ask them if they are married or taken before you meet them?
for whatever your reasons maybe for asking them?
should this make someone angry when you ask them this?
rather meeting the opposite sex for friends or possible interest more than that in them?

what are your thoughts?

If it was U it wouldnt matter!! U are way to beautiful to care!!

if i asked you this before meeting you would you get angry? and if so why? or if not why do u feel one would sound angry? think it could be short temper?

It's good to know that stuff before meeting or anything. That's one of the reason you should talk for a while before meeting.

I've never asked or been asked those kinds of questions. I've never asked either. I usually do talk for a while before meeting though.

No its a great question to ask!!! I DONT get involved with married or commited women, BUT I have been lied to at the moment and then found out the next morning That they were and didnt want it to get out!! Excellent question for both sexxes!!

is it so wrong of me to not want to get into the middle of a relationship? i know id be upset if someone i was with going to meet new women for even friends... so perhaps my thinking is off the wall.. but i would not want to take a chance of being a part of someone getting hurt, knowingly or not knowingly that is why i asked outta respect for relationships.....

Me, I think I'd be offended. My profile specifically states that I've never been married. To ask if I'm lying, well you destroyed any chance at having trust in the relationship to start. To assume that I'm here just to find some "girl on the side," what does that tell me of your personality? It sure isn't going to endear me to someone when the first thing they say is "are you lying to me?"

Those are great questions to ask before anything is started. It wouldn't upset me at all. I think if someone did get upset when being asked those questions, it's because they are trying to or doing something they know is wrong.

well i know this can happen.. however if you outright asked in the first place at least you gave the extra effort.... and i have talked to this person for sometime... pages of emails.. it never really got brought up... sure it says divorced on the profile...

If you don´t want to be in the middle of a relationship you ask him off bat. And that goes with friendly meetings as well, you don´t want to later fall in love with a taken man. You do this for yourself, not out of respect for his relationship since you are the one that will be facing the dramas and the heartbreaks later on. If its a booty call, then you shouldn´t be carring....

I think you're absolutely right in asking those questions. How else would you know enough to be comfortable in meeting in the first place? If he gets mad at you for asking that, then he's probably got something to hide, and even if he doesn't, is it someone you really want to get to know(with that kind of reaction)?

My dear U can NEVER be sure until U talk to them every day and there is NO excuses!!! My sweetie and I talk about eveything and are VERY honest with each other, its the only way it can work!!

i see your point.. i just never thought of it that way...

well i do care too and respect myself and would never do that that is why i asked! but also out of respect to a partner if they had one... i do value relationships.. and i would not want someone doing that to me... i do unto others as i wish they would do unto me.. strangers or not lol

Trust is something you establish with a person, its not given for free. If its something that will effect my life, and my heart you better believe Ill be asking........and you need not get offened. Its just a question........the person on the other end is needing reassurance, and there´s nothing wrong with giving it if you got nothing to hide. Then and there will that tell you what kind of person you are. Don´t expect to be believed, trust is nurtured.

Amen and well spoken my dear friend!!

i mean like if you were out.. say dancing.. you see someone with thier friends that interests you... maybe you know their friends too.. is it so un natural to ask the friends if that person is single? first before you show interest in them?

well online you dont know their friends so why would it be wrong to ask?
do you suppose their friends arent going to go tell them that u asked? lol
ive asked lots of times like this dancing , or other places and no one ever got pissy at me for doing that..

well if they do have a partner and they put on their profile they don´t means they not carring to much about them and looking for that booty call or a long term love affair......

Just ask the question for pete´s sake!!!!!!

Thank you darlin.....

i did!!!! he got mad! lmao!