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Topic: Honest People
Snoman1951 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 5731	Fri 05/02/08 05:12 AM
Honesty..hard time just remembering facts,never remember lies some ppl. just can't laugh at themselves

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Fri 05/02/08 05:13 AM
Do you think it is better to be honest or to sugar-coat things with lies? I very much want honesty and as soon as possible, so that I can make choices for my well-being and sanity, make level-headed choices. After having been with a compulsive liar in my life years ago, I am extremely inquisitive and will not tolerate lies. I'd rather hear an ugly truth than unearth a lie later. Better to know ASAP. hello suzzette, goodmorning to you Hey, Michael!! What are you doing up this early!!!!???? my nephew and his girlfriend came over just now getting ready to go to bed,lol

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Fri 05/02/08 05:14 AM
You are right, Fran. That is what I am seeing. And some people get overtly hostile if you don't agree. They should have a disclaimer for threads "Only those who agree may post" hmmm wonder where I have heard that, but it very appropriate in this setting. People want to post questions but already have the answer for you, WTF!!! lmao Feel free to agree to disagree with me Hiker and be as blunt as you want, I will not melt nor wither and die. The truth shall always prevail I have lots of friends on here, Fran, and we don't always agree. We have butted heads on different issues but we respected the other's right to have a different opinion. That is all I ask. I can disagree with you and still love you to death. Hiker, I find myself posting less and less because of it. I'm kind of missing the fun factor it used to have; debates, jokes and good old fun. I agree to disagree with anyone/everyone (I do have my own opinions and life experiences) Fran

joshyfox Joined Fri 08/18/06 Posts: 4272	Fri 05/02/08 05:14 AM
It seems to me that there is a disadvantage to being too honest. Some people mistake your honesty for hostility, for one thing. Other people have carefully crafted lies that they live with and they resent the intrusion of your logic. On the other hand, there are some people who act very sweet and nice but when you don't agree with them, they get testy. When you do try to discuss things on their merits, they call you names and imply that you are just being nasty. Do you think it is better to be honest or to sugar-coat things with lies? Being honest is the best way, I don't lie, not even to sugar-coat the truth. I don't tell them everything if i think it might hurt them, or I warn them ahead of time that they won't like it. That's something called tact and honest people learn how to use this or they give up and become dishonest.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 05/02/08 05:15 AM
Silly, I am not the compulsive liar. My ex-husband was!! Actually, he still is........ I re-read and edited!

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Fri 05/02/08 05:16 AM
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littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Fri 05/02/08 05:16 AM
You are right, Fran. That is what I am seeing. And some people get overtly hostile if you don't agree. They should have a disclaimer for threads "Only those who agree may post" hmmm wonder where I have heard that, but it very appropriate in this setting. People want to post questions but already have the answer for you, WTF!!! lmao Feel free to agree to disagree with me Hiker and be as blunt as you want, I will not melt nor wither and die. The truth shall always prevail I have lots of friends on here, Fran, and we don't always agree. We have butted heads on different issues but we respected the other's right to have a different opinion. That is all I ask. I can disagree with you and still love you to death. Then you and your friends are kindred spirits who obviously understand each other,not to mention being grown up enough to agree to disagree. its great to have 2 spirits that are alined

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 05/02/08 05:17 AM
You are right, Fran. That is what I am seeing. And some people get overtly hostile if you don't agree. They should have a disclaimer for threads "Only those who agree may post" hmmm wonder where I have heard that, but it very appropriate in this setting. People want to post questions but already have the answer for you, WTF!!! lmao Feel free to agree to disagree with me Hiker and be as blunt as you want, I will not melt nor wither and die. The truth shall always prevail I have lots of friends on here, Fran, and we don't always agree. We have butted heads on different issues but we respected the other's right to have a different opinion. That is all I ask. I can disagree with you and still love you to death. Hiker, I find myself posting less and less because of it. I'm kind of missing the fun factor it used to have; debates, jokes and good old fun. I agree to disagree with anyone/everyone (I do have my own opinions and life experiences) Believe me, I had a few really good lines that I wasted because I was afraid to stir things up. It takes a lot of the fun out of it when you can't just be witty without people taking offense.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Fri 05/02/08 05:19 AM
maybe we can have our own forums - only thick skinned allowed must have sense of humor must realize this is the internet must be able to laugh at one's self

BonnyMiss Joined Thu 05/10/07 Posts: 15342	Fri 05/02/08 05:19 AM
You are right, Fran. That is what I am seeing. And some people get overtly hostile if you don't agree. They should have a disclaimer for threads "Only those who agree may post" hmmm wonder where I have heard that, but it very appropriate in this setting. People want to post questions but already have the answer for you, WTF!!! lmao Feel free to agree to disagree with me Hiker and be as blunt as you want, I will not melt nor wither and die. The truth shall always prevail I have lots of friends on here, Fran, and we don't always agree. We have butted heads on different issues but we respected the other's right to have a different opinion. That is all I ask. I can disagree with you and still love you to death. Hiker, I find myself posting less and less because of it. I'm kind of missing the fun factor it used to have; debates, jokes and good old fun. I agree to disagree with anyone/everyone (I do have my own opinions and life experiences) Believe me, I had a few really good lines that I wasted because I was afraid to stir things up. It takes a lot of the fun out of it when you can't just be witty without people taking offense. Same here, the amount of times I have had to bite my tongue..........

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/02/08 05:19 AM
Tactfully honest if possible! If that's sugar coating, then maybe I do. I may play with suggestive statements if I'm riled enough, but never name call. I think it's incredibly immature and distasteful. I did it once when I was young and will not do it again.

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Fri 05/02/08 05:20 AM
Honesty..hard time just remembering facts,never remember lies some ppl. just can't laugh at themselves lol at littleike

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Fri 05/02/08 05:20 AM
Silly, I am not the compulsive liar. My ex-husband was!! Actually, he still is........ I re-read and edited! Yeah, Hiker, I guess I was writing as you were editing. That happens!! No biggie.... and you never know. I could have an evil twin dwelling within who would abuse your PIN !!!

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 05/02/08 05:25 AM
Tactfully honest if possible! If that's sugar coating, then maybe I do. I may play with suggestive statements if I'm riled enough, but never name call. I think it's incredibly immature and distasteful. I did it once when I was young and will not do it again. I think name calling is rude. I just like to say what I think about a topic. In general, I want to comment on a topic, not on the person who posted it; and I like to use "I" statements. "I think", "I feel", etc. not, "You are.." And still people take offense.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 05/02/08 05:25 AM
Silly, I am not the compulsive liar. My ex-husband was!! Actually, he still is........ I re-read and edited! Yeah, Hiker, I guess I was writing as you were editing. That happens!! No biggie.... and you never know. I could have an evil twin dwelling within who would abuse your PIN !!! I'll get that PIN to ya via e-mail

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Fri 05/02/08 05:27 AM
Tactfully honest if possible! If that's sugar coating, then maybe I do. I may play with suggestive statements if I'm riled enough, but never name call. I think it's incredibly immature and distasteful. I did it once when I was young and will not do it again. I think name calling is rude. I just like to say what I think about a topic. In general, I want to comment on a topic, not on the person who posted it; and I like to use "I" statements. "I think", "I feel", etc. not, "You are.." And still people take offense. Well I think "YOU" rock!!!!! 'I' always get annoyed with people who cannot speak/type/express themselves in the first person.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Fri 05/02/08 05:27 AM
maybe we can have our own forums - only thick skinned allowed must have sense of humor must realize this is the internet must be able to laugh at one's self I can't believe you would say something like thst, who do you thinnk you are calling me thin skinned....

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Fri 05/02/08 05:27 AM
Tactfully honest if possible! If that's sugar coating, then maybe I do. I may play with suggestive statements if I'm riled enough, but never name call. I think it's incredibly immature and distasteful. I did it once when I was young and will not do it again. I think name calling is rude. I just like to say what I think about a topic. In general, I want to comment on a topic, not on the person who posted it; and I like to use "I" statements. "I think", "I feel", etc. not, "You are.." And still people take offense. i,i,i,i,i,i,i,i,i,i,i, second that......sory guys i am in a silly mood

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Fri 05/02/08 05:29 AM
Tactfully honest if possible! If that's sugar coating, then maybe I do. I may play with suggestive statements if I'm riled enough, but never name call. I think it's incredibly immature and distasteful. I did it once when I was young and will not do it again. I think name calling is rude. I just like to say what I think about a topic. In general, I want to comment on a topic, not on the person who posted it; and I like to use "I" statements. "I think", "I feel", etc. not, "You are.." And still people take offense. i,i,i,i,i,i,i,i,i,i,i, second that......sory guys i am in a silly mood silly is fine. It's the pissy people who get on my nerves!

MyrtleBeachDude Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 4028	Fri 05/02/08 05:29 AM
Sometimes it's ok to sugarcoat. I did that last night with a woman who has a brain tumor. I was driving past her house on my golfcart and stopped to say hello. She lives near Raliegh NC but also owns a home in the same resort as me. Her name is Daisy and she was crying because she took her last treatment of kemo this week and it broke out a rash on her body. She has to wear a wig and all of a sudden she has broken out with these little red bumps all over her body. She was upset because she wanted to go to the beach today. I told her that no one would notice the rash and if they started staring, just yank the wig off and slap em with it. That should scare the hell out of em. But I did keep reassuring her that no one would notice her rash. Poor woman is only 40 years old. She just now called me and asked if she could borrow a few of my beach chairs so I guess it worked.