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CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Thu 05/08/08 05:37 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. My ex-husband used to make me watch porn against my will.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 05/08/08 05:37 AM
If you are in a relationship with some one do you want that person to fix something,what is your desire from a mate? I want caring and compassion, but I don't want someone to dote on me, I don't expect them to "take care of me" I expect support, not domination. I totaly understand. I only wanted to understand where you were comeing from. Not everything can be fixed by someone else. That's my point... in the movie "White men can't jump" Rozie Perez says "When I tell you I'm thirsty, I don't want you to get me a glass of water, I want you to say 'I too know what it's like to thirst'" Now that a stupid example, cuz quite frankly I wouldn't mind you getting me a glass of water. But when I say I'm sad/mad/angry/happy... those are my issues, and there is nothing you can do to "fix" it. I just got out of 15 years of "fixing" things. I'm trying to find someone that I don't have to fix things for. I'm not a Maytag repairman. I have NO desire to fix anything any more. Ok girls - I found one that has been cured!

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Thu 05/08/08 05:37 AM
I'll take "Great American Linguists" for $500 Alex. (see: Thread, This) Born to a farm family in 1973, she found stardom on a website called JSH.

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Thu 05/08/08 05:38 AM
If you are in a relationship with some one do you want that person to fix something,what is your desire from a mate? I want caring and compassion, but I don't want someone to dote on me, I don't expect them to "take care of me" I expect support, not domination. I totaly understand. I only wanted to understand where you were comeing from. Not everything can be fixed by someone else. That's my point... in the movie "White men can't jump" Rozie Perez says "When I tell you I'm thirsty, I don't want you to get me a glass of water, I want you to say 'I too know what it's like to thirst'" Now that a stupid example, cuz quite frankly I wouldn't mind you getting me a glass of water. But when I say I'm sad/mad/angry/happy... those are my issues, and there is nothing you can do to "fix" it. I just got out of 15 years of "fixing" things. I'm trying to find someone that I don't have to fix things for. I'm not a Maytag repairman. I have NO desire to fix anything any more. You didn't work at the track I hope.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Thu 05/08/08 05:38 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now....

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 05/08/08 05:40 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later....

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Thu 05/08/08 05:42 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... Sandra Bullock will play you in the big screen adaptation.

smuflicker Joined Mon 08/06/07 Posts: 4019	Thu 05/08/08 05:44 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Thu 05/08/08 05:44 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... Sandra Bullock will play you in the big screen adaptation. Marissa Tomai can play me then.....

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Thu 05/08/08 05:45 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that. absolutely... but to get mad when someone expresses their feelings because they can't "fix" them...is ridiculous.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Thu 05/08/08 05:49 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that. absolutely... but to get mad when someone expresses their feelings because they can't "fix" them...is ridiculous. I was thinking arrogant, but ridiculous covers that. It's just plain ignorant to think you can "fix" emotions, you can help them along by listening or perhaps more IF asked but to outright think that something you say or do will magically "fix" anything is stupid...sorry I'm blunt like that.

smuflicker Joined Mon 08/06/07 Posts: 4019	Thu 05/08/08 05:49 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that. absolutely... but to get mad when someone expresses their feelings because they can't "fix" them...is ridiculous. Yes i totaly agree. that falls into someone wanting to control,have control and that is wrong. Everyone has to be their own person. You can't just go controling everything someone else does or feels.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 05/08/08 05:50 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that. absolutely... but to get mad when someone expresses their feelings because they can't "fix" them...is ridiculous. I was thinking arrogant, but ridiculous covers that. It's just plain ignorant to think you can "fix" emotions, you can help them along by listening or perhaps more IF asked but to outright think that something you say or do will magically "fix" anything is stupid...sorry I'm blunt like that. I love your bluntness, goat man

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Thu 05/08/08 05:51 AM
I was thinking arrogant, but ridiculous covers that. It's just plain ignorant to think you can "fix" emotions, you can help them along by listening or perhaps more IF asked but to outright think that something you say or do will magically "fix" anything is stupid...sorry I'm blunt like that. While you are fixing the emoitcons... can you add a few? angel with a halo one begging on one knee one with an eye flutter oh emotions... not emoticons.. never mind.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Thu 05/08/08 05:51 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that. absolutely... but to get mad when someone expresses their feelings because they can't "fix" them...is ridiculous. I was thinking arrogant, but ridiculous covers that. It's just plain ignorant to think you can "fix" emotions, you can help them along by listening or perhaps more IF asked but to outright think that something you say or do will magically "fix" anything is stupid...sorry I'm blunt like that. I love your bluntness, goat man Aye, 'nd I love de goots hiker.

CleanBathroom Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5544	Thu 05/08/08 05:53 AM
I got Tomai poisoning once from a can of diced shallots.

smuflicker Joined Mon 08/06/07 Posts: 4019	Thu 05/08/08 05:54 AM
I was thinking arrogant, but ridiculous covers that. It's just plain ignorant to think you can "fix" emotions, you can help them along by listening or perhaps more IF asked but to outright think that something you say or do will magically "fix" anything is stupid...sorry I'm blunt like that. While you are fixing the emoitcons... can you add a few? angel with a halo one begging on one knee one with an eye flutter oh emotions... not emoticons.. never mind. lol thats funny Lily

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 05/08/08 05:54 AM
Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... No you can't fix someone else's emotions but i think that you can be sinceative to it,or something like that. absolutely... but to get mad when someone expresses their feelings because they can't "fix" them...is ridiculous. I was thinking arrogant, but ridiculous covers that. It's just plain ignorant to think you can "fix" emotions, you can help them along by listening or perhaps more IF asked but to outright think that something you say or do will magically "fix" anything is stupid...sorry I'm blunt like that. I love your bluntness, goat man Aye, 'nd I love de goots hiker.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Thu 05/08/08 05:55 AM
I got Tomai poisoning once from a can of diced shallots. You're a diced shallot...

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 05/08/08 05:55 AM
I got Tomai poisoning once from a can of diced shallots. oooh - I hate when that happens!