him that way. The first night I didn't take him home to **** him. I thought he was cool and interesting and I wanted to talk to him and show him my wood because he was as into nature as I was. I honestly didn't think he'd have any interest in getting physical with me. But he did. And then I figured I'd never hear from him after that. But I did. And then it was up/down/back/forth for three months. When we finally reached what I thought was our agreement...IT IS WHAT IT IS...things were smooth until this. And now I wonder...maybe I don't really know what I want either.

I'm getting confused. But I refuse to get sad. It will all work out the way it's supposed to. I surrender to the Universe. What will be will be.

in a lot of ways u guys sound like any 2 people in love at a cross roads - irrespective of ur ages. maybe there are trade offs - what u bring to the table in maturity - he contributes by bringing u joy (at least usually) and this what I am seeing here

we were absolutely in love with each other right from the beginning. then the message started in his head that he shouldn't be with me because of the age difference. and so he fought it. he fought us. and he went back and forth because of it. i understood what he was going through. so when he came back, i accepted it. i understand why he felt the need to flee. and after he came back the second time, i knew that he would always come back.

in fact...after i began typing this, i sent him a text. and now we are communicating again. and i'll just see how it goes. so thank you.

It looks as though we may be having a late night meeting. To talk. And whatever else we want to do.

nice! < the real human brain

so what's up peeps?

I think I'm going to up my age requirement. These really young ones are making me crazy.

How's everyone doing?

how did the late night talk go? Is he driving you crazy?

that's middle age spread (aka body fat), but it is cuddly and squishy

Even now that I am shedding some pounds YAY - I dont ever wanna loose the cuddles completely