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So if this was the perfect person for you, in ever other sense other than their credit rating then what, you'd pass them by? No of course not. Would I marry them? Absolutely not. Trust me, this situation has come up several times and upon each proposal, I refused for my own good. Would I date them if they were honest? Yes. Some women would not. Wow. You just met perhaps the one person on this earth that could make you happier than anyone one else, who would always be there for you, who'd never screw you over and you have the passion of a wet fish for them! Have you ever considered that by helping the person (this hypothetical person) that you might pull them up the ladder a bit and ultimately you'd come out stronger??! I do hope that your credit rating is by your bed side when you're terminally ill or there to support you when your home has burned to the ground. After all, a credit rating is just so good at comforting people, listening to their problems, helping them to become more than what they would be on their own. Talk about melodrama and emotionally based response. Did you read ANYTHING I just said? I told you I WOULD NOT MARRY them. My last boyfriend (of several years) had financial problems when I met him. He was honest and part of it was medical ( an ulcer) and he also was highly educated (attended Princeton and Harvard) so therefore he was stuck in student loan prostration. I directed him towards bankruptcy as there was no other conceivable way out. I also continued to date him and we were close for several years.Now he is doing MUCH better. He FACED his problem and I stood by him and helped as best I knew how. Please read what I write before appealing to emotion and unjustifiably I might add. Yes, I read what you said, thanks. I didn't say anything about marriage in my last post. Did you read ANYTHING I just said? You said that you would date them, an overwhelming response to meeting the person of your dreams (except for credit rating of course). And yes, it's an emotional response, not the cold clinical response of numbers on a spreadsheet. People complain (not you), about not being able to find that special someone, is it any wonder when we discard pretty much everyone before we have met them? Well I AM SAYING something about marriage. If that is not the argument here, then who are you directing these comments to exactly? I have clearly explained my position to you. Yes, it's quite clear. If their credit score doesn't match yours then, chances are, you'll walk right by them. Am betting that the reason that you helped out your Princeton/Harvard boyfriend was that he was a "safe" bet due to his education. Would you have done the same for someone with just a high school diploma I wonder? So bottom line, for you, is that you're not going to marry someone who is not on the same rung on the credit ladder, right? Or is it that you just don't believe in marriage at all? So how would you explain the man I dated then? Yes of course intelligence is of great import to me. Should I simply dumb myself down for the sake of a man? Hardly. I also do not need a state license to sanctify my love for another. If you do, whatever. Thats feeble in my opinion. I believe that I already did explain it. I never said intelligence, I stated education. One can be of great intelligence without having a degree. Apparently you don't need a state licence to sanctify your love for another, just the figures on his credit rating and a copy of his degree. No you didn't explain it at tall. You simply misquoted and instead of responding logically, interjected emotion. I dated a man because I liked him and also because he was HONEST with me in regards to his financial situation. I dont expect that you would do the same as you appear to be arguing that honesty is not necessary. So why on earth would I have dated a man that eventually had to apply for bankruptcy? You keep dancing around that question, senator. What did I misquote? I am not arguing that honesty is not necessary, far from it, I am arguing that a measure of a person's worth shouldn't be their credit rating. IMO you dated him as, due to his prestigious education that he was a "safe bet" (as I already mentioned), that he would bounce back. You have misrepresented me several times now in an effort to create an argument. I have said that I would not consider a serious relationship with a man who I felt was going to drag me down the tubes with him financially. This would even apply to a co-habitation arrangement. I have already explained to you my position on marriage and wont repeat it. You can look it back up again if you require this. You are arguing that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed. That is dishonesty in my opinion. So are you now claiming that I have no right to be discerning in my choice of men? What about my financial history? What about the time and effort it took me to acquire that credit score (among other things)? Is this not a small sample of how I take responsibility for my own life and financial affairs? Should I not look for a man of equal caliber and similar spending habits? You must not understand what bankruptcy is. One does not "bounce back" very easily from something like that. Hes still having trouble (last I spoke to him) but he's digging himself out. That bankruptcy will stay on his record like a tattoo. |
