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I try not to make my life choices based on the worst case scenarios.. if you're scared to take risks because of what could happen then you'll never experience anything.. I know that theres a good chance that I won't get my "fairytale happily ever after" but if I find someone that I am confident in my relationship with enough to marry then I think I have a good chance of working towards an outcome that I can be happy with. I also know it takes a lot of work. I'm the type of person that's very committed in everything I do. My first relationship lasted 4 years if that's any indication of how I look at life and love. Well, I took risks twice and got divorced twice.
Best laid plans, and all. I was just as confident and committed as anyone else. Sometimes things don't work out the way you would like. I managed to live with someone for nine years; which was longer than my marriages put together. You just never know. |
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I think there are two parts of commitment in marriage. There's the signing of the legal contract, and then there's the emotional commitment someone makes to a person when they ask or accept a marriage proposal.
The paper gives legal protection and benefits for the couple. In my opinion, it means as much as is materially invested in the relationship, which can either be a lot or little. It also helps to handle issues that need to be settled if divorce occurs. The emotional commitment is a sacred promise that states that the person will be committed to working problems out, supporting each other. Essentially the wedding vows. I guess a lot of people try to make the emotional commitment and fail, and others don't care to try. They just go through the motions. According to what I've read, the most important thing which determines whether a relationship will work out is how devoted both are to the relationship. |
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It is...or it should be. I don't think enough people understand the meanng of the phrase til death us do part anymore. We live in a disposable world and marriage has just become something else to throw away. 
But then again, my own expectations of marriage are the very reasons I am Miss No1slove and not Mrs. or Ms. 
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Marriage originated as a religious ceromony and was taken over by the government to make it a legal one.
But if you could only marry within the auspices of religion, then non-religious people would not be allowed to marry. That hardly seems fair. A civil union provides certain legal protection. I am just telling you were religious ceromony originated. There was once no paper, no clerk of court, no lawyers...people would walk out under the open sky and vow themselves to one another...so, why should we now feel such an affection for a hijacked ceromony? I do not see why the Government should control it. Allow people to control their own lives. If two wish to be joined, allow them to do so in whatever manner they deem fit. Be it religious, spiritual, magical...or even comical 
Not in all states. Georgia is one state that does not recognize common law...and there are several other states as well. Cases usually come up in family disputes where a jilted husband or wife learns of a mate living with someone and actually has a warrant issued. Cases have been adjudicated in the courts. |
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and they outlaw people making private vows and living with each other? How do they track it? I don't know, but a South Carolina woman, where they bar cohabitation and don't permit common law marriage, was fired from her job last year AND charged for cohabitation. |
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and they outlaw people making private vows and living with each other? How do they track it? I don't know, but a South Carolina woman, where they bar cohabitation and don't permit common law marriage, was fired from her job last year AND charged for cohabitation. yup, common here in southern states. you northerners just don't know all the laws down here. |
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Edited by
No1sLove
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Tue 06/17/08 02:28 PM
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and they outlaw people making private vows and living with each other? How do they track it? I don't know, but a South Carolina woman, where they bar cohabitation and don't permit common law marriage, was fired from her job last year AND charged for cohabitation.
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The Government needs to get out of people's bedrooms
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Marriage originated as a religious ceromony and was taken over by the government to make it a legal one.
But if you could only marry within the auspices of religion, then non-religious people would not be allowed to marry. That hardly seems fair. A civil union provides certain legal protection. I am just telling you were religious ceromony originated. There was once no paper, no clerk of court, no lawyers...people would walk out under the open sky and vow themselves to one another...so, why should we now feel such an affection for a hijacked ceromony? I do not see why the Government should control it. Allow people to control their own lives. If two wish to be joined, allow them to do so in whatever manner they deem fit. Be it religious, spiritual, magical...or even comical
Not in all states. Georgia is one state that does not recognize common law...and there are several other states as well. Cases usually come up in family disputes where a jilted husband or wife learns of a mate living with someone and actually has a warrant issued. Cases have been adjudicated in the courts. I am talking about two people who are not married to others, who decide they want to live together. Who can stop them? |
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and they outlaw people making private vows and living with each other? How do they track it? I don't know, but a South Carolina woman, where they bar cohabitation and don't permit common law marriage, was fired from her job last year AND charged for cohabitation. yup, common here in southern states. you northerners just don't know all the laws down here. |
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The Government needs to get out of people's bedrooms
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The Government needs to get out of people's bedrooms
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Cohabitation is illegal in Florida too BUT it usually isn't enforced. Now, for tax purposes, if you cohabit and the laws PERMIT it, you CAN claim that person as a dependent, if they meet the other qualifications. Here in Florida, you can't.
