I just meet women to bone, I could care less what their marital status is

Your posts are still predictable as ever, even after not being around! At least you're consistent.

Making sure someone you like is actually single, Isn't mistrust in my opinion. I think it shows more respect for yourself and your desire to be with someone who is not taken (which I applaud ). If you cannot ask a simple question like "are you single" when getting to know someone new, w/o that person getting all upset, that's a red flag to me. Are you supposed to stifle any "iffy" questions for the duration of the relationship? I would rather be with someone that enjoys the conversation following a good question, instead of someone that dodges, deflects, avoids answering and gets angry. Seems to me the latter would be hiding something.

Usually it is out of the way before meeting, just to be sure I also take a really big knife...well, I don't actually take the knife to be sure of that...

I don't think anyone should get angry, I certainly wouldn't get angry, I may laugh a lot about it though.

Friends is different, if I'm meeting friends they are usually guys anyway...my only stipulation is that whoever they're married to isn't psychotic, I hate competition.

Those are my thoughts.

well its quite understandable.. if he felt angry that it came across to him that i was assuming that he was lying to me. though it had not a thing to do with that.. things change.. and people do forget to change their profiles.. for whatever reasons each has to stay on this site all differs from one person to the next.. some stay when they found someone , some go.... everyone is different and has different thoughts... or reasoning's for things that they ask or things that they do... but unless you ask i dont think anything should be assumed, and i dont think chewing someone a new *** hole is the way to go about it.

ask them if they are married or taken before you meet them?

Hmm. Okay, so this is an online question. Different if asking in a job interview or in the real world. Response then might be, "Its none of your business or are you blind and can't see the ring on my finger". Or just the, "Whats it to you, bub? Are you doing a survey?" Are you interviewing for the Family Feud show?

for whatever your reasons maybe for asking them?

Heck, I was just curious. No need to get all defensive with me.

should this make someone angry when you ask them this?

I would think not. To me it might mean they are interested in me. Who knows for what reason but it sure would cut to the chase. I wouldn't be offended.

rather meeting the opposite sex for friends or possible interest more than that in them?

Oh, heck I already got the names of the kids prepared.

I always break the ice with a simple question like "so how is it someone like you isn't married yet?"

It is cliche, but I think it comes off better than "so, are you married?"

ask them if they are married or taken before you meet them?
- Absolutely! I also look for hints of them fibbing; suddenly have to end conversations; can only talk during certain times of day, etc.

should this make someone angry when you ask them this?
- If they are defensive for having this question posed - they might have something to hide or they are not being forthright or they are seemly too private and not willing to open up. Regardless of which reason - this is a red flag.

rather meeting the opposite sex for friends or possible interest more than that in them?
- I'm not sure what you are asking here.

There are a lot of people who'll just lie to you with a straight face even IF you ask 'em ... I'd just as soon pay the fee for a background check if I'm gonna get serious with someone. They don't need to know, and I'm assured I'm not getting involved with some woman who has a now-pissed husband who has ready access to my name, address, and a meat cleaver ... bad combination. Pay the money.

Haha, I'm yet to find a background check that can pick me up. Pretty neat actually.

Not that they don't usually work, they are excellent resources...I just find it funny that none of them have been able to pick me up.

hence i was interested... of course i did want to meet as a friend first... we share many interests.. for me too i do need to be attracted physically as well..to some point and not a whole lot..to go further than a friendship.

so i always wondered why people ask.." so why are you still single" i never realized why they asked too funny!!

Unfortunately people lie all of the time.

Consider allowing a person to broach the subject with you to verify ONE time that you are truly single. If they seem to re-hash the topic or get insecure then you might have reason to become annoyed.

From my perspective, even when I read this in a person’s profile, I will ask. If they become defensive, that is a red flag to me. If their attitude is one of inconvenience that is almost as bad as someone who won’t open up and communicate without being put-off.

Being a good conversationalist is extremely important and that means talking about things that are sometimes irritating or uncomfortable.

I think it's silly to ask that question. If I were married I wouldn't be on a dating site. I always assume they are single.

So Buttons, how is it someone like you isn't married yet?

I think there's a difference between people who are asking because they want to make sure they're dealing with someone single and people who check up on everything. The people who check up on everything get annoying pretty quickly, so I can see how someone might be bothered by that. I'm certainly not going to get mad at someone for asking if I'm single. But, sometimes it follows them checking up on various things I've said in my profile. That gets a bit old.

... my best answer to my knowledge is how can i get married or be taken when i haven't had the opportunity to date? doesn't a date have to come first? and last yr when i had a few... they weren't the right person for me. does that not make sense? if not feel free to ask more!

I would assume they do it for the same reason I do...but that would be brash of me. Like I said it just sounds better than coming straight out and asking, and usually I'm actually interested as to how they are still single...some pretty beautiful women, just doesn't make sense to me that they are still single.

You are so hot...I'm not even remotely bi-curious but I would do you Pata!!!

I agree – there is a fine line.

That’s why I don’t mind giving someone ONE pass to get it out of their system and ask, “Are you really single”? (not a background check but just the basics).

If they continue to snoop and burden me with their questions and follow-ups – I drop them! This behavior doesn’t bode well for the future.