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So if this was the perfect person for you, in ever other sense other than their credit rating then what, you'd pass them by? No of course not. Would I marry them? Absolutely not. Trust me, this situation has come up several times and upon each proposal, I refused for my own good. Would I date them if they were honest? Yes. Some women would not. Wow. You just met perhaps the one person on this earth that could make you happier than anyone one else, who would always be there for you, who'd never screw you over and you have the passion of a wet fish for them! Have you ever considered that by helping the person (this hypothetical person) that you might pull them up the ladder a bit and ultimately you'd come out stronger??! I do hope that your credit rating is by your bed side when you're terminally ill or there to support you when your home has burned to the ground. After all, a credit rating is just so good at comforting people, listening to their problems, helping them to become more than what they would be on their own. Talk about melodrama and emotionally based response. Did you read ANYTHING I just said? I told you I WOULD NOT MARRY them. My last boyfriend (of several years) had financial problems when I met him. He was honest and part of it was medical ( an ulcer) and he also was highly educated (attended Princeton and Harvard) so therefore he was stuck in student loan prostration. I directed him towards bankruptcy as there was no other conceivable way out. I also continued to date him and we were close for several years.Now he is doing MUCH better. He FACED his problem and I stood by him and helped as best I knew how. Please read what I write before appealing to emotion and unjustifiably I might add. Yes, I read what you said, thanks. I didn't say anything about marriage in my last post. Did you read ANYTHING I just said? You said that you would date them, an overwhelming response to meeting the person of your dreams (except for credit rating of course). And yes, it's an emotional response, not the cold clinical response of numbers on a spreadsheet. People complain (not you), about not being able to find that special someone, is it any wonder when we discard pretty much everyone before we have met them? Well I AM SAYING something about marriage. If that is not the argument here, then who are you directing these comments to exactly? I have clearly explained my position to you. Yes, it's quite clear. If their credit score doesn't match yours then, chances are, you'll walk right by them. Am betting that the reason that you helped out your Princeton/Harvard boyfriend was that he was a "safe" bet due to his education. Would you have done the same for someone with just a high school diploma I wonder? So bottom line, for you, is that you're not going to marry someone who is not on the same rung on the credit ladder, right? Or is it that you just don't believe in marriage at all? So how would you explain the man I dated then? Yes of course intelligence is of great import to me. Should I simply dumb myself down for the sake of a man? Hardly. I also do not need a state license to sanctify my love for another. If you do, whatever. Thats feeble in my opinion. I believe that I already did explain it. I never said intelligence, I stated education. One can be of great intelligence without having a degree. Apparently you don't need a state licence to sanctify your love for another, just the figures on his credit rating and a copy of his degree. No you didn't explain it at tall. You simply misquoted and instead of responding logically, interjected emotion. I dated a man because I liked him and also because he was HONEST with me in regards to his financial situation. I dont expect that you would do the same as you appear to be arguing that honesty is not necessary. So why on earth would I have dated a man that eventually had to apply for bankruptcy? You keep dancing around that question, senator. What did I misquote? I am not arguing that honesty is not necessary, far from it, I am arguing that a measure of a person's worth shouldn't be their credit rating. IMO you dated him as, due to his prestigious education that he was a "safe bet" (as I already mentioned), that he would bounce back. You have misrepresented me several times now in an effort to create an argument. I have said that I would not consider a serious relationship with a man who I felt was going to drag me down the tubes with him financially. This would even apply to a co-habitation arrangement. I have already explained to you my position on marriage and wont repeat it. You can look it back up again if you require this. You are arguing that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed. That is dishonesty in my opinion. So are you now claiming that I have no right to be discerning in my choice of men? What about my financial history? What about the time and effort it took me to acquire that credit score (among other things)? Is this not a small sample of how I take responsibility for my own life and financial affairs? Should I not look for a man of equal caliber and similar spending habits? You must not understand what bankruptcy is. One does not "bounce back" very easily from something like that. Hes still having trouble (last I spoke to him) but he's digging himself out. That bankruptcy will stay on his record like a tattoo. I haven't said about someone dragging you down the tubes financially, just that their credit rating is not as good as yours. As already can be seen from this thread there are reasons, beyond people not being able to handle money, that this rating may be low. Where is it that I argued that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed? Discerning is fine, I just don't get why you place such a huge emphasis on materialistic things. I'm not implying go out and hitch up with some a$$hole who is going to take you for every penny that you have, what I am saying is that as far as choosing a partner goes, then their credit rating should have nothing to do with it, provided that they are not going to fleece you for everything that you have but then I'd expect you to be able to tell the character of a person before letting them do that. Equal calibre? You jest surely, what you really mean here is someone with as much money as you, right? Someone that can afford the same things as you, yes? Essentially someone with the same buying power. I understand what bankruptcy is, just as I understand that there are ways to work around it. Sure, you don't just "bounce back" but when you have a Princeton/Harvard education then it shouldn't be insurmountable, right (provided you're not really thinking about getting into the financial markets). |
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Edited by
