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Okay, here's my story before I ask the question. I've been dating guy#1 from on here for about a month and a half. Nothing serious yet. Guy #2 He is my neighbor, who, 2 years ago showed interest in me and I in him, but he decided not to pursue anything cause he is best friends with my brother and he was worried that if it didn't work out between us, it would ruin their friendship. I was fine with that, and we've remained friends since then. Well, now that he finds out that I'm dating this other guy, he proposes to me to have a FWB. I'm like WTF? Of course I told him no, and haven't had much to do with him since then. Guy #3 We both started the job on the same day. He was really nice, and I thought it would be cool to go out with him, but I never approached him about it because at that time, I wasn't ready to date anyone yet. So 3 months has gone by and during that time, we see each other every once in a while, and he flirts with me, but he flirts with all of the women. It's all innocent so I never take it seriously. Well, 2 nights ago, he overheard a conversation that I was having with another co-worker about the guy I've been dating. So right as I'm getting ready to leave to go home, he comes up to me, and says to me that he's been interested in me since the day he saw me, and that he knows I'm dating this new guy now, but that he would really like the chance to get to know me better and take me out. I was speechless and dumbfounded, and the only thing I could think to say was I gotta get home and I'll talk to you later. I won't see him again until Tuesday night at work again. So my question is, why do guys do that? They don't say a thing the entire time I'm "single" and then the minute I start dating someone, that's when they speak up! Why do they wait to say anything and then spring everything on you? Sorry mine was so long, but you know me, I gotta tell a story behind everything, lol. No worries. I like to have some details before I try to answer something like the question you posed. 
Thing is, I can't really say why men do that. I can suggest that it's just a case of needing a kick in the ass ( you dating someone else ) to get them motivated to make a move. It could also be that, finding out that you are now dating someone makes them realize that approaching you in that way is not as difficult as they have convinced themselves that it is. It could also be that they suddenly realize that their window of opportunity may be closing pretty quickly. In any case, I would say " Just be flattered by it ". It's gotta be nice to know that you are so desirable. 
Thanks JustaGuy, and I am flattered. But it also makes me want to smack the crap out of them, for waiting so damn long!!!! 
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Okay, here's my story before I ask the question. I've been dating guy#1 from on here for about a month and a half. Nothing serious yet. Guy #2 He is my neighbor, who, 2 years ago showed interest in me and I in him, but he decided not to pursue anything cause he is best friends with my brother and he was worried that if it didn't work out between us, it would ruin their friendship. I was fine with that, and we've remained friends since then. Well, now that he finds out that I'm dating this other guy, he proposes to me to have a FWB. I'm like WTF? Of course I told him no, and haven't had much to do with him since then. Guy #3 We both started the job on the same day. He was really nice, and I thought it would be cool to go out with him, but I never approached him about it because at that time, I wasn't ready to date anyone yet. So 3 months has gone by and during that time, we see each other every once in a while, and he flirts with me, but he flirts with all of the women. It's all innocent so I never take it seriously. Well, 2 nights ago, he overheard a conversation that I was having with another co-worker about the guy I've been dating. So right as I'm getting ready to leave to go home, he comes up to me, and says to me that he's been interested in me since the day he saw me, and that he knows I'm dating this new guy now, but that he would really like the chance to get to know me better and take me out. I was speechless and dumbfounded, and the only thing I could think to say was I gotta get home and I'll talk to you later. I won't see him again until Tuesday night at work again. So my question is, why do guys do that? They don't say a thing the entire time I'm "single" and then the minute I start dating someone, that's when they speak up! Why do they wait to say anything and then spring everything on you? Sorry mine was so long, but you know me, I gotta tell a story behind everything, lol. Jeez... I hope you don't mess with Guy 2 OR Guy 3.... they are both losers/whimps who can't speak up when they need to. If they honestly gave a crap, they would have been honest off the bat, had a pair, and asked you out... In so doing as they have, they are like silly little puppies who are rolling onto their back and peeing on the floor to submit to you... yick.... not very attractive from where I am sitting... LOL. BUT... rule # 1... NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER GET YOUR HONEY WHERE YOU MAKE YOUR MONEY no no no no no no no no no, (x's a million no's) to # 3..... Been there, done that... totally sucked... Don't worry, TM, I'm not going after #2 or #3. I found a "great" guy, and I'm sticking to him! #2 and #3 are just going to have to find another ride, cause this train has left the station! |
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Don't worry, TM, I'm not going after #2 or #3. I found a "great" guy, and I'm sticking to him! #2 and #3 are just going to have to find another ride, cause this train has left the station! yayyyy!!!!! |
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dear guy
why do guys act like they don't care if you're around and then when you dump them..they stalk you? |
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Jeff Gordon fan here! Justaguy I've decided to give up trying to find the sock monster and decided to buy new socks it's cheaper then therapy! Yeah. That Sock Monster can be really tough to catch. I had a very hard time getting him to sit still long enough for me to get a picture. Haven't been able to find him since then. But I know that little critter is around here somewhere... |
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Boooooo Hisssssss.......
