lets see.... i haven't written in a online journal since i was in college. so, lets see where to start.Being on dating websites really can either make or break your self-esteem sometimes. There are people that are on here to find their next one night stand, there are people on here that have no idea what they want do they think that dating is the next step to finding out what they want and then there are people that are really looking for the person that they want to be with, spend sometime with and truly enjoy.

I am looking for someone that can make me laugh. Someone that makes my heart happy, a true gentleman.....are there any still out there?

I send out e-mails and don't get responses....why? if you're not interested isn't it better to let the person know then to let them wonder? wouldn't you want the same done in return? or is that just crazy talk? let me know. i'd love to hear your opinion.

i read 'no reply' as 'no interest'.

I'm sure that quite a few people have been a victim of the "ignore syndrome" here, I have. But you know, the way I look at it, if a person is the type to pass judgement by a pic and a few words on a profile and just turn their nose up and ignore someone, they aren't the type of person I would be looking for anyway. That's just plain rude, and rude people suck. At least muster up the common decency to say "no thank you" or "no I'm not interested", don't just ingore someone.

It made me a little "gun shy" about sending out emails too, but the way I see it, it's "their loss".

People are rude in real life, they are rude on here....

It is what it is.

I say, who cares? If they were worth it you'd know.... and if they don't reply you know they weren't worth it...

Well there are a lot of people on here that are not interested in anything but friendship. Even I have made many friends on this site. I log on and post and read emails and have a good laugh or cry and forget all about why this site is what it is. So just stay open minded and post often. People will get to know you and soon you'll be getting the emails and talking to lots of different people from all walks of life.

most of the email i receive indicates that the person has not bothered to read my profile at all.

so who's the rude one when i don't reply?

Excellent point.... I delete those as well.

What's in an email......?

~ WOW,,your hot,,ummmm,,ok,,,and I should reply how?

~ Hi, I like your profile,,,sure, and what did you want to know about me?

~ Maybe we can "talk", my email is, whoaskedya@theothersite.com,,or,,you can call me ,,,Ummmm,,did I ASK for your number? Scuse me, I'm getting SENILE,,musta forgot

so,,iffn I don't reply, chances are your mail fell into one of those category's

Interesting....

So if you were in a bar, and someone across the room caught your eye, and you walked over and said hello to them, and they just turned their back on you and didn't even acknowledge you, wouldn't that be just a little bit rude?

It's no different online. If you can't even take the time to say "no thank you" or even "you didn't read my profile", it's rude. Bottom line.

That's one thing this world is lacking quite a bit these days... common friggin courtesy.

if the person were staring at my breasts the entire time (which translates in the internet to 'hi ur hawt') i'd probably be even more rude to them than i am here.

i could care less if i'm thought of as being rude. in fact, my profile headline specifically highlights my stellar personality so that there can be no future misunderstanding when i don't reply

Love the emails that say I love your profile and call me. So I can go out with a total stranger? Nope doesn't work that way. The ones that sign off with kisses and all romantic when they don't even know you. They are in love with being in love, probably with themselves, since they sure can't know me well enough to be in love with me.

I came here not knowing what to expect. I saw the site, became intrigued, and clicked the link. Over a year later, I have made some very good friends, a few great friends, and met someone special.

I stay here because of those friends and the fact that this place is like a "home" for me. I found that by coming here, it gave me a better observation of what I look like to others. Hey, hearing a woman say "you are a hottie" does make one feel good. Plus, I am better now at picking up on when a woman is interested in me. Yay! Go me. LOL!

There are rude people here. But there are alot of nice, funny, kind, weird, sexy people here as well. If someone doesn't respond to your email, don't take it personally. Just move on. Maybe they were scared to respond? Maybe they felt you were out of there league or something? Or, maybe they are just rude. Whatever the case, don't let it bother you so much.

It would depend on the "hello". Often I get the "Hey, smile pretty lady". That I do ignore. It's pompass and controlling, manipulating and misogynistic. But a "hello".... I'd say it back and go about my business. Or they could do the same, if I said it to them.

I never know what is going through a person's mind or what sort of day they are having, and vice versa.

Ummmmm... OK I guess that's your brand of logic

it doesn't matter if it's logical or not.

no one's asking you to write to me, are they?

Never use the word "logic" on a dating site.

If a gentleman sends and email and introduces himself, tells a couple sentences about himself, mentions a couple of common interests tells me he would like to chat I will answer and probably tell him when I will be on line. I will watch for his comments in forums. If a guy constantly talks about cosying up to a bottle, makes crude remarks, or is chronically crying about the ex or how all women are into jerks probably going to pass over him. Kind of like he fell on his own sword.

Good point....or nice guy....

You can use insanity, irrational, misunderstood....

Howdy Goof. Guess who hasn't seen the History of Violence?

I must call the professor then...let him know what he is walking into.

There are rude people everywhere. The world and the internet are full of rude people. Some are proud of it too. It's the ones who think their **** don't stink that really make me LMAO.

I "read" every profile I look at, word for word, long or short. It tells me alot about the person. I am not the type to send a rude email to anyone, and I have responded to every email I have received. If someone receives an email that is rude, I can understand it being ignored, I'm sure it happens alot.

In the short time I have been here I have made a few good friends. I guess I was just raised to be polite and show common courtesy to people, no matter what the situation. As I said in my other post, this world is really lacking in common friggin courtesy.