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So if this was the perfect person for you, in ever other sense other than their credit rating then what, you'd pass them by? No of course not. Would I marry them? Absolutely not. Trust me, this situation has come up several times and upon each proposal, I refused for my own good. Would I date them if they were honest? Yes. Some women would not. Wow. You just met perhaps the one person on this earth that could make you happier than anyone one else, who would always be there for you, who'd never screw you over and you have the passion of a wet fish for them! Have you ever considered that by helping the person (this hypothetical person) that you might pull them up the ladder a bit and ultimately you'd come out stronger??! I do hope that your credit rating is by your bed side when you're terminally ill or there to support you when your home has burned to the ground. After all, a credit rating is just so good at comforting people, listening to their problems, helping them to become more than what they would be on their own. Talk about melodrama and emotionally based response. Did you read ANYTHING I just said? I told you I WOULD NOT MARRY them. My last boyfriend (of several years) had financial problems when I met him. He was honest and part of it was medical ( an ulcer) and he also was highly educated (attended Princeton and Harvard) so therefore he was stuck in student loan prostration. I directed him towards bankruptcy as there was no other conceivable way out. I also continued to date him and we were close for several years.Now he is doing MUCH better. He FACED his problem and I stood by him and helped as best I knew how. Please read what I write before appealing to emotion and unjustifiably I might add. Yes, I read what you said, thanks. I didn't say anything about marriage in my last post. Did you read ANYTHING I just said? You said that you would date them, an overwhelming response to meeting the person of your dreams (except for credit rating of course). And yes, it's an emotional response, not the cold clinical response of numbers on a spreadsheet. People complain (not you), about not being able to find that special someone, is it any wonder when we discard pretty much everyone before we have met them? Well I AM SAYING something about marriage. If that is not the argument here, then who are you directing these comments to exactly? I have clearly explained my position to you. Yes, it's quite clear. If their credit score doesn't match yours then, chances are, you'll walk right by them. Am betting that the reason that you helped out your Princeton/Harvard boyfriend was that he was a "safe" bet due to his education. Would you have done the same for someone with just a high school diploma I wonder? So bottom line, for you, is that you're not going to marry someone who is not on the same rung on the credit ladder, right? Or is it that you just don't believe in marriage at all? So how would you explain the man I dated then? Yes of course intelligence is of great import to me. Should I simply dumb myself down for the sake of a man? Hardly. I also do not need a state license to sanctify my love for another. If you do, whatever. Thats feeble in my opinion. I believe that I already did explain it. I never said intelligence, I stated education. One can be of great intelligence without having a degree. Apparently you don't need a state licence to sanctify your love for another, just the figures on his credit rating and a copy of his degree. No you didn't explain it at tall. You simply misquoted and instead of responding logically, interjected emotion. I dated a man because I liked him and also because he was HONEST with me in regards to his financial situation. I dont expect that you would do the same as you appear to be arguing that honesty is not necessary. So why on earth would I have dated a man that eventually had to apply for bankruptcy? You keep dancing around that question, senator. What did I misquote? I am not arguing that honesty is not necessary, far from it, I am arguing that a measure of a person's worth shouldn't be their credit rating. IMO you dated him as, due to his prestigious education that he was a "safe bet" (as I already mentioned), that he would bounce back. You have misrepresented me several times now in an effort to create an argument. I have said that I would not consider a serious relationship with a man who I felt was going to drag me down the tubes with him financially. This would even apply to a co-habitation arrangement. I have already explained to you my position on marriage and wont repeat it. You can look it back up again if you require this. You are arguing that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed. That is dishonesty in my opinion. So are you now claiming that I have no right to be discerning in my choice of men? What about my financial history? What about the time and effort it took me to acquire that credit score (among other things)? Is this not a small sample of how I take responsibility for my own life and financial affairs? Should I not look for a man of equal caliber and similar spending habits? You must not understand what bankruptcy is. One does not "bounce back" very easily from something like that. Hes still having trouble (last I spoke to him) but he's digging himself out. That bankruptcy will stay on his record like a tattoo. I haven't said about someone dragging you down the tubes financially, just that their credit rating is not as good as yours. As already can be seen from this thread there are reasons, beyond people not being able to handle money, that this rating may be low. Where is it that I argued that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed? Discerning is fine, I just don't get why you place such a huge emphasis on materialistic things. I'm not implying go out and hitch up with some a$$hole who is going to take you for every penny that you have, what I am saying is that as far as choosing a partner goes, then their credit rating should have nothing to do with it, provided that they are not going to fleece you for everything that you have but then I'd expect you to be able to tell the character of a person before letting them do that. Equal calibre? You jest surely, what you really mean here is someone with as much money as you, right? Someone that can afford the same things as you, yes? Essentially someone with the same buying power. I understand what bankruptcy is, just as I understand that there are ways to work around it. Sure, you don't just "bounce back" but when you have a Princeton/Harvard education then it shouldn't be insurmountable, right (provided you're not really thinking about getting into the financial markets). Where is it that I argued that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed?
