I think you should know before you date!


Would you knowingly go to bed with someone who had AIDS?

Finances are the same thing almost.

Whew! That was a relief. I see Andy, Irish, or Italian in a sentence I begin to get worried. I am 1/4 Irish, 1/2 Italian, 1/4 Sicilian.
I also used to drink a lot.
These days I do but rarely.
I also get accused a lot of some honked up Sheat.
On another thread someone insinuated I was a member of the velvet underground.
Thanks everyone for letting me off the hook!!!!!!

By the way my name is Andy too. It is actually Andreas but it was not my Fault!!!


And yes, the four major sticking points in a relationship, honesty, Communication, money, religion.


Viva Amore

That's Amore ~ Dean Martin

In Napoli where love is king
When boy meets girl here's what they say

When the moon hits you eye like a big pizza pie
That's amore
When the world seems to shine like you've had too much wine
That's amore
Bells will ring ting-a-ling-a-ling, ting-a-ling-a-ling
And you'll sing "Vita bella"
Hearts will play tippy-tippy-tay, tippy-tippy-tay
Like a gay tarantella

When the stars make you drool just like a pasta fazool
That's amore
When you dance down the street with a cloud at your feet
You're in love
When you walk down in a dream but you know you're not
Dreaming signore
Scuzza me, but you see, back in old Napoli
That's amore

(When the moon hits you eye like a big pizza pie
That's amore
When the world seems to shine like you've had too much wine
That's amore
Bells will ring ting-a-ling-a-ling, ting-a-ling-a-ling
And you'll sing "Vita bella"
Hearts will play tippy-tippy-tay, tippy-tippy-tay
Like a gay tarantella

When the stars make you drool just like a pasta fazool)
That's amore
(When you dance down the street with a cloud at your feet
You're in love
When you walk down in a dream but you know you're not
Dreaming signore
Scuzza me, but you see, back in old Napoli)
That's amore
Lucky fella

When the stars make you drool just like a pasta fazool)
That's amore
(When you dance down the street with a cloud at your feet
You're in love
When you walk down in a dream but you know you're not
Dreaming signore
Scuzza me, but you see, back in old Napoli)
That's amore, (amore)
That's amore

How quickly you forget. Read back up through the thread, I think it was 3 consecutive posts where I asked you to find where I had said something.

It's not even in the same ballpark as poor credit rating!

Well are you unable just to write it down? What the hell?

Besides, I just summed it up. You have over and over again on this thread insisted that I am a self centered, awful woman because I would not marry a man with a bad past financial history.

In that case, how would I know unless you willfully kept this information hidden from me? This is the question you have been asked by a couple posters now and yet you fail to answer.

Can you give an example of honesty in a relationship?

Would that be misrepresenting yourself and your future plans? Oh wait, no that's not honest.

Would that be not being honest to your family about your dating status? Oh wait, that's not honest either.

I'm sorry I'm having a difficult time understanding a practical application of honesty in a relationship....

Can you give me one from your personal life?

Sure, by letting Alison know that I wasn't interested in the same TV shows as her I never felt forced to watch them with her and she never badgered me into doing so. A practical application of honesty in a relationship.

Well I'm glad you have one to offer up for my understanding.

Glad to be of help.

Yes, thank you, I do have a full grasp of what you consider to be honesty in a relationship now.

There is a big defference between not telling someone something that may or may not be any of their business at anypoint in time, and flat out lieing about it.

Personally my financial situation and debts are my business and no one elses until I choose it to be.

I would consider honesty in a relationship the ability to fully disclose finances and not keep anything hidden.

A full grasp from just one example? Sounds like you're jumping the gun there.

Oh, I'm good with people, I'm a pretty perceptive person.

Really? It sounds more like you're prone to leaping to conclusions. Whatever works for you is all that matters though. Night!

I get that a lot. But usually from gold-diggers trying to find out how much they can get from me and trying to hide behind "Honesty"

Thanks but thats my business not yours. I'm not lying to you, I'm just not telling you something that isn't your business.

It also depends on what point of your relationship you at too. If your getting ready to get married then I see your point. but if you have only been dating for a year or two and it's not moving to marrage, then no, it isn't anyones business.

Oh no, jumping to conclusions is not my cup of whiskey....

I make fully educated conclusions based on a vast array of information.

Have a wonderful night, tell me how you feel in the morning when you look at yourself in the mirror.

Scroll back. That has been my position this entire thread. Also I am hardly a "gold digger". I have excellent credit and am completely self sufficient. So in that case I have a lot to protect. I would need to know the spending habits and current financial standing of any man with which I choose to enter into a serious relationship with or co-habitation situation.