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Topic: "OUT OF MY LEAGUE"
Snugglesbyfire Joined Sun 04/15/07 Posts: 24422	Sat 07/25/09 12:34 PM
I'm in the Friendship league on and off line. Which means, that I am fun to joke around with, a good listener, and someone to hang with when my male friends are in between romantic relationships.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21824	Sat 07/25/09 12:34 PM
Swinging for the fences aren't ya?

papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Sat 07/25/09 12:39 PM Edited by papersmile on Sat 07/25/09 12:40 PM
I've heard these words spoken quite often from guys, and don't really understand what is meant by them, I'm just a normal everday person I'm thinking that maybe this happens quite often to both men and women alike...so What's your interpretation of these words, and why do you think that you have been placed in a "league" of your own that seems to make you unapproachable in someone else's eyes? i think it's made by men (and women too) as a means to put the onus of expected rejection upon the woman so that they have someone to blame for their lack of trying. in other words, they think that they have no hope in hell of scoring with a certain woman, so they twist it to make it seem like she has some sort of arrogance about her, so that they don't have to look at themselves in the mirror and realize their own faults, inhibitions, or unattractiveness. i've never been told that i'm out of someone's league, but i have been told that i'm intimidating. funny, the guys with balls and backbones have no problem at all approaching me and engaging in conversations. it's the spineless wimps who say it.

FindMe1113 Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 35104	Sat 07/25/09 12:41 PM
Its like the one bad apple that ruins it for the whole orchard. I thought it was a barrel??? A bad apple isn't going to do a thing to the rest of the orchard...lol Not normally but you know with the way information travels. One will take a bite get sick, then it will hit the press as an epidemic and before you know they're slaughtering all the piggies in Egypt. There is plenty of truth in that....BUT, I personally, don't judge a potential mate by what the last one did to me. "One Bad Apple does not destroy the whole orchard" is well said After reading several posts on this subject...I decided to go and look at your profile. Ah ha...found an error at the beginning!! Shouldn't the "age" be at somewhere between 30-35? You can't be 55, as you have indicated. Just thought you'd want to correct that part of your profile. JMO! Hehe...you are FUNNY...but Sweet That is my age...lol I know I could have said that I was "younger"...but what would be the point of that? The Truth always prevails

Dan99 Joined Sat 08/23/08 Posts: 14941	Sat 07/25/09 12:45 PM
I am sorry this thread is below my league and im not posting in it!

lilott Joined Thu 10/12/06 Posts: 2295	Sat 07/25/09 12:46 PM
i tend to bat outta my league to EXPLAIN please...What on earth does that mean? it means your good lookin and we aint got no chance... What makes you assume that...there are a lot of beautiful women here on Mingle...and there are a lot of friendships here between men and women. So if you are interested in more....why should looks stop you? That's the problem. All of the women I've seen on here or any other site are very good looking. All you have to do is look at my pic and then you'll know why. Please don't say that about yourself Everybody is attractive to somebody! Looks aren't EVERYTHING you know That may be but most women are way taller than me and I'm tired of having to stand on a ladder to look them in the eye.

TheresMyFriend Joined Sat 05/19/07 Posts: 2565	Sat 07/25/09 12:46 PM
Its like the one bad apple that ruins it for the whole orchard. I thought it was a barrel??? A bad apple isn't going to do a thing to the rest of the orchard...lol Not normally but you know with the way information travels. One will take a bite get sick, then it will hit the press as an epidemic and before you know they're slaughtering all the piggies in Egypt. There is plenty of truth in that....BUT, I personally, don't judge a potential mate by what the last one did to me. "One Bad Apple does not destroy the whole orchard" is well said After reading several posts on this subject...I decided to go and look at your profile. Ah ha...found an error at the beginning!! Shouldn't the "age" be at somewhere between 30-35? You can't be 55, as you have indicated. Just thought you'd want to correct that part of your profile. JMO! Hehe...you are FUNNY...but Sweet That is my age...lol I know I could have said that I was "younger"...but what would be the point of that? The Truth always prevails True...I was just flirting with ya!

AdventureBegins Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 7666	Sat 07/25/09 12:46 PM
for guys... Cop out for lack of balls. for girls. Cop out for lack of brass *******. If I think a woman has more to offer a relationship than I do... I go for it and try to improve myself. My league is as great as I make it.