Uh huh. Sorry...I just can't bring myself to root for the Suckeyes. Bad enough that Michigan got beat by State today....but no WAY am I gonna root for Ohio State....lol Anyone know why all the trees in Michigan lean south?? Because Ohio SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!! Someone told me it was because Michigan blows.....but ok. Oh and I'm a good sport....just saying. No need to yell silly things at this Buckeye fan. I just enjoy the fun of a good ole' rivalry. Sorry Heather. My brother gets carried away occasionally.
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so todays question...........i'm going to London tomorrow.....what shall i do to pass the time on the train????? Hmmm.....kick back and read a good book?? Perhaps find a certain passenger and entertain yourself by smiling at the with a very strange look in your eye?? Make them wonder what you are up to. lol |
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Boooooo Hisssssss.......
Uh huh. Sorry...I just can't bring myself to root for the Suckeyes. Bad enough that Michigan got beat by State today....but no WAY am I gonna root for Ohio State....lol Anyone know why all the trees in Michigan lean south?? Because Ohio SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!! Someone told me it was because Michigan blows.....but ok. Oh and I'm a good sport....just saying. No need to yell silly things at this Buckeye fan. I just enjoy the fun of a good ole' rivalry. Sorry Heather. My brother gets carried away occasionally.
No worries.....I got my big girl panties on..... |
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OK, here's one JustAGuy. Why do I jump into relationships way too fast, why am I so emotion-starved and needy and lonely, and why is it every time I do, I end up driving the woman away? I also never end up with friends, just someone who doesn't want anything to do with me. Mostly because I wanted to fall in love before it was even time. (what a dumbass...) (it may be that background information may be needed here in order to fully explain the entire question...) I probably would need a bit of background on this one. However, one thing I can say is that the fact that you recognize those problems are the first thing you need to solve those problems. I would venture a guess that, subconsciously, you feel that you deserve nothing real, and so you jump in with both feet when you find something that may or may not be. |
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Okay, here's my story before I ask the question. I've been dating guy#1 from on here for about a month and a half. Nothing serious yet. Guy #2 He is my neighbor, who, 2 years ago showed interest in me and I in him, but he decided not to pursue anything cause he is best friends with my brother and he was worried that if it didn't work out between us, it would ruin their friendship. I was fine with that, and we've remained friends since then. Well, now that he finds out that I'm dating this other guy, he proposes to me to have a FWB. I'm like WTF? Of course I told him no, and haven't had much to do with him since then. Guy #3 We both started the job on the same day. He was really nice, and I thought it would be cool to go out with him, but I never approached him about it because at that time, I wasn't ready to date anyone yet. So 3 months has gone by and during that time, we see each other every once in a while, and he flirts with me, but he flirts with all of the women. It's all innocent so I never take it seriously. Well, 2 nights ago, he overheard a conversation that I was having with another co-worker about the guy I've been dating. So right as I'm getting ready to leave to go home, he comes up to me, and says to me that he's been interested in me since the day he saw me, and that he knows I'm dating this new guy now, but that he would really like the chance to get to know me better and take me out. I was speechless and dumbfounded, and the only thing I could think to say was I gotta get home and I'll talk to you later. I won't see him again until Tuesday night at work again. So my question is, why do guys do that? They don't say a thing the entire time I'm "single" and then the minute I start dating someone, that's when they speak up! Why do they wait to say anything and then spring everything on you? Sorry mine was so long, but you know me, I gotta tell a story behind everything, lol. No worries. I like to have some details before I try to answer something like the question you posed.
