Very interesting perspective. I had a comment for it but I think it would be better suited to its own thread.

Sometimes it has nothing to do with looks but rather background and money.
And the other feels they are lacking in those areas.
An example: She comes from a family that has plenty of resources, has a college degree, lived a lifestyle that includes plenty of travel,
professional vs blue collar.
And it goes both ways too.

"He married beneath himself, or she married up". You don't hear these expressions much anymore but I heard them growing up.

On dating sites, it seems to be about the looks IMO

It sometimes makes it hard to meet an interesting person if they already have misconceptions that the man/woman wouldn't be interested based solely on that person's attractiveness

It means the guy who approaches you has done so for a bet and his mates are standing in the corner ....... laughing their heads off should you reject him! It could also mean he's had a few too many and feels brave-(r) to approach.Or, ( I like this explanation - NOT!) you look far too pretty "for the likes of me."

Pics are often misleading. Some are just poorly taken and don't do the person justice. Others are 'glamor shots' which flatter. Neither accurate depict the individual fairly.
Looks may get initial attention but there has to be more to keep it.

i know a guy who gets absolutely hot women....the guy is what society would call"unattractive" but the guy has game...he knows how to talk to women,and from what i heard he's hung like a donkey,but thats not my point here....sometimes if you know how to approach a women and speak to them even if they are "out of your league" ,you maybe surprised at how they respond with interest...having a sense of humor and making them laugh is a bonus....but then there are the ones who are just "stuck up"

oh ladies don't email me wanting his number...he is takin.

Whoa....that's a good one Bonny

Amazing what lovely concoctions some blokes would feed you,huh?

I doubt too many people pass on someone just because they think they are too good to be true.

Maybe if they have been burned a few times they are going to be warry. Maybe even look for the proverbial flaw. Being defensive is non-productive even if it is a typical response. The example I can draw is you see a house you really like; it is a huge investment, do you bring in a qualified inspector or just leap and hope you don't get stuck in a pit?

Failures in relationships have high costs and anyone who have taken and emotional bullet is going to definitely be careful. At least if they have any brains.

All of the women I've seen on here or any other site are very good looking. All you have to do is look at my pic and then you'll know why.

I have looked at your profile and read your posts and I don't think it is your looks or your personality. While plenty of petite women I think more and more women are avoiding smokers. In your sixties mortality becomes more of a concern.

What I mean is...the people who think someone is " out of their league " have probably been told so many, many times.

They have had their faults or inhibitions, or whatever pointed out to them ( usually by the ones they now consider out of their league ) on more than one occasion.

That being the case, why would someone want to keep doing and hearing those same things.

After all, isn't the definition of insanity " Repeating the same actions over and over and expecting a different result. "???

If there is indeed doubt...Wouldn't a 1-to-1 Chat on Cam clarify that, or would you still need more?

I think there are leagues. Others might call them standards or preferences. For myself, I'm not going to date someone I dont find physically attractive. I dont care if how much we might have in common or how nice she is. Shallow of me? I would rather turn a woman down than be with someone I "settled for". Said woman deserves someone who really will appreciate her.

I have not approached women(on dating sites) because they looked financially well off. Or they were better educated than me. Because I am lacking in those areas, I think : "why bother"? I have no problem admitting I have confidence issues.

We hear things like its the person on the inside, or all you have to do is try. That is very true. And we all know that looks and money and even fame cant keep many couples together.

But to the guys: when is the last time your buddy said: " I bet her SAT's are through the roof!" or "She has a banging personality"

Or ladies, when is the last time your heart skipped a beat over some unemployed guy still living at home?

i guess that ^^^ makes sense to me, but it would suck being on the other end of that, and getting pre-judged by someone who was basing that very judgement on the views and actions of another.


(oops ya'll are too fast; my response was to justaguy)

Fear, you are out of my league...



...Sorry, I just can't do it with a straight face. I'm already in a league of my own, and that league pretty much means I will never hear that phrase.

It's totally unfair. But it's also basic human nature.

' Don't do the things that have gotten you hurt before ' is basic survival instinct.

Even when it applies to not approaching certain people based on past experience.

i have to agree with you on that one.

"outa of mt league"sweetie blow him out,his an *** with a dumb lame execuse,his just playing the field,dont take it personally(his just a sorry execuse of a guy...))youre way better than that!look hun from a female version when i tell a guy his out of my league its cos im so not interested,but hell hun different strokes from different folks,hopes this helps xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

fear, you are out of my league....

there, now it's done.

You're just doing that despite me.