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Marriage originated as a religious ceromony and was taken over by the government to make it a legal one.
But if you could only marry within the auspices of religion, then non-religious people would not be allowed to marry. That hardly seems fair. A civil union provides certain legal protection. I am just telling you were religious ceromony originated. There was once no paper, no clerk of court, no lawyers...people would walk out under the open sky and vow themselves to one another...so, why should we now feel such an affection for a hijacked ceromony? I do not see why the Government should control it. Allow people to control their own lives. If two wish to be joined, allow them to do so in whatever manner they deem fit. Be it religious, spiritual, magical...or even comical
Not in all states. Georgia is one state that does not recognize common law...and there are several other states as well. Cases usually come up in family disputes where a jilted husband or wife learns of a mate living with someone and actually has a warrant issued. Cases have been adjudicated in the courts. I am talking about two people who are not married to others, who decide they want to live together. Who can stop them? I toldyou there is a law against cohabitation. If someone...let's say a disgruntle ex-spouse wanted to stir ****...all he/she owuld have to do is go to the local sheriff's office and file a complaint. The warrant would be take out and served. There would be a court date...then , there would have to be some show of evidence, but, could be proven and has been before. There are ways around it...and this in not a common occurence, but the law is still on the books and can be enforced. |
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The Government needs to get out of people's bedrooms
HA! you got that right No1
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Marriage originated as a religious ceromony and was taken over by the government to make it a legal one.
But if you could only marry within the auspices of religion, then non-religious people would not be allowed to marry. That hardly seems fair. A civil union provides certain legal protection. I am just telling you were religious ceromony originated. There was once no paper, no clerk of court, no lawyers...people would walk out under the open sky and vow themselves to one another...so, why should we now feel such an affection for a hijacked ceromony? I do not see why the Government should control it. Allow people to control their own lives. If two wish to be joined, allow them to do so in whatever manner they deem fit. Be it religious, spiritual, magical...or even comical
Not in all states. Georgia is one state that does not recognize common law...and there are several other states as well. Cases usually come up in family disputes where a jilted husband or wife learns of a mate living with someone and actually has a warrant issued. Cases have been adjudicated in the courts. I am talking about two people who are not married to others, who decide they want to live together. Who can stop them? I toldyou there is a law against cohabitation. If someone...let's say a disgruntle ex-spouse wanted to stir ****...all he/she owuld have to do is go to the local sheriff's office and file a complaint. The warrant would be take out and served. There would be a court date...then , there would have to be some show of evidence, but, could be proven and has been before. There are ways around it...and this in not a common occurence, but the law is still on the books and can be enforced. Note to Self: Stay North of the Mason-Dixon. |
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Edited by
Rapunzel
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Tue 06/17/08 02:45 PM
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The Government needs to get out of people's bedrooms
yes that is true... however... Marriage was first a <God ordained> covenant & ceremony
 that really has nothing to do with the government
and on another note...
porn people need to find tons of class & decency... 
they need to find real self respect & integrity 
and quit < trying> to capitalize on everything
and quit trying to turn everything 
that should be beautiful, sacred & private 
into something dirty, naughty & nasty 
& quit splattering their filth all over the media
and quit infiltrating the entire world wide web with such filthy disgusting trash
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Note to Self: Stay North of the Mason-Dixon. Yup, it is really creepy and kind of appalling this day and age. |
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Yup, it is really creepy and kind of appalling this day and age.
Thanks for schooling me..I learned something today. |
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it use to be something special that lasts....now i think people think of marriage as a joke...i work in a law office and a few of our lawyers do family law...if half of these ppl would fight for their marriage like they do over pointless stuff so the other one can't have it, it still would
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