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Sat 07/25/09 12:48 PM Edited by JustAGuy2112 on Sat 07/25/09 12:48 PM
or unattractiveness. Papersmile.... That is the heart of it. Most people already feel unattractive in one way or another. Why would they want to have to see it again??

FindMe1113 Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 35104	Sat 07/25/09 12:48 PM
I am sorry this thread is below my league and im not posting in it! Only you Dan

lionsbrew Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 14232	Sat 07/25/09 12:48 PM
I am sorry this thread is below my league and im not posting in it! You just did though. Liar liar pants on fire!

FindMe1113 Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 35104	Sat 07/25/09 12:49 PM
for guys... Cop out for lack of balls. for girls. Cop out for lack of brass *******. If I think a woman has more to offer a relationship than I do... I go for it and try to improve myself. My league is as great as I make it.

Dan99 Joined Sat 08/23/08 Posts: 14941	Sat 07/25/09 12:49 PM
I never posted, someone hijacked my account. Please delete all of my posts in this thread. This one wasnt made by me either.

7z3r05 Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 9434	Sat 07/25/09 12:50 PM
out of the league? christ, i dont even know which sport we are playing...

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sat 07/25/09 12:51 PM
Thinking someone else is out of your league is usually a self confidence issue. "She is out of my league" Usually means they view you as too good for them. For some strange reason the more attractive a person is the less approachable they seem to be because of the thought process that comes after the initial visual. "Shes way hot I bet shes taken." "Wow she's beautiful she'd never go for a guy like me." This kind of thinking makes me crazy! This is what makes so many people "invisable". Because people out there assume they are taken or unattainable they set home alone or worse go out with what is left. Guys who wonder why the choice women go out with players it is BECAUSE THEY ASK! So what you get shot down occasionally. That is life. It is after all a numbers game. When you are playing sports do you score everytime you make an effort? Or quit playing just because you are not A string.

papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Sat 07/25/09 12:51 PM
or unattractiveness. Papersmile.... That is the heart of it. Most people already feel unattractive in one way or another. Why would they want to have to see it again?? i don't get what you mean?

FindMe1113 Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 35104	Sat 07/25/09 12:54 PM
I never posted, someone hijacked my account. Please delete all of my posts in this thread. This one wasnt made by me either.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sat 07/25/09 12:55 PM
for guys... Cop out for lack of balls. for girls. Cop out for lack of brass *******. If I think a woman has more to offer a relationship than I do... I go for it and try to improve myself. My league is as great as I make it. ^5!

FindMe1113 Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 35104	Sat 07/25/09 12:56 PM
I've heard these words spoken quite often from guys, and don't really understand what is meant by them, I'm just a normal everday person I'm thinking that maybe this happens quite often to both men and women alike...so What's your interpretation of these words, and why do you think that you have been placed in a "league" of your own that seems to make you unapproachable in someone else's eyes? i think it's made by men (and women too) as a means to put the onus of expected rejection upon the woman so that they have someone to blame for their lack of trying. in other words, they think that they have no hope in hell of scoring with a certain woman, so they twist it to make it seem like she has some sort of arrogance about her, so that they don't have to look at themselves in the mirror and realize their own faults, inhibitions, or unattractiveness. i've never been told that i'm out of someone's league, but i have been told that i'm intimidating. funny, the guys with balls and backbones have no problem at all approaching me and engaging in conversations. it's the spineless wimps who say it. Good Points Lisa

CKeef Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 715	Sat 07/25/09 01:01 PM Edited by CKeef on Sat 07/25/09 01:02 PM
Tough tough stuff... I think this saying is greatly flawed for it does not say in which direction they are out. Ofcourse, most people assume it means they are 'above them.' I've never told a person this statement before, I'd use more specific words. For me, the biggest issue is people being below the 'league' as you put. If somebody is not willing to learn, grow, compromise, sacrifice for important things and people, they are certainly down and out. I would never put somebody above though, and even saying below is not quite right. I dont like the idea of levels ... the whole hierarchy approach. Instead of a line, whether its viewed horizontally or vertically, I go with a circle. Self is in the middle, and there are varying rings and distances within these rings. It doesnt mean they are truly better or worse, but just on a different path. If somebody is super religious, they are way out of my spectrum... doesnt mean they are below me or bad in anyway, just not within a comfortable reality for my being.