Are you serious?
...I HATE the fact I am over weight.
I get SO scared to meet anyone because of it...

great chubscouts think alike.

:p

oops double time. sorry.

And you don't like text messages from a man's ex either.

for those who've never been the "big gal", it sometimes is a constant struggle to have self-esteem and confidence, not to mention losing the weight!

No....cause I am God here and I won't allow this thread to get wayyyyyyy off topic like that one did last night.

Voluptuous...I don't like my body size either.......and need to continue to do something about it, for all kinds of reason. However, I like who I am and have found great confidence in just being who I am RIGHT NOW and not worrying all the time about who I could be.

Please allow yourself some latitude here....your a beautiful smart woman. Men would be lucky to meet you!

Correct!

Seriously though...She called me fat and the comment was a "LOW BLOW" for me.
I am as big as I am for a lot of reasons. It's not like I sit here with a health issue. I'm fat because of depression. When I lost my husband, I let myself go too. My weight is a constant reminder he is gone

are you doing something about it? or are you just letting it rule you? i mean seriously. I'm fat due to depression and PCOS. the medical condition won't allow me to shed the weight that the depression has allowed me (not caused me!) to gain.

i work out every damned day of my life ... just to maintain. just to make sure i dont turn out 400 lbs and unable to move.

and about someone else callin you fat...

1. who cares? I dont know you but just from reading your posts.. you're better than letting someone else state something about you.

2. is it true? did she state the obvious? i mean when someone calls me fat i look at them and say "thanks captain obvious. you're a real freakin genius aren'tcha?" because its like sayin "hey! you're a human!" duh.

no more excuses. k? make yourself strong any way you can and love yourself regardless.. or the depression will eat you alive.

I was told the other night that I am VERY good at a lot of what I do. I know I am a good person and I know I have a lot to offer but the weight is the one thing I have no desire to "control". I have been told I am a perfectionist. I don't push things to an extreme, I just take pride in what I do- no matter how small the task. My parenting reflects my hard work as well.
My weight is a constant reminder I have been thrown into a situation I didn't want to be in.

Goof, are you talking about the same guy I am thinking about?

The a$$ with no couth?

He actually emailed me about my weight! Which came out of NOWHERE!


Yeah, I don't think he'll be here long, especially since



I think he should pop out 3 phucking kids and see if he can 'snap' back.

I consider my extra poundage my love trophies from my kids.

I guess I care.
It hurts when other people criticize me.
I care what others think...dunno why, but I do.
I go to the gym but the lack of motivation is there.
...I let it rule me.

This size has also become "safe" for me. The less appealing I am to others, the less change and heart ache for my life.
Sounds screwed up- I know.

I have PCOS too, and I have never had a problem finding dates.

I mean, I actually get more phone numbers than I desire.

Especially seeing as I am really only interested in one man...

And yes, I do have extra poundage

I am as big as I am for a lot of reasons. It's not like I sit here with a health issue. I'm fat because of depression. When I lost my husband, I let myself go too. My weight is a constant reminder he is gone

I can relate totally. For 2 years I sat in a hospital, by his side, and the weight came to me. But you know what? Even when he couldn't walk I was there, and even when he couldn't talk, I knew what would make him comfortable, and the weight and looks didn't mean a thing. I miss my husband too, but this taught me real intimacy. Love yourself and who you are and embrace it. I get down about my weight, but it won't hold me back.

no it doesn't sound screwed up. it sounds like what alot of other women experience even me. i'm comfortable in my depression. i'm comfortable in my fat. it keeps me from experiencing hardcore happiness which can only bring hardcore heartache. thats the logic. and thats the flaw.

my mummy always told me that if i'm willin to accept it.. and do nothin about it then shut up about it and don't complain.

she's a chubscout too and very very right.

one day you'll have to make the decision. get off your @ss and lose the weight (start walkin!!) or die and leave your family the sadness of having to buy a bigger coffin like they did to my mom's aunt pauline.

thats life.

Thank you

oh honey PCOS doesn't stop me from gettin dates.. lol just puts up a fight with my weight. thats all. plus the other stuff it causes but its livable. ya know? just another thing in my life i can't let rule me.

my sympathies for your loss

Hey Goof, according to Dr. Oz, for every 35lbs you lose, you gain an extra inch down there


So if ya got it, flaunt it

I like women with extra meat. There is more to love.