ya know..I've always had the "stud"..you know the type..full of himself because he's so good looking that he could have anyone he wanted and you should be priviledged he chose you...that guy!!! I guess because I was also attractive (back then) it was easy, but this is one thing I found out while in between boyfriends...

The guy I remember most is the man I met through a singles line. We met for lunch and when I saw him, I almost turned around and walked out...I decided to stay, and although I laughed so hard and enjoyed our time together, he was not someone I would be proud to show off to mom due to the fact he wasn't that good lookin...but this is what I found out later... he called me later that week to ask me out again and I told him I had already met someone else who I was going to try to "make a go of it" with, his comment was..well if it doesn't work out, I'd love to take you out sometime. THAT left an impression with me..well...just so happens it didn't work out with that guy, so I called him back and we went for a ride that afternoon on his motorcycle...I had a BLAST so we saw each other the next day...and the next...and the next. What I found out (and I needed to learn this) was that as we enjoyed each other more and more, he became the most attractive man to me physically as well...I actually fell in love with him from the inside out...all my life I had it backwards, never giving the "mediocre" or average guy a chance. I'm so glad I had that experience. LOL...funny thing is, he ended up breaking up with me and breaking MY heart, but God taught me a valuable lesson at that time in my life, and I'll never forget it. Just because I'm not physically attracted to someone at the time I first meet them, doesn't mean he's not my soulmate!!
I'm not the "looker" I once was, but maybe one day a man will want to spend time with me over lunch one day...and we'll laugh alot and enjoy each other's company...and who knows....good luck in your search everyone!

Hello

You mean it doesn't?

Don't worry, there may be a lot of Texans, but distance is a biotch and makes up for it.

Who wants to date a 2X4?

Or a horse?! Of course, the right stud horse, gets his azz trounced by the mares and learns to respect the ladies.

Oh look, cookie!

I'd have lunch or dinner with you,,,and even breakfast,
well,,you know what I mean,,,,,,

hello ther how are u today-

im 43 and back out there

i think ive been doing it wrong for the last 17 years...if not i would have found the right one by now...lol

Thanks for the story ladylove
I too have experienced something similar and it is truly a lesson learned. As the saying goes, never judge a book by its cover.

I'm thinking we've all felt that a quite often Gerry! It'll happen when the time is right...no doubt! Hell...I'm 47 and still have hope!

oh i still have hope...im always very hopeful...its what keeps me going

we always did it wrong....just pretended we did it right....

I THINK I have a date tonight,,with Miss Right......



BUT,,,then,,again,,,I might use,,,,Miss Left!!!!

Its really hard for me to get back out there. I was with him a long time and I feel like I dont have a clue how this works anymore. I have kind went out on a few dates but I dont find myself interested in the person. SOME reasons might be that the first thing they say is something about sex. I am a person who knows its part of a relationship but I dont believe its first time talking or to be used disrespectfully towards someone. It all has a time or place. At the rate I'm going I will be single for the rest of my life. There doesn't seem to be good men out there I would say anymore but I dont recall ever meeting a good man to start with. I know what one is only because Ive seen it first hand. I think one of these days a one I'm interested in will come along and I will at least be happy even if its not the relationship I would like to find.

Dating sucks...and it thrilling, scary, amazing, & wonderful at the same time. When I said "I do" 20 years ago, I thought that it was forever. I was so glad I had gotten through the dating experience, found my "Mr. Wonderful" and had made it to the finish line. And how did that work out for me, you ask? Well, here I am, a Mingler.

So I look at it one of two ways: I can run and hide with my head stuck in the sand, grumbling every time the opportunity presents itself, or look at it as an adventure. I love the fact that I am older and wiser now, able to understand and decipher what once was foreign to me.

So just sit back and enjoy yourself. Even if your knight in shining armor has taken a wrong turn and is afraid to ask for directions, you never know what new friends are waiting for you on your horizon

I am tip toeing in here.....I want to date younger women (a few years) and my last lady friend was younger....I have found it hard to date the age group I desire, but when givin the chance I have been very lucky that I am desired for meeeee and not the age thingy. I get the shakes, feel like a young um again, but I just put myself out there and, say...Let's dance.

When I was in my 20's I dated alot of people , now I'm 47 and getting back out there after 11 years of a tumultulous relationship. I don't know what to say, how to dress, where to go, and how to get over all the self esteem issues I did'nt have when I was in my 20's.