Answer this. How would I know whether or not I wanted to remain with this person if they failed to be honest and upfront wth me about their financial situation? Yes you are clearly advocating for deception being employed. |
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So if this was the perfect person for you, in ever other sense other than their credit rating then what, you'd pass them by? No of course not. Would I marry them? Absolutely not. Trust me, this situation has come up several times and upon each proposal, I refused for my own good. Would I date them if they were honest? Yes. Some women would not. Wow. You just met perhaps the one person on this earth that could make you happier than anyone one else, who would always be there for you, who'd never screw you over and you have the passion of a wet fish for them! Have you ever considered that by helping the person (this hypothetical person) that you might pull them up the ladder a bit and ultimately you'd come out stronger??! I do hope that your credit rating is by your bed side when you're terminally ill or there to support you when your home has burned to the ground. After all, a credit rating is just so good at comforting people, listening to their problems, helping them to become more than what they would be on their own. Talk about melodrama and emotionally based response. Did you read ANYTHING I just said? I told you I WOULD NOT MARRY them. My last boyfriend (of several years) had financial problems when I met him. He was honest and part of it was medical ( an ulcer) and he also was highly educated (attended Princeton and Harvard) so therefore he was stuck in student loan prostration. I directed him towards bankruptcy as there was no other conceivable way out. I also continued to date him and we were close for several years.Now he is doing MUCH better. He FACED his problem and I stood by him and helped as best I knew how. Please read what I write before appealing to emotion and unjustifiably I might add. Yes, I read what you said, thanks. I didn't say anything about marriage in my last post. Did you read ANYTHING I just said? You said that you would date them, an overwhelming response to meeting the person of your dreams (except for credit rating of course). And yes, it's an emotional response, not the cold clinical response of numbers on a spreadsheet. People complain (not you), about not being able to find that special someone, is it any wonder when we discard pretty much everyone before we have met them? Well I AM SAYING something about marriage. If that is not the argument here, then who are you directing these comments to exactly? I have clearly explained my position to you. Yes, it's quite clear. If their credit score doesn't match yours then, chances are, you'll walk right by them. Am betting that the reason that you helped out your Princeton/Harvard boyfriend was that he was a "safe" bet due to his education. Would you have done the same for someone with just a high school diploma I wonder? So bottom line, for you, is that you're not going to marry someone who is not on the same rung on the credit ladder, right? Or is it that you just don't believe in marriage at all? So how would you explain the man I dated then? Yes of course intelligence is of great import to me. Should I simply dumb myself down for the sake of a man? Hardly. I also do not need a state license to sanctify my love for another. If you do, whatever. Thats feeble in my opinion. I believe that I already did explain it. I never said intelligence, I stated education. One can be of great intelligence without having a degree. Apparently you don't need a state licence to sanctify your love for another, just the figures on his credit rating and a copy of his degree. No you didn't explain it at tall. You simply misquoted and instead of responding logically, interjected emotion. I dated a man because I liked him and also because he was HONEST with me in regards to his financial situation. I dont expect that you would do the same as you appear to be arguing that honesty is not necessary. So why on earth would I have dated a man that eventually had to apply for bankruptcy? You keep dancing around that question, senator. What did I misquote? I am not arguing that honesty is not necessary, far from it, I am arguing that a measure of a person's worth shouldn't be their credit rating. IMO you dated him as, due to his prestigious education that he was a "safe bet" (as I already mentioned), that he would bounce back. You have misrepresented me several times now in an effort to create an argument. I have said that I would not consider a serious relationship with a man who I felt was going to drag me down the tubes with him financially. This would even apply to a co-habitation arrangement. I have already explained to you my position on marriage and wont repeat it. You can look it back up again if you require this. You are arguing that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed. That is dishonesty in my opinion. So are you now claiming that I have no right to be discerning in my choice of men? What about my financial history? What about the time and effort it took me to acquire that credit score (among other things)? Is this not a small sample of how I take responsibility for my own life and financial affairs? Should