Ahhhhhhh Miss Bonnie, I would do that SAME thing if I seen you walking in a park and I also know that if I did that and said,
Its me iam4u, from there to here to bow to you my queen,lol,lol
YOU would fall into tears and then laugh your buns off,,,,lol,lol
Where you been I have missed ya here....

I've rejected a few, but I didn't give them a line like this...I told them I wasn't interested, simple, to the point, and it doesn't hurt anyone...quite unlike the out of my league line, which hurts more than it does anything else. We all know it is bull, I've even called a few girls out on it...only to recieve "I'm not actually interested in you", well ****, that wasn't too damn difficult...

whenever i tell a guy i'm not interested he gets mad....

So it's better to give him a nice little cut before you send him on his way??

sorry?? are you saying i tell guys they're out of my league? um, no, i've never done that, but thanks for assuming i would, since you don't know me. no, if a guy approaches me and i'm not interested, i tell them so. i was just elaborating on what fear said about preferring to be told they're not interested, rather than leaving it up to confusion. because i have told men i'm not interested and it usually turns into an insult match, because "how dare i reject them, they're a nice guy, i must be a stuck up b!tch")

it's funny you make all these posts about women not being interested in you because you're a "regular" guy, but i think you have a massive chip on your shoulder, and you've let all your past hurts turn you into a very bitter man. all women aren't b!tches out to cut you down, all women aren't stuck up and totally into themselves. however, no one is interested in every person they meet- if they were, mingle2 and other sites like this would be unnecessary- so to be insulted because you got rejected is rather arrogant in my opinion.

i've seen tons of men that i'd like to be with, but would i get all pissy and decide they're jerks if i decided to approach them and they rejected me? no, i would accept that i'm not "all that" and move on. sometimes the problem isn't everyone else, hon, sometimes the problem is YOU. and by the way, i don't consider myself to be out of anyone's league, but again whatever, since you don't know me

i find that much of the time the chemistry, or lack thereof, speaks for itself and most guys don't even need to be told, they can feel that there's no connection as well.

* ahem *

I was not inferring that you do that.

I was asking if you thought maybe that was a better idea.

Rejection, itself, isn't the problem that a lot of guys have.

How the rejection is delivered, however, is a part of the problem.



If I was really as bitter as you seem to think, and I had a chip as massive as you seem to believe I have, do you really think I would spend my time hanging around on a dating site??

I'm not nearly as bitter as some would think I am. lol



I have never, ever said anything along those lines.

however, no one is interested in every person they meet- if they were, mingle2 and other sites like this would be unnecessary- so to be insulted because you got rejected is rather arrogant in my opinion.

Arrogant?? hardly.

Being insulted only comes along when the woman doing the rejecting actually INSULTS me for even deigning to talk to her. It has happened a few times.

If I get a simple, " Sorry. Not interested " type of reaction, that's no big deal.

When the woman doing the rejecting is so rude and classless that she feels the need to insult me or any other guy that she doesn't figure is within he league, then yeah. I, along with many other guys, tend to get insulted.

It doesn't matter if we realize that she's rude and classless at the time. That kind of reaction still stings. No matter what.



Just as I have on many, many occasions. I'm not referring to the vast majority of the women I have approached. The ones I am referring to, the ones who feel the need to make themselves feel better by hurling insults, are in a very small minority.




Ya know....that's been pointed out to me enough times that I am pretty sure I have the idea now.

The rude, classless women out there are only rude and classless because of some kind of problem that I have.

Duly noted.

Nahhh phuck that with a big stick. Anybody who treats another like dirt or inferior has major issues with themselves and their lives. They dont know you, and thus it is unrealistic and illogical for the reason to be your personal. The only sting I feel is the sorrow that somebody who could have potential to be an amazing person uses their life and energy in such a selfish, disrespectful way.

I readily look down on such people who dont have the consideration, decency and intelligence to do otherwise.

iam,should you do that I would join you. I've been a tad busy, but now I am on holiday you will see a lot more of me. How's you, how's life treating you?