Thing is, I can't really say why men do that. I can suggest that it's just a case of needing a kick in the ass ( you dating someone else ) to get them motivated to make a move. It could also be that, finding out that you are now dating someone makes them realize that approaching you in that way is not as difficult as they have convinced themselves that it is. It could also be that they suddenly realize that their window of opportunity may be closing pretty quickly. In any case, I would say " Just be flattered by it ". It's gotta be nice to know that you are so desirable.
Thanks JustaGuy, and I am flattered. But it also makes me want to smack the crap out of them, for waiting so damn long!!!!
I would agree that they need to be cuffed upside the melon. :-) |
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dear guy why do guys act like they don't care if you're around and then when you dump them..they stalk you? Because whether they want to admit it to themselves or not, they want to be with you and can't stand the thought of you not wanting to be with them. Best I can do with this one because I really don't understand why they do it either. |
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Edited by
JustAGuy2112
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Mon 10/27/08 08:24 PM
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Boooooo Hisssssss.......
Uh huh. Sorry...I just can't bring myself to root for the Suckeyes. Bad enough that Michigan got beat by State today....but no WAY am I gonna root for Ohio State....lol Anyone know why all the trees in Michigan lean south?? Because Ohio SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!! Someone told me it was because Michigan blows.....but ok. Oh and I'm a good sport....just saying. No need to yell silly things at this Buckeye fan. I just enjoy the fun of a good ole' rivalry. Sorry Heather. My brother gets carried away occasionally.
No worries.....I got my big girl panties on..... He probably has his on too....lmao |
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He probably has his on too....lmao 
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Edited by
carolanne58
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Mon 10/27/08 08:40 PM
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justaguy how can I get back a rat who after chating me up for weeks on this site and phone and arranging to meet is a no show??? No explanation! dumb ass!Hate to admit it feeling so let down.Frown Also got my big girl panties on too lol just kidding!
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justaguy how can I get back a rat who after chating me up for weeks on this site and phone and arranging to meet is a no show??? No explanation! dumb ass!Hate to admit it feeling so let down.Frown Also got my big girl panties on too lol just kidding! Set up another meet.....wait for him to show up....when he does...kick him in the shin and walk out.
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Anyone know why all the trees in Michigan lean south?? Because Ohio SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!! OHHHH....SNAP! |
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dear guy why do guys act like they don't care if you're around and then when you dump them..they stalk you? Because whether they want to admit it to themselves or not, they want to be with you and can't stand the thought of you not wanting to be with them. Best I can do with this one because I really don't understand why they do it either. From a woman's point of view...it's all about the hunt. We haven't evolved all that much IMO! LOL! |
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justaguy how can I get back a rat who after chating me up for weeks on this site and phone and arranging to meet is a no show??? No explanation! dumb ass!Hate to admit it feeling so let down.Frown Also got my big girl panties on too lol just kidding! Set up another meet.....wait for him to show up....when he does...kick him in the shin and walk out.
I will be aiming a little higher then the shin my dear lmao |
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justaguy how can I get back a rat who after chating me up for weeks on this site and phone and arranging to meet is a no show??? No explanation! dumb ass!Hate to admit it feeling so let down.Frown Also got my big girl panties on too lol just kidding! Set up another meet.....wait for him to show up....when he does...kick him in the shin and walk out.
I will be aiming a little higher then the shin my dear lmao HA! Go Carolanne.......I got yer back! |
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JustAGuy??? WHY do men come though at the last minute (just when a girl has given up on them) and GIVE THEM HOPE once again??? Are we stupid to fall for it???
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