I not look for a man of equal caliber and similar spending habits? You must not understand what bankruptcy is. One does not "bounce back" very easily from something like that. Hes still having trouble (last I spoke to him) but he's digging himself out. That bankruptcy will stay on his record like a tattoo. I haven't said about someone dragging you down the tubes financially, just that their credit rating is not as good as yours. As already can be seen from this thread there are reasons, beyond people not being able to handle money, that this rating may be low. Where is it that I argued that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed? Discerning is fine, I just don't get why you place such a huge emphasis on materialistic things. I'm not implying go out and hitch up with some a$$hole who is going to take you for every penny that you have, what I am saying is that as far as choosing a partner goes, then their credit rating should have nothing to do with it, provided that they are not going to fleece you for everything that you have but then I'd expect you to be able to tell the character of a person before letting them do that. Equal calibre? You jest surely, what you really mean here is someone with as much money as you, right? Someone that can afford the same things as you, yes? Essentially someone with the same buying power. I understand what bankruptcy is, just as I understand that there are ways to work around it. Sure, you don't just "bounce back" but when you have a Princeton/Harvard education then it shouldn't be insurmountable, right (provided you're not really thinking about getting into the financial markets). Where is it that I argued that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed?
Answer this. How would I know whether or not I wanted to remain with this person if they failed to be honest and upfront wth me about their financial situation? Yes you are clearly advocating for deception being employed. Show me where I stated that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed and am clearly advocating for deception being employed? |
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Answer the question if you will, senator.
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I like Andy's argument better.
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Answer the question if you will, senator.
Seems you're the one, yet again, avoiding the question Ms. Clinton. |
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I like mine better but Im an honest person.
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WOW....Shizel is gettin deep in here.....
anywho..... I have DEBT. I manage it very well. I have a high credit score .....No thanks to the x....... But I pull my own weight and I expect others to do the same. I also understand Life, and events that are beyond someones control. I do not judge someone for what life has brought them. As long as they are a willing participant in making their life better. JMO |
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I like mine better but Im an honest person. Great. Good for you! Now, show me where I stated that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed and am clearly advocating for deception being employed? |
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So if this was the perfect person for you, in ever other sense other than their credit rating then what, you'd pass them by? No of course not. Would I marry them? Absolutely not. Trust me, this situation has come up several times and upon each proposal, I refused for my own good. Would I date them if they were honest? Yes. Some women would not. Wow. You just met perhaps the one person on this earth that could make you happier than anyone one else, who would always be there for you, who'd never screw you over and you have the passion of a wet fish for them! Have you ever considered that by helping the person (this hypothetical person) that you might pull them up the ladder a bit and ultimately you'd come out stronger??! I do hope that your credit rating is by your bed side when you're terminally ill or there to support you when your home has burned to the ground. After all, a credit rating is just so good at comforting people, listening to their problems, helping them to become more than what they would be on their own. Quantifiably, credit debt is a liability, and if I chose to take on someone else's liabilities, I want it to be my choice, and NOT theirs. One woman who is no longer in my life had a credit problem, and was only making minimum payments, which means while she had "good" credit, her problem was getting worse. By the time I had cleared that entire mess, I had taken away her adult responsibility, and spent a considerable amount of money fixing her problem, enabling her to be an irresponsible brat. At one point, I briefly had her as a signatory on my business's bank accounts, but large amounts of money were being spent without any form of communication and I ultimately reduced our financial partnership to a joint personal account, which she was pretty upset by, but it had to happen as a matter of self-preservation. It's probably no wonder the relationship didn't work out. |
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Yep, and Andy's a lying bastard Irishman.
