Lately, like tonight, I've been feeling sad, but I can't really say for any reason. Just a feeling of loneliness and despair.

Wit - might have something to do with the holidays coming up. I know this time of the year tends to be more depressing for lots of people, added stresses over everything from money, to lack of a relationship in your life, all kinds of things get to you now. Try to find time to do something you like to do, spend time with friends so you are not alone as much, maybe volunteer somewhere, nursing homes are great right now, lots of lonely elderly there right now. Food banks are extra busy right now.

I am still dealing with a lot of anger over UPS losing my granddaughter's birthday stuff, I had about $250 worth of presents and other things for their family in that box, and the jerk didn't scan it into their system when he picked it up, so it is likely gone forever. Makes me doubly angry as her parents separated the week before and I put special things in there to try to make her feel better, she turned 8 today.

But I do understand the loneliness and despair really well. Wish I had some other ideas to help. Try to find something fun to do is all I can suggest, take extra time for yourself, reach out to friends you haven't talked to in awhile. Take care.

Maybe that's what I need to do...but, barely making ends meet as it is, makes it hard to go out anywhere. Everything costs money.

I know what you mean, I am supporting my dad, he is in a nursing home, but I pay his bills outside what welfare covers and I don't have anything extra either. That is why I rely so much on my friends on here to keep me going. That is why UPS losing that box hurt so bad, I spent a few months putting it together.

I don't know what you and your friends do for fun, but if you can get together for coffee, or a bunch of you do something as a group, meet at someone's house, each bring a food item (go cheap if you can), do you play sports - meet for a game, etc. I know when I get more depressed I withdraw and tend to vegetate more, and it is hard to do anything that requires effort, that is why I suggested something with friends. This time of the year, some schools and churches put on concerts and shows that are free, maybe round up a friend and go (if you like music and that kind of thing). I just know that being alone is the worst thing, that is why I was trying to think up things to do with friends. Heck, look up some female friend(s) who may be making Christmas cookies or goodies and offer to help, that way you not only get to visit but you get a full stomach too. Cooking with friends is fun. Just a thought.

Wii, hope you feel better soon hon You too Marie

what is that ken?

i will try that amber,thanks!!

Boiled Sassafras root is a good relaxer if anyone is having trouble sleeping. You can put a piece of it in a bowl of water like making tea or put it with the tea and it has a real calming effect. Essential oil distilled from the root-bark or the fruit was used as a fragrance in perfumes and soaps, food (sassafras tea and candy flavoring) and for aromatherapy.

The dried and ground leaves are used to make filé powder, a spice used in the making of some types of gumbo.

It is also used in the manufacture of the drug ecstasy, and as such, its transport is monitored internationally.

The roots of Sassafras was used in the flavoring of root beer until being banned in 1960.

In 1960, the U. S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) banned the use of sassafras oil and safrole in foods and drugs based on the animal studies and human case reports. Several years later, the sale of sassafras oil, roots, or tea was prohibited by law. Subsequently, both Canada and the United States have passed laws against the sale of any consumable products (beverages, foods, cosmetics, health products such as toothpaste, and others) that contain more than specific small amounts of safrole. Historical or traditional use (may or may not be supported by scientific studies) Sassafras was used by Native Americans for many purposes, primarily for infections and gastrointestinal problems. Sassafras was one of the first and largest exports from the New World back to Europe as a beverage and medicine. Commercially, the pleasant tasting volatile oil was valued as a flavoring agent in root beer and similar beverages. Eclectic physicians in the late 19th and early 20th centuries considered sassafras a useful diaphoretic (a substance that causes sweating) and diuretic plant, primarily for relieving rheumatism and fevers, and as part of the treatment of urinary tract infections.

Hi Jax--melatonin is an over-the-counter pill that helps you sleep. It is 100% vegetarian...a natural dietary supplement. I got 3 mg tablets (120 tablets /bottle) for about $4.00. You can't OD on it...it is naturally produced by your body. You can find it at Walmart in the vitamin section. I take 2 tablets when I can't sleep and it usually works within a half hour.

thanx ,i'll look for it..

well, i was told by the main one in the house (my stepmomma) that my meds are doing good......but my good day ended when i talked to my mother.....she has Melatonin Cyclin Cell cancer in her right lung..........I'm trying to look some info on it, but her doctors say the lung is definitely going to have to come out.......and her smoking is even worse.

I am sorry Amber.I am not sure if the term is melatonin, but melanoma cell cancer. I could be wrong. I am sorry and I will pray for your mom and you.

Sorry to hear about that too Amber, but sounds like removing the cancer is the best deal if that is what the doctor says. People can live just fine with one lung, or they may just take what ever lobe it is in and leave the other lobes.

I am sorry you are going through this now. Hang in there. It sounds like your new med is working though, that is really good news. Take care.

it was just in the top lobe .......... now the whole lung is ate up with the cancer..........my granny lived 20 years after losing 1 and 1/2 lungs.....

Sounds like she needs to have her surgery soon Amber. Our prayers are with you and your family. I think you said something about her smoking in a prior post too, I hope she can stop that too. Obviously, that is not good for her either.

Marie, it seems like every time someone talks to her about her smomking she smokes even more.....but i have talked to her about it and she's promised me to try to slow down some......i thinks she's terrified about the cancer and doesn't know any other way of coping.

well I am back and in more of a mess now then ever. I took my ex back and she is treating me like crap again. I want to die and that is no joke I need to talk to some one or I might take the chance of death for happinees

Talk to me cutts...death is not the way to happiness

Cutts - death is no answer. Dump your ex, you deserve to be treated better than that. No one deserves to be treated badly. Go to your doctor and talk to them about how you feel and what is going on. They can give you some med to help you get over the bad time right now. They can also refer you to counseling to help with what you are going through. You are too good a person to be treated like this. Don't ever think death is the way to get out of this. You have people who care about you. I am here, there are always people on here to talk to, we care about you. I will be on here off and on until about midnight if you want to talk. You can e-mail me if you want to talk privately. If you feel like you want to hurt yourself, go to an emergency room and talk to the doctor there. They can help you out.

Marie is right Cutts....talk to her, or anyone right now