Are we meeting the same guys?

No relationships. No problems.

Promising the world. Feeding me everything that I want to hear. Catering to every fantasy that I might have. Then finding out it was all a big lie. I am a hopeless romantic and men seem to like to prey on that. I guess I am gullible. I want to believe the best in people, truly I do. But I am seeming to lose all confidence in ever getting what I want.

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I couldn't agree more with this.

They can't keep up with me sexually...


Actually, each relationship has been pretty different and all ended for different reasons.. so there isn't any one thing that stands out that I can think of...

I love you...

I wish I could find a girl that could keep up with me

not having one lol

My biggest problem is that I ignore, minimize, or rationalize away what my instincts or gut tell me about a person's character early on. ....Or, that perhaps I choose exactly the type of person most wouldn't (in some form or another) because I believe, on some subconscious level (when it happens) that I will be less likely to lose them or to be abandoned by them. The ironic part is, the very same qualities that I believe will prevent loss and abandonment are the ones which cause the person to soon mess up or for me to reject them. Its doomed to fail from the start.

Endings, loss, abandonment....all very difficult topics for me. But there is a missing piece to the puzzle I have recently become aware of; and, that is the shame that keeps me bound in this web, this cycle.

I rely on instinct and gut when it comes to evaluating someones character.Seems to work very well, at least for me.

retaining my autonomy while still truly being a part of the relationship.

To be honest I probably make you feel shunned.......I have my life and expect you to have yours and I'm not always the best at "making" time for my partner

I have very high expectations. VERY HIGH.

my bigist problem with women is that they like to play their little games with me. say that they are interested in me talk to me for a while and then you never here from them they are scarred to meet you and if you give them your phone number and want to talk to them and get to know them they say that they will call you and never do. but if you should do them the way that they do you then you are a -------.and a -------. my former wife donna who passed away on feb 20 2007 wasnt afraid to take a chance she gave me her phone no and athough she didnt know me phoned me and we talked and got to know each other,and before long i went over to her house. and we were married for 28 years. but these women today are all scared i dont know how some of them will ever meet anyone like that.

Wowsers... so it's not you, it's them, huh?

Thanks for answering your own question for us.

us men are not all like that,im not but a lot of you women like to play games

No, my point was that you said YOUR biggest problem in relationships was the women you date/meet.

Saying anything further might result in my getting suspended.

Same here. Only problem is when there simply is no one who matches up....

I mean, yeah, they're high -- they're not UNATTAINABLE -- !!

Or maybe they are....?

shortage of lead for my pencil

every split in a relationship is made up of three parts his side/her side/the truth. I'd say the biggest issues in most relationships is self responsibility for our part in what caused the break-up, and our inability to deal with the other parties actions.

I don't enjoy game playing at all. However, sometimes the way I act from fear of being hurt may come across as game playing.

Lexy,

Not trying to hijack, although I do need a distraction...

I found out recently I had wickedly unrealistic expectations. I wanted a man with immediate physicality, and many blue collar traits that were about immediacy. I also wanted a smart, steady, secure man who could challenge and inspire me, and that I could admire & respect.

Duh..... it doesn't exist. It is a dichotomy, and I wanted both ends to fuse. So I had to go in the middle there... and re-prioritize.

And then I met the professor. I definitely don't feel like I settled. Not one iota. And we use words like dichotomy in everyday conversations.