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Probably shooting myself in the foot here, but I'm in debt so far I can't even see out of it anymore. My now ex-wife left when I needed her the most, while I am halfway through college. Through student loans since the divorce, (just to pay for rent and food) I've sunk around 10,000 further into the hole. I was already around 5,000 in the hole from the beginning, but since the divorce and living on my own coupled with not having a job for over a year (not through lack of trying to find one btw.) Granted, anyone that reads this will probably be scared away from dating me, but as my religion (one of them) pushes celibacy, that shouldn't matter all that much. Plus, being honest is almost always the best course of action.
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Krimsa
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andy
You are advocating for dishonesty in the fact that there is no way I could make an informed decision on whether or not to remain with a person in major financial difficulty if I did not know this and it was kept secret from me in some respect. |
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You are advocating for dishonesty in the fact that there is no way I could make an informed decision on whether or not to remain with a person in major financial difficulty if I did not know this and it was kept secret from me in some respect. One more time. SHOW me where I stated that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed and am clearly advocating for deception being employed? |
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Probably shooting myself in the foot here, but I'm in debt so far I can't even see out of it anymore. My now ex-wife left when I needed her the most, while I am halfway through college. Through student loans since the divorce, (just to pay for rent and food) I've sunk around 10,000 further into the hole. I was already around 5,000 in the hole from the beginning, but since the divorce and living on my own coupled with not having a job for over a year (not through lack of trying to find one btw.) Granted, anyone that reads this will probably be scared away from dating me, but as my religion (one of them) pushes celibacy, that shouldn't matter all that much. Plus, being honest is almost always the best course of action. Yes, I agree with you on the honesty part. Absolutely |
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Yep, and Andy's a lying bastard Irishman.
This I can prove; Keith's a nice guy!  
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You are advocating for dishonesty in the fact that there is no way I could make an informed decision on whether or not to remain with a person in major financial difficulty if I did not know this and it was kept secret from me in some respect. One more time. SHOW me where I stated that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed and am clearly advocating for deception being employed? Because HOW WOULD I KNOW? How could I make an informed decision, Andy? You have already stated repeatedly that you believe that I am the kind of woman who will not tolerate a low FICA score or crippling financial debt. So in that case, the only way you would keep me around is to conceal this from me. I do not think deception is the best way to go here in order to sustain the relationship under false pretenses. |
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You are advocating for dishonesty in the fact that there is no way I could make an informed decision on whether or not to remain with a person in major financial difficulty if I did not know this and it was kept secret from me in some respect. One more time. SHOW me where I stated that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed and am clearly advocating for deception being employed? Because HOW WOULD I KNOW? How could I make an informed decision, Andy? You have already stated repeatedly that you believe that I am the kind of woman who will not tolerate a low FICA score or crippling financial debt. So in that case, the only way you would keep me around is to conceal this from me. I do not think deception is the best way to go here in order to sustain the relationship under false pretenses. Where did I actually say that that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed and am clearly advocating for deception being employed? Do you quiz a person when you go to date them as to their finances? Do you have background checks performed? |
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Krimsa
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You are advocating for dishonesty in the fact that there is no way I could make an informed decision on whether or not to remain with a person in major financial difficulty if I did not know this and it was kept secret from me in some respect. One more time. SHOW me where I stated that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed and am clearly advocating for deception being employed? Because HOW WOULD I KNOW? How could I make an informed decision, Andy? You have already stated repeatedly that you believe that I am the kind of woman who will not tolerate a low FICA score or crippling financial debt. So in that case, the only way you would keep me around is to conceal this from me. I do not think deception is the best way to go here in order to sustain the relationship under false pretenses. Where did I actually say that that a person's financial issues should not be disclosed and am clearly advocating for deception being employed? Do you quiz a person when you go to date them as to their finances? Do you have background checks performed? Andy, if I didn’t know that you were in trouble financially, then you would need to hide it from me, ergo, dishonesty and deception being employed on your part. You can try to explain your way out of that one but you have clearly been painted into a corner. No of course not. Nor did I ever take that position on this thread. A casual dating situation is one thing because finances are not being combined. If the relationship were to become more serious and there was talk of moving in together then I would ask flat out about finances and lay mine out on the table as well. That way we could make arrangements and go from there. I am a no nonsense kind of gal. |
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