That is awesome..... totally awesome! Nice to know your kid reaps the rewards for his enabling sugar momma, huh? Even if it is just enough to go out to a nice dinner.

I laughed my assssss off!! No ramen noodles and fake cheese for him!!! tee hee!!

karma huh

Or snickers and chips, socks and white tees.... what can he use to barter with the crackheads?

Ahh, I'm getting a vicarious pleasure out of thinking about your ex in jail, and I don't even know him....

What do you mean? Social security doesn't make you put it away for savings or college. I'm not sure about what you mean. And congrats on your ex finally paying.

"however, if you make enough to pay for everythign without the child support (just the same as with social security), then you are obligated to put that child support into savings for the child, in order for them to have it when they need it later on. for example, to pay for college."

Welcome to my world lilith!! Makes me giggle everytime I think about it!

Men should pay child support that I agree. What pisses me off is that a couple will have children and struggle the whole time with paying the bills or buying food or whatever because the man or sometimes the woman or both have a love of partying (beer, booze, drugs etc.) Then they get divorced and they act surprised that the child support is not rolling in? I wish people would seriously consider the "what if's" before they say the "I do's"

Yeah, but how can I put up with the brats if I don't be having my beer and smokes, not to mention the weed? Those diapers hold more than you'd think, and I'm sick of you meddling folks judging me just cus I don't have no mercedes...

(Sorry, couldn't resist)

now this scares me my brain went in that route as well

I'm telling you, Fran, you had me at hello...

Now that is funny! Sad to say it happens much like that but hearing it from Lilith is hilarious.

I like to throw out some crazy ass posts like that once in a while, ask Fran.... It's fun to slip into the mode of people that I meet and hear, and it reminds me of how grateful I am and how blessed I am.

I hear such diatribes often, sad to say. I got stories atop stories, worse than my dating miseries!

So a few things I'd like to say on the child support issue... The courts will not take away child support used for ANY reason... The way they see it is that the custodial parent pays many times the amount of money for the support of the child more than the noncustodial parent... So if the custodial parent spends that money (and I am NOT condoning this) on themselves, it's supposedly not a huge deal....

Now, if you're having some of the troubles I've had with collecting child support, I have a suggestion. My ex was required to have his wages attached, and by law, to report to each new employer that he has a child support obligation so they can attach his wages from the beginning. What he learned is that if he didn't report to his employer that he had such an obligation, it would delay the garnishment for about 90 days or so.. Also, he learned that if he quit his job as soon as the first garnishment happened, and got a different job, basically changing employers every 90 days, he would be paying minimal child support... He'd lose his driver's license for nonpayment and go to court saying he needed it to get to and from work, then he'd continue his nonpayment after the license was given back....

So I know the child support dilemma... So what I did was research online. There is a company called supportkids.com that will enforce child support payments when the state/local child support agency is unable to. The child support agency has specific rules they have to follow in collection of support, where supportkids has a much more effective system. They will freeze ALL assets of the noncustodial parent and their spouse if they have one, put leins on houses and cars, and pretty much tie up every single asset that person owns until they pay.

Now supportkids does take I think like 7% of it's collection amount, so some people just don't see the point... My view is, if I'm getting nothing, I'll gladly give up 7% of something for that to change, because I can't afford to raise babies without that child support...

Supportkids won't help you until the parent is $5000 or more in arrears because they don't want you to use them as a retaliatory act in a fight. They want you to take the child support seriously and once they've collected for a while, your local child support agency does pick up the tab and you stop losing that 7%.

I used this place for my deadbeat ex.. I hadn't gotten a single child support payment from my ex in the 10 years his daughter had been alive, and had just become disabled. I really needed that child support badly! It worked well. I'd use them again if I ended up in the situation again. The good thing is that my now knows I'd do it, so he doesn't even consider nonpayment :)

my son is 1 1/2 yrs old. me and his afther broke up b4 i found out i was preggo. he knew it was his but was in an out of jail he never met his son until he was like 2 months old. didnt see him again till he was 8 months old and we thought we could get back together for the sake of our son. well that didnt work out. i threw him out in march of 08 and he has only seen his son once since then. i filed for child support and they couldnt serve him his papers so i cant get child support at all!!! isnt that BS!! i know he is in jail again and i called the enforcement agency and told them so hopefully i can finally get it. not that he will pay if he had the chance anyway

I hate to say this.......because I really don't agree with it, but at least in Ohio I know of a friend who had this happen to them. The dad was behind in CS payments. The children were well beyond 18. Somehow somebody caught up with the dad and the children got a large chunk of support. Low and behold IF they wanted that money to go to the mother, they had to sign the check over to her. If they did not, they were able to keep it for themselves. One son kept the money, the other turned it over to his mom. It is so unfair as this woman had worked 2 jobs for like 15 years to support these kids and give them a good life. That money should have been hers as payback for putting a roof over their heads, feeding them and educating them. Apparently the one son didn't give a crap what Mom did, he wanted HIS money. Shameful IMO but he was legally able to do so.

Why? does your dad owe you money??????

You are wrong here!! Illinois will not work with Indiana. I think you need to check things out before you speak...it would be nice if every thing you said was true but its not!! Illinois will not do any thing to people that live there. They said it was Indiana's problem not theirs!

the money is not owed to the child it is owed to the custodial parent

Exactly...I was the one who had to go to family or even the church to see to it that my kids had what they needed in order for them to become the wonderful adults they are now. I did what I had to, went without, took vacation time so I could still have money coming in when I had to go into the hospital. I've waited for my kids to "grow up" to have a life. He's been able to own numerous cars, spoiled numerous girlfriends and their children, and went to countless parties.

State of Michigan has a complicated formula which includes variables: Number of kids, amount of time children spend with each parent, income of both parents. For me it comes out to %30 of my income. My costs for health ins. dental ins. are deducted from that total. I pay it directly to the state, and then the state sends the money to the ex. Unreimbursed medical expenses are split, and in my case not 50/50. The money comes right out of my paycheck, automatic deduction.
Simple and easy. I started paying as soon as I moved out of the house, before the court was even involved. We share other expenses as they come up.
These are MY DAUGHTERS, and because of work arrangements over the years, I was very fortunate to spend a lot of time raising my girls.