Cutts, you still out there? We do care about you, please talk to one of us. We don't want you to hurt yourself. Talk to MB or me. We care.

Cutts...between Marie and myself, we have alot of experience. Talk to us...either here or in e-mail. Whatever it takes....

Amber - I understand how your mom is with her smoking, under stress I am sure she is likely smoking more. Just like when we try to diet, then end up eating more. There is a new drug on the market just for people quitting smoking, Chantix, it is apparently really good and has helped many people stop who have been smoking for years and years, and apparently doesn't have really bad side effects. That might help your mom. Maybe ask her doc about it, but if she is going to have surgery, they might not want to start her on any new meds either.

Will keep you and your family in my prayers. Take care.

Ken, Marie, I've been where y'all and Cutts have been too.........i sent him an email.........25 mins and no reply........i hope he's ok.

He didn't respond to us either Amber. He logged off shortly after posting this. We are just hoping he is okay.

I hope you are doing well tonight. Take care.

i really would like friends to talk to im not going crazy YET but i feel like my life is going nowhere fast my family betrays family my mom and dad are well but abandened me at 2 but enough about that i just dont know who i am anymore

yea sure ok i guess i dont deserve friends i get it

Sorry niceguy, I was away from the computer. We are splattered all over the country, different time zones. I think MBCasey is off for the night. I am here for awhile longer if you want to talk.

Sorry to hear about your family.

well i dont know but i honestly a waste of a person i just dont know where my life is anymore

Nobody is a waste of a person. I read your profile and it says you take care of your grandpa, it takes a special person to care for someone else. It means you have a good heart. But caring for another person is also a lot of work and it wears you out and ties you down, I know, I took care of my dad up until last December. I couldn't leave the house for more then 2-3 hours, and trying to work full-time and he would call me home whenever he needed anything. It was really hard and I went into a deep depression. Have you tried counseling?? It helped me a lot to talk to someone, to deal with my issues. There are groups for people who are caregivers to other people too. But I think you ought to check into counseling, it would help you a lot to find out what is bothering you, and work on your issues. It really does help.

ok i will look into that thank you very much

Your local hospital may have social workers, ours does, and they meet with people for free and they have a list of all the services available, all the groups available. They told me about the caregiver group when I was taking care of my dad. It was free too. They may have other ideas for you too that I am not aware of. But I do believe in counseling, it can make the difference between night and day, help you get to the root of what is bothering you and get rid of the extra stuff you have been packing around that you don't need to. Can make you feel like a whole new person with a whole new purpose in life. I really hope you do check into it. Your doctor can help you with a referral too, if you need one. Take care. I really think it will help you to sort things out and feel a lot better. Good luck.

thanks

Have a good night, I have to get to bed. Take care.

I am ok I just am very low lower than i have ever been and I just want the misery to end

Hey Cutts...glad to see you back here. Why is your girlfriend treating you so bad? Maybe you should break it off with her if she is making you miserable.

You are in control of your own happiness...noone else. You can't let people dictate how you attain your happiness. If your girlfriend is making you miserable, maybe some counseling for the both of you could be an answer. If she refuses, then maybe it is time to move on.

well she gets me all happy about her being pregnant and then she goes and has an abortion behind my back for the second time I dont know why I keep taking her back. I just love her and I would have done any thing for her and she just kills my hopes and dreams. sher says she loves me but how can you do that to a person you love?

Hey Niceguy1999...everyone has value. Marie gave you some great advice. Seek counseling...they can guide you to where you want to be, what you want out of life.

Like I told Cutts, you have to make your own life work for you. Life is tough, but it is so worth living!! It takes some work, and nobody will do the work for you. Focus on positive things that can make you a content person, and go do it! You have nothing to lose.

I had to totally change my life. I was completely miserable, but I made myself change. Now I am half miserable...lol, but I am still a work in progress. I face bipolar depression every minute of every day. I am an alcoholic that has been sober for 7.5 years now. I recently lost 120 lbs. I was a fat slob lying in bed all day. I had to change and it was hard as hell. I got dates, found a great woman, but it didn't work out. It can happen to you too! If I can do it, you certainly can!!!

Good luck to you!

Man that sucks!! I don't blame you for being mad

See what you said in your own words? "she just kills my hopes and dreams". You can't allow that to happen. You can't let anyone kill your hopes and dreams. YOU are in control of your hopes and dreams...noone else.