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Topic: Is it rude ?
adventureman64 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 37	Wed 10/15/14 04:47 PM
While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ?

Scoobert Joined Sat 09/28/13 Posts: 12895	Wed 10/15/14 04:49 PM
No, because no answer is an answer, without being rude.

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Wed 10/15/14 04:52 PM
I dont think so.....it is a message in its self.....I'm not gonna waste my time returning every message I get...

funkyfranky Joined Tue 05/01/12 Posts: 5966	Wed 10/15/14 04:52 PM
While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ? No it's not. Like you say, silence itself is a reply. Good Luck

stan_147 Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 3442	Wed 10/15/14 04:53 PM
Ahhh.... on another site, that I was a poster on, we had a saying, that became a mantra. No response IS a response. I will add, that in lieu of being ignored, would you prefer a 5000-word essay on just why you are not that persons type? Even when I have sent a polite "no thank you" or "sorry, I'm not interested." I get back a scathing retort calling me all sorts of stuff and insulting my heritage. The women have it much, much worse.

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Wed 10/15/14 04:54 PM
Nope. If people would read profiles before sending an initial message (yanno, to see if there's anything in common TO warrant contact), they'd probably discover why others are so rude as to not reply. Rather rude of them to presume others should read and reply to their messages when they can't be bothered to read themselves, don't you agree?

SDSCFof2 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 21324	Wed 10/15/14 04:55 PM
While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ? no its not rude at all. i dont respond to messages constantly.

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 04:56 PM
Nope. If people would read profiles before sending an initial message (yanno, to see if there's anything in common TO warrant contact), they'd probably discover why others are so rude as to not reply. Rather rude of them to presume others should read and reply to their messages when they can't be bothered to read themselves, don't you agree? I agree.

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21258	Wed 10/15/14 05:00 PM
No comment

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 05:04 PM
No comment No reply IS a reply. Also, no comment IS a comment.

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Wed 10/15/14 05:05 PM
Nope not rude. Like others have said, no answer is an answer.

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Wed 10/15/14 05:07 PM
No comment Brilliant. Fricken brilliant. From now on, I will reply to every single "Hai! U R sew secksy" message with "No comment." I will have fulfilled my end of the social contract which obligates me TO reply (lest I appear "rude" to a man who has spoken to me) AND delivered the all-important: "No reply IS a reply" message, loud and clear.

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21258	Wed 10/15/14 05:08 PM
No comment No reply IS a reply. Also, no comment IS a comment.

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21258	Wed 10/15/14 05:12 PM
No comment Brilliant. Fricken brilliant. From now on, I will reply to every single "Hai! U R sew secksy" message with "No comment." Just doin' my small part to help make humanity a better place. . Peace and love.

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 05:17 PM
I have sent a message to someone by mistake. Wrong click! Thanks God this person was "rude" not to reply. See, it's not all bad, right?

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Wed 10/15/14 05:18 PM
While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ? No, it is not being rude. What is rude is insisting that people have a duty or an obligation to reply to messages sent by complete strangers.

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Wed 10/15/14 05:20 PM
While not replying to a message is one form of an answer because it shows a lack of interest, is it also being rude ? No, it is not being rude. What is rude is insisting that people have a duty or an obligation to reply to messages sent by complete strangers. Perhaps, but I'll use RockGnome's answer (no comment)just to see what happens. It is going to be interesting for sure.

Diwata06 Joined Wed 10/08/14 Posts: 223	Wed 10/15/14 05:22 PM
Nope. If people would read profiles before sending an initial message (yanno, to see if there's anything in common TO warrant contact), they'd probably discover why others are so rude as to not reply. Rather rude of them to presume others should read and reply to their messages when they can't be bothered to read themselves, don't you agree? I agree. ...agree!

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 10/15/14 05:23 PM
you know what.. when I first got on to m2.. I was so excited to get a message... yay I have mail..lol... .... but then I started to realize... . when you engage with somebody... you are opening a door for them to walk into whenever they want.. literally..... so you message me.. and then realize we're not a match... now you have to tell me that... somehow... without hurting my feelings.... or having me assume.. there is something wrong with me... Ok.. smart *****.. there is something wrong with me...lmao... so after a while... you come to the conclusion.. . it's best not to return all messages... .. and yes it is rude.... I mean I was raised to believe.. if somebody is speaking to you you should listen and reply... but online rules are a little different.. that is even viewing someone... can be an issue.. they view your profile.. you view their profile... realize they are not a match.... now they know you viewed them....sooooo....hmmm.... you can see where I'm going with this...lol.. .

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Wed 10/15/14 05:27 PM
Saying that it is rude not to reply to unsolicited mail from a complete stranger is akin to saying that it is rude not answer your phone when a